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Amy in Lebanon, NJ
Nov. 16, 2018

What are the pitfalls of inviting a stranger into my elderly parent's home?

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Certainly having a stranger in one's home can be daunting situation. Background checks may be helpful, but sitting down with someone face to face can reveal true intentions if one is observant.

I would agree with that; if it 'feels' icky, it's icky. Make your choice on your intuition, what does your gut tell you? It will always speak the truth. Good luck! Lee Ann Urban

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Get references and hire caregivers with local relatives, friends and talk to them until you feel safe with your instincts too. Hire older caregivers, veterans, etc.

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Always meet in a neutral location, never in your parents home. Prepare for interviewing by writing the questions out and writing the answers down. Ask them to tell you about themselves. If they can't do that intelligently, then score them low. Watch how they shake your hand. I believe in a firm and professional hand shake. If they give you a fish shake, score them low. Make sure they look you in the eye when interviewing. Also, and finally, ask them for at least 3 - 5 references and ask if they are on social media.

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Jen in Henrietta, NY
Dec. 10, 2018

Where does one begin. Safety! Theft! Elder abuse! It's your loved one and it's a scary world out there! So, check check check the person you hire. Call your local sheriffs office and the sheriffs office in the county they live in and see if they are known in community for any reason, most places won't give you a problem if so just walk in there and they will let you know the real story!

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I have had to hire other caregivers to take care of my mother, the first thing I learned was to meet a caregiver outside your home, a coffee place, etc. It's better to be on neutral ground at first meet. Some questions I asked were for references, and phone numbers you can call. I called several before I decided. Ask what their interest are, hobbies, and why they want to care for your loved one. Experience is very important. Go to the library and rent a book on what caregivers should do while in your home, always do a back round check. Put all valuables away. I myself take pictures of things in people's homes first, it protects me and my client. Hope this helps.

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Make sure you see their Background Check. They have to give you permission to view it. It costs them $60, but it got me all my initial cleaning jobs. After that, my clients reco'd me to their friends/family. The Background Check is key. I wouldn't hire someone without it. If they're not willing to spend $60, you have to ask yourself what have they got to hide?? Hope this helps.

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Amanda in Addison, MI
Dec. 10, 2018

Personally, if I were hiring someone to come into my home or the home of an elderly loved one, or to care for my children, I would invest in a surveillance system. And feel free to inform those you hire that a surveillance system is in place. There are a number of affordable options and many systems can be configured with a smart phone so that you can access the goings on in real time from wherever you are. I've been working private duty home care for 5+ years. Particularly when you are hiring individuals who are not licensed or certified, people tend to get comfortable in a home setting and it's easy for the lines of appropriateness to become blurred.

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Lori in Naples, FL
Nov. 22, 2018

You should be cautious when bringing in a care giver who is not known to you. Nurses must be licensed by the state and you can easily look them up on a free public website with their license number. An individual must be in good standing and compliance with drug-free and morality back ground screenings every time they renew their license (every two years). It is always a good idea to find a professional nurse caregiver as their licensure and work history speak clearly of their character. Your family deserves respect and excellent care; generally I find that when people get help as cheaply as possible they are unsatisfied at best.

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There are many dangers. When I become responsible for an elderly person it is as if I was taking care of my own parents and I do it whith respect and always thinking about their safety.

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It is a good idea to meet the person before they are contracted to see if they connects with the person they are going to take care of. The good aspect of bring a caregiver into an elder's home is that he care is personalized and most people are more comfortable being an environment that is they know ,on a contrary of being in nursing home or assisted living facility. However, the pitfall of have in-home care is that there is not as many medical professional around compared to a senior living facility. It depends on the health of each individual and the type of care they are wishing to receive.

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Do a background check and call references. Not every dishonest caregiver has been prosecuted--most have not. I have hired many caregivers for vulnerable low-income seniors of County aging services. I noticed some who were very engaged and some that seemed disengaged that clients were still willing to try. I found that there is no face/type for theft. If you don't have a strong gut feeling for people, ask someone who does join the interview. My gut was always right. There are others who also have this sense.

