8 free — or almost free — Valentine's Day ideas

Jan. 8, 2020

Valentine's Day is almost here. Have you made your restaurant reservation, made heart-shaped treats for the kids, bought a romantic gift for your honey, picked out a sexy outfit and booked a sitter? Whew ... and all this is for what? To end the night at a crowded restaurant where they hike up the prices in the name of romance?

If your typical Valentine's Day plans lead to overspending and disappointment, keep reading before you throw in the towel completely. Parents these days need to use every excuse they can find to carve out a little couple time. So keep the sitter, ditch the dinner reservation and try one of these free or practically free things to do on Valentine's Day that won't break the bank.

1. Skip dinner

Well, you can still eat dinner, but save money by making a meal at home and going out just for dessert. Even if you choose the best restaurant in town, chances will be greater that you can score a reservation later in the evening. Or just savor some sweets with your sweetie at the bar.

2. Play hooky from work

Valentine's Day is on a Friday this year. If you already have child care for the kids while you're at work, take the day off — or even just the afternoon — and spend it reliving your carefree, pre-parent days with your partner. Linger at a coffee shop, visit a free museum or take in a romantic comedy at matinee prices — holding hands, of course. Or check out that fancy restaurant's cheaper lunchtime menu.

3. Dance in the living room

Make a mix of songs from the milestone years in your relationship: when you met, got engaged, tied the knot, etc. Once the kids are snoozing, pop open some wine and pop in the mix. Take it up a notch by dressing up like you're going out dancing.

4. Go low-tech

Something as simple as turning off technology can help you tune into your relationship. Once the kids are in bed, light some candles or start a fire and play a board game, cook together or just talk. No phones, no TV, no computer — just you and your honey.

5. Take a walk

Whether it's a nature trail or cute part of town, hold hands (or link arms) and go for a stroll. Talk about your past year's highlights and your fun ideas for the year ahead. Reminisce about your first Valentine's Day together and how far you've come. Warm up with a drink at a bar or a cup of cocoa at home — and a kiss.

6. Write a love poem

This is an especially great idea if you don't consider yourself a writer because your partner won't expect it. For help, check out this step-by-step poem tutorial. Write from your heart and your partner will love it, even if the poem ends up more silly than serious.

If you'd rather leave the composing to the pros, here's a sweet idea from Sherry A. Sims, a national breast cancer advocate in Tulsa, Oklahoma: "On Valentine's Day when money was tight, my husband and I would meet in the greeting card department of our local grocery store. After reading various Valentine's Day cards, we'd 'give' the ones we liked best to each other," she says. "This activity gave us the ability to express our deepest feelings for one another — without spending a dime. Plus, it gave us a way to communicate during a difficult time — without ever saying a word."

7. Get married all over again

If you really want to have fun, check to see if your city (or local church) is holding a group wedding or vow renewal ceremony. (A quick Internet search turned up group weddings planned in New Jersey, Georgia, Tennessee and Florida.) These ceremonies are usually inexpensive or even free, and some even have sponsors and the chance to win prizes.

8. Recreate your first date

Whether it was roller skating, taking your dogs for a walk or going to dinner and a movie, go on a throwback date. Rent that movie and cook what you both ate, book a sitter and take the dogs for a long stroll or find a roller rink. There may be small fees for admission, but the nostalgia will be worth it.

Tips and stories from parents and caregivers who’ve been there.

Please enter a valid email address

Thanks for signing up!

We’ll see you back in your inbox.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

You may also like

How much should you pay for a babysitter?