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my daddy has early dementia and his health is failing! We have inhouse care for him right now but not sure how long that will last. My question

is what are some steps to take to get ready for a nursing home???

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Good Morning my name is MaryBeth my Mother suffered from Dementia I took care of my Mother in her home from 11/03/03 until she passed 4/11/2017 I didn't think it would turn into 14 years  but I have no regrets I 24/7 know with her being in her own home made it bet/ter she tought I was her sister & that's ok  I just didnt't want to put her in a nursing home but each family if different I would sugggest go and take tours of Nursing Homes see what they have to help your Father. Nursing home also offer respite care however many days you would like they will take Dad's SS but at the end of the stay you get it back Hope this helps 

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Jessica in Havelock, NC
April 16, 2019

Speaking from some major experience while doing rounds IN a nursing home: 1. Really really check out the rooms. Look at the walls, beds,and floors. Do you see bugs, dirty windows? Does the room smell? 2. TALK to the nurses. Do they seem tired? Indifferent? Caring? ASK about the nurse to patient ratio. That's a major factor 3. TALK to the patients who you feel have control over their minds. They'll give you an honest opinion of the place 4. Have lunch there. You'll get a good assessment of what he/she will be eating 5. Do they have daily activities to get the residents up and moving each day? Bed sores hurt! I could go on and on.

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User in Metairie, LA
Sept. 24, 2018

Consult an estate planning attorney if there are financial and property assets. There are rules and regulations that determine what assistance you may receive depending on your estate's value. Also, more importantly, while you father can still make decisions, let him determine how he would like to distribute his possessions. It is also important to allow him to have a say as to where he would like to reside. Sometimes, group homes are an option as opposed to a nursing facility. Finally, from experience, I can say that the care he receives will be determined as to whomever is on duty at that time. Make sure the facility that you do decide to use has a good rating and always visit your father frequently and unannounced. If you do discover something amiss, make sure you bring it to the manager's attention, that the person on duty who is responsible is reported, and, if necessary, report the offense to the state authority. I made an unannounced visit to an upstanding facility that my father was in and he was already in bed and complained that his bed was wet. It was wet from the night before! Day shift made the bed with wet sheets. I was livid! Needless to say he could not stay there after the fuss I made. You have to stay on top of your father's or mother's care. You cannot depend on rotating shifts--like I said, "The care is only as good as whomever is on duty at that time." That is why if you can, keep your father in his home for as long as you can. A caring companion / caregiver or even two or three people (three 8 hour shifts) can provide better care for your father while staying in his own familiar home. Hope this helps.

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User in Frisco, TX
May 27, 2017

Wow!! Check with the local dementia center in you area. How old is your father? Much of the problem good be diet. I know that some people find that hard to believe, but there is a book I recommend to all middle age and younger get this book. The Unbreakable Brain by Will Mitchell. LAC, DOM (NM), MS Nutrition. Eating the right food is the key for a better and healthy life. This book is an eye opener. Check with Amazon I am sure they will have it. Sincerely, Ann Fisher McKinney

Jenny in Chandler, TX
April 26, 2017

Very interesting. Think I will check out the book. Thanks

Thank you very much i will check it out!!!

I personallywould try to keep him in-house as long as you can. Look into respite care. The nursing homes are not the way to go. I wish you love light and Blessings!

Tameka, Putting him in a nursing home is the last resort!! Right now my Step-brother is there at night since he lives with him (a long story) and my neice is there 3 days a week and my sister and I spend the day with him 2 days a week.His health is failing and his diabetes is out of control!!! Just want all my ducks in a row so I know what to do and how to do it when the time comes. Thanks for your blessings

User in Yelm, WA
May 27, 2017

There are so many books out that have solutions to actually reversing alzheimer's and dimentia...and i have seen people i know do it. Google for more. One that is great for that and lots of other things: The brain's way of healing is the title and it's also at Amazon and in some public libraries too.