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Sue in Castalia, OH
Nov. 30, 2018

I believe that a person should have a background check. This includes an FBI check. I had this last done in 2017. Also, look up questions to ask that will reveal the person's lifestyle and character.

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User in Palo Alto, CA
Nov. 30, 2018

First of all , the Caregivers can be in danger too...... on Craigslist , lots of predators are Caregiver have to be careful when looking for job. Also people who want to hire a caregiver for their sick elderly ? most of the time they are NOT telling you the truth..for example a sick elderly with Alzheimer's Dementia ? the family member are just playing domb about the "Stages" of this mental illness..I have experience and I know what I am talking about...It's means a lot when they have to pay for the service......Very important to know ; , if they are not offering job on the 2nd or 3rd interview ,after the potential Caregiver interviewing them too, except the job and pay ??? a client has NO legal right to do background check on you!!!!.;,making copy of Drivers License , DoB an more .THAT IS AGAINS THE LAW..Caregivers you have to know what is your legal right...Do NOT be very desperate to get a job...first of all they NEED YOU.!!!!! to get a job down , wash the shit and dealing with mentally ill ma or pa with diapers on with mood swings , be a maid ,housecleaner and more???...for peanuts ????..what a shame

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I would have them provide me with their profile this would included 3 references along with a criminal background check, diver licenses review. I would also have a phone interview and then if that was acceptable we would move on to a face to face interview and the last interview would include the senior who the care is being provided for and the family members that make their decisions.

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Trust. References from previous employers.

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Damaris in Anoka, MN
Nov. 28, 2018

My simple and straight forward answer, do not accept a stranger to your home to take care of you elderly parent without advice stranger prober process of background through care.com

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Marva in Greer, SC
Nov. 28, 2018

HELLO YOU DO A BACKGROUND CHECK ON ALL INDIVIDUALS. YOU MAY SPEND A DAY WITH THEM AND GET A SENSE OF WHAT THEY ARE LIKE,

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Wesna in Rosedale, NY
Nov. 28, 2018

look for how many years experience. if they have 20 to 30 they love what they do.

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All of the responses given here are good, but I also think you need to follow your instincts. If you feel there is something wrong, don't take any chances. If you are unable to check up on how things are going, ask a trusted friend or relative to make impromptu visits. When my grandmother had a live-in aide, she lived in Florida. We couldn't be there to check up on her, so one of our cousins would stop over (unannounced). Fortunately, the woman who worked with my grandmother was wonderful.

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User in Henderson, NV
Nov. 28, 2018

Check professional reference by company.

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check numerous references. Go to their house for a quick visit. That will tell you what you need to know. Do it unannounced of course.

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Ask for a phone interview, ask pertanent questions Ex. Experience level, can the applicant or is the applicant willing to provide references, background check LEVEL2 or they can obtain a local one from the police in the county/state where they live, also there driving record, auto insuance, SS#, any any medical licensure is completely acceptable to have provided to you in the vetting process before hiring. If you don't feel comfortable doing a face-to-face interview at your home have them meet you at a Panera or Starbucks, a lot of people do this for privacy/safety/vetting purposes.

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Anna in Camino, CA
Nov. 25, 2018

Make sure they give you access to the background check and driving record. Have a face to face interview in a neutral location for the first time. If all checks out, introductions to the elderly should be supervised and both parties should get a pretty good read to see if it is the best fit. For safety, it can be wise to do surprise check-ins during the first 2 weeks of a new hire. Always make sure the elder is 100% comfortable with the new caregiver! All the best!

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The pitfalls are that they are not taking proper care of your loved one. The other could be theft. I would suggest that family take any valuables and narcotics (just leave limited number in home) until you get to know the caregiver better. Get the car tag #, just in case.

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You can screen caregivers in a variety of ways. 1. Check their background report. 2. Take a good look at their relevant experience and ask questions. 3. consider starting with a phone interview and prepare questions ahead of time. 4. If they have made it this far, ask for a face to face interview ( you can usually get a good feel for someone this way) The pitfalls of inviting a stranger into the home of your parent can make people nervous, but using Care.com helps elevate those pitfalls. Care.com provides a safe way to avoid these pitfalls through many of the items mentioned above (reference check, background check, reviews etc)

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By the law it is not allowed at all. Never ever take advantages from the elderly. They are venerable.

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Sue in Waco, TX
Nov. 25, 2018

Separate question and not sure how or where to post it -- Do I have to pay for membership in order for families to respond to my application? Is there ANY way they can reply to me without my paying for a subscription? Sue

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Worked for interim health care for five e years. Please call for recommendation. Family has business ties in community for many years. Pitfalls might be theft or mistreatment. Recommendation, recommendation, recommendation,

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Make sure they have a background check and valid drivers License

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I personally would contact the references.

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You talk to them in the phone and ask them some simple questions.By the voice alone and the way they respond to you ;you`ll know their perosonality ;or if you want you can meet them personally and youll be able to see their facial expression and gestures the type of personality they have.

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Just give me a call and I'll tell you how I do mine. (904 four 8 zero 8 one 6 four.

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Celeste in Norton, MA
Nov. 22, 2018

I think it's necessary to do a thorough background check, even if you feel said applicant is "the one". Check out their social media accounts, if possible. I wouldn't base my decision to hire a caregiver solely on the content of their Facebook profile, (although I am sure there are probably great exceptions to this statement) but I believe social media gives a low resolution snapshot of their character.

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I would use the care.com messaging first this would allow me to gather information if that went well. I would then make sure there was a criminal background check on file for my viewing. This can be provided through care.com .Then have them send a copy of their drivers licenses. The last step I would setup a meeting in a public place to see if they would be a good fit for my family member. I would also request a background check and a copy of their drivers license for my safety. I hope these suggestions help you.

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Jen in Henrietta, NY
Nov. 21, 2018

First off I want to let everyone know a background check simply means that person has not been "charged with elder abuse or a crime, it does not mean they are not still a danger to you and your loved ones. I agree meet in a public place, do not ask for references in advance, ask for them in public and then you get the truth. It's so easy to get references that are fake. Pay attention to body language and dress. Just bc they are different looking does not mean they are a bad candidate.  Pay attention if they are fidgeting the entire time, will they make eye contact, yes these are all things that people with anxiety may display as well but test them. Example-see how they walk by someone if they step aside or plow through, are they unsure of a lot of the simple, life questions you ask them? You don't need a background check, fingerprints or the Police. You need to pay attention to detail and use your GUT feeling. Never ignore it. Keep in mind interviews are stressful and nerve wrecking but a distinct difference exists between nerves and "they just want a job." Ask them questions conversational style like "you must really like children as I saw you watched those three little girls for 2 years on your resume, your a saint(knowing it was 2 little girls not 3 or adding in extra information to see if they go along with it." So, if you make it a conversation style interview not a drill sergeant style interview, nerves will clearly be weeded out. I did interviews for admission to nursing school for 4 years and I was wrong once. Body language. Dress. Ease of conversing with them, etc. Never was I wrong except once and I learned from it, but I still feel you need nothing but someone who knows people or studied psych like myself to know what your getting into. And if it's too good to be true....RUN! Any questions you have send me an email or message on chat, I enjoy the study of folks and especially when it involves care for a loved one-no room for error. I know I may sound like a hard person but let me tell you how first hand I have seen some of the most slick people get jobs and no one batted an eye. It's sad to say but this world does have good but you must do alot more checking on your own. I have been burned by taking folks for face value and I'm not saying thats always wrong, but safety is the most important thing and I'm sorry if its your mom or mine I am the same way. Call me old school or call me realistic. Thanks for reading please be careful!

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April in Wauseon, OH
Nov. 21, 2018

First time going into a home for the elderly parents can be stressful. But my job is to get to know them and tell them i am there for them and them only.