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I would go vist all the Alzheimer units that are around you and they will guide you on the steps to take. The other alternative is have hospice come to your house.The Alzheimer's Advocacy in Tyler ia very helpful and informative. Hope yhis helped.

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User in Nutley, NJ
May 27, 2017

Well it will be smart while your Dad still home to use some time to make him ready for nursing home and figure out how he will act to the move to nursing home by may be visit someone he is in nursing home or have a tour in some nursing homes around they sure will help you

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User in Nashua, NH
May 27, 2017

Begin to gently introduce caregivers into his current environment in order to help him become accustomed to receiving required assistance.

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Depends on how much in home care you have. If you have 24 hour care I believe a nursing home doesn't have to be an option. I have taken care of a couple dementia clients in their home to the end. i don't believe the care gets better in a nursing home. Find the right caregiver.

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Alan in Nutley, NJ
Sept. 24, 2018

Its a very difficult decision, I for one would never put my loved one in a Nursing Home,the quality of care is normally poor and Dad will feel lost !

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Laura in Garner, NC
Oct. 15, 2018

The best way to transition into a nursing home is from an inpatient hospital admission. Initially all he will need is a TV, DVD player, laundry basket, plenty of loose fitting clothes, slippers and shoes. Write his name on everything using a permanent marker. Usually, nursing home patients are not able to return to their previous life at home. If you dad lives by himself, start eliminating household items that are not in use.

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User in Surprise, AZ
Oct. 9, 2018

Hire a caregiver who has craft, actives, games and outing, help your daddy to keep busy. If his early dementia, he does not ready to go nursing home. Better for him at the assistant place to do actives or caregiver go over his house to do chores, or actives. I have many clients with Dementia or advance Alzheimer who are staying home while their loved one go to work. Clients will follow me to do chores to clean, wash clothes or anything, client will do it when I do at same time. Not force client to do, let they see me to do chores, they will do same what I did. because of Dementia cannot think to do. that is challenge!

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User in Diboll, TX
April 26, 2017

Do plenty of research on the nursing homes in your area check state inspection records and compliances visit the nursing homes your considering talk with staff make sure the ones you choose to visit are licensed to house dementia patients talk with family and friends see if anyone you know has a loved one in the nursing homes you choose see what knowledge they have to offer on it

Thank you monica. I have not thought to check the inspections and stuff!!

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When you go to a Nursing home, every facility by State Law has a book available to the public that shows the status of care, state marks if any, etc. That is the first thing you want to look for and how friendly the staff is...remember that!

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If your father has Medicaid, he will have coverage for a skilled nursing facility. Otherwise it can be very expensive. The first step is to apply for Medicaid, which is health insurance for folks with lower incomes.

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Have an assessment done and explain to dad that more personal care and time is needed for him to remain safe and cared for 24/7. Contact nursing homes and check on availability, you may need to be on a waiting list. Nursing homes will want the full report on his health.

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I would check to see if assisted living is an option in your area where they live in a community. The community has shops etc... for the convenience of your father. But if he is a high-fall risk, assisted living is NOT the right choice. Staying home with 24/7 care is always the optimal way to go for as long as it is feasible. Steps for nursing home: Check local area to find a facility that is close to you, so that you can visit. Go visit a few (as you will notice extreme differences in the demeanor of the staff, the staff/patient ratio, activities...etc....Good Luck! Deb RN

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Laure in Edmonds, WA
July 30, 2018

If it's early dementia, I wouldn't rush it because he's probably SCARED to DEATH that he's heading to his end. I'd wait until he is in a state where he is somewhat feable and won't fight you.

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Karina in Redmond, WA
July 30, 2018

Dementia is not so bad and depending of level of care... You seek for professional help or ask the doctor what are your options.

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Susan in Jackson, MO
July 23, 2018

Contact your nearest" Area on Aging" Or DHSS . The home will have to be sold if it is in his name( In most states) So that's the biggest first.