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It's important to ask specific and verifiable questions regarding the persons past employment/experience.

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User in Cabot, PA
Nov. 21, 2018

Being late first time meeting with the family. Smoker or booze oder on them.Additude Slopy looking .

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User in Craig, CO
Nov. 20, 2018

Well hopefully before they push apply they are also clicking on the background check also. Sometimes they don't like change, for example caregivers switching hours or one quitting. It is better for the family to hire someone that looks a lot like the one they just hired so they are not irritated by change.

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checking their background history and taking extra precuation

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Hello, That is a great question. I have found as a Caregiver myself meeting in a publix place first after a phone screen moving forward is best and safe. After feeling the candidate out and you get the feel for him OR her at that point. Then move forward and bring them home to meet the loved one(s).

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Make sure you read their background check call their references

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Mary in New Hill, NC
Nov. 19, 2018

With proper ID or a criminal background check,there are dangers of hiring a unclarified person.That could endanger your elderly parents health and well being.

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Latisha in Canby, OR
Nov. 19, 2018

meet somewhere public first to interview before allowing them access to you personal life

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Leslie in Hyannis, MA
Nov. 18, 2018

You can always ask to meet somewhere for a first interview. Dunkin' Donuts seems to be a popular choice, in my experience!

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Ask them as many questions as possible through email until you feel comfortable that this is a person you would possibly consider wanting to even interview for this position. Thereafter invite them for an interview either at a designated public location or if comfortable enough have them come to the place they will be caring for patient. For the interview process ask even more detailed questions and pay attention to body language and tone of voice for any red flags. Ask for all required information to do your own personal background check along with the one they may have already here on their profile. If you feel necessary haven them sign some simple contracted paper work regarding confidentiality agreement, outlined rules and regulations, and if desired a term of service agreement. In some cases there may also be a need to do a drug screening just to clear your suspicions.

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User in Tucson, AZ
Nov. 18, 2018

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Judith in Lecanto, FL
Nov. 17, 2018

Meet in a public location, view the auto, look inside the auto, request personal references and follow up on the references.

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User in Bedford, TX
Dec. 11, 2018

Don't go-in with feeing negatives. Understand that you have chosen the right person to do the heart-work - and if it doesn't work out... move on to another person and don't dwell on the past. We live through our experiences, feeling better about ourselves.

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no .. no strangers are allowed

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Brenda in Modesto, CA
Dec. 11, 2018

If i was screening a caregiver to work in my home. I would talk with her, read her resume,checkout her references. Then I would bring her into my home to meet the person she'd be caring for to see if they seem to be a good fit. Then you'd have a great feel for if she's going to be a good fit for this job. Brenda

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A potential prospect Must have no less than 75-hours of college training Two years at least experience NO phone time nor TV Time during working hours and criminal record screening. Important is to have drivers license clean driver record and Insurance as protection you should be included in the face page of the policy

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talk to their refrences.

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Well, Care.com is a good start. Both parties have the opportunity to chat or text through their program without giving out their private numbers. This is a safe bet. Then, say a little prayer and listen to your gut. You may just wish to do initial person to person interview at an agreed to public restaurant the first time. (Make a morning or afternoon out of it). You have every right to be cautious in this day and age. I would encourage that actually. Perfectly understandable.

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User in Spokane, WA
Dec. 6, 2018

I would meet potential care-givers at a public place for the initial meeting, there you can get their resume, or application along with schooling, and references. Go home and thoroughly go through the applicants information, and make inquiries to references, and previous employers. After you do these things you should be able to make at least an educated decision.

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Very good question- CHECK REFRENCES!! Make sure to get as many as the caregiver is willing to provide. I personally am happy to give references... The quality of the reviews regarding the work they did for previous employers will give you the most valuable information! Good Luck!

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You are taking a risk no matter what.. Think of it like this.. They are going to wind up In the home anyways, right? Inviting a stranger into your home is just as big a gamble for them as it is for you.

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