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Check them out early before actually needed the nicer ones have a waiting list of a year sometimes. Maybe have to consider a live in help.

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Tina in Elm City, NC
July 23, 2017

Take each day at a time.

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User in Largo, FL
June 12, 2017

Make sure he is qualified financially for , either private pay or Medicaid (which is typically the primary payer source in a nursing home). I live in FL so it might be different, but I suggest scheduling an appt. with an elder law attorney.

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Sonya in Norfolk, VA
April 26, 2017

Talk with him to let him know what you are are thinking about doing. Don't just decide to just put him in one without preparing him. Investigate the homes you're thinking of. Visit them and take your father with you to see how he reacts to it. Choose the right one ask plenty of questions. If your father is cognitive enough ask him how he feels about each place

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User in Gainesville, GA
April 26, 2017

TALK TO HIM LET HIM NO THINGS MAY CHANGE FOR HIM BUT ALWAYS ASSURWE YOU BE THERE AND YOU LOVE HIM AND BEFORE IT HAPPEN TAKE HIM THERE AT LEAST TWO OR THREE TIMES AWEEK LET HIM GET FAMILIAR WITH THE SCENE HE WILL BE FINE...IF YOU NEED MORE HELP IM HEREAND READY TO HELP YOU...

Thank you so much!!

Thank you so much

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Get all papers Changed into your name wile he can sign them,then the cost of nursing homes change drastically.Work with care.com community as long as you can because this will be much less.

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Maxine in Miami, FL
April 27, 2017

Step 1: Find Nursing Homes in your area. Step 2: Do a background check on the Homes of your choice. Step 3: Arrange a meeting or interview with the Nursing Homes selected for a tour. Step 4: Decipher which home best suits you and your father needs.

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User in Rowlett, TX
April 27, 2017

Talk with you dad first about nursing homes. See what he has to say to get a feel on what he thinks of nursing homes. Explain everything that would take place if he is taken to a nursing home.

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User in Indio, CA
April 27, 2017

I would incorporate slowly make him in a nursing schedule for his personals . So this way it isn't a big shock and he feels a little more like he is in control for his condition. I personally have worked with mostly memory loss patients . And understand there mind set.

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You need a formal diagnosis - on paper - that's really important.

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User in Salem, MA
Feb. 15, 2019

Hire someone from the nursing home to talk to you and your dad.

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Start downsizing NOW! Clean out and get rid of the STUFF!

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User in Tampa, FL
Jan. 21, 2019

do your homework make a list of nursing home, do a surprise visit morning and around dinner time gather information on each to compare once you decide you can take a trip to visit the facility with you dad

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Paul in Rockford, IL
Jan. 15, 2019

DO NOT SEND SOMEONE WITH DEMENTIA to a nursing home until they no longer recognize their home. This is a common mistake that costs you parents the memory at a much faster pace. Please read www.alzheimershomehealth.com/education.html for all the tips. If you need help for your wealthy parents with Alzheimer's anywhere in the US, visit my profile.

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Annie in Lakewood, NJ
Oct. 23, 2018

I wouldn't put him in a nursing home. I would keep him at home were you know who's there, you know the care he is getting. I worked in nursing homes for many years not the place for anyone. always short staffed and greatly underpaid. you can't care for your patient and spend the necessary time u need to spend with the patients, this are missed people are forgot. you have so many different people all day day. he has familiar people around him. don't change that it could change him

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Get his finances in order. Nursing homes will take all of his monthly income as part of payment if he is on medicare or medicaid. also, if he has life insurance, they will take the policy. If his policy has a cash value, I would recommend cashing it out prior to his admittance.

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User in Tacoma, WA
Oct. 18, 2018

Go do some tours,write up a check list of must-have's. Look up ratings online, and ask to see their annual reports from the state inspections. They are available to the public and can be really telling.

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