Of course, our parents are ageing. But while chronic illness and increased frailty take their toll on many, some are still maintaining their independence, vitality, and mental agility well into their eighties. Yet we still worry when these seemingly healthy parents forget their phone number or lose their car keys. So how can we differentiate the normal aspects of ageing from disease?
For those of use caring for ageing parents, we must balance concern for our parent’s welfare with respect for their autonomy and independence. In addition, we may live some distance from our loved ones and view changes through a magnifying lens.
How do you know if what you’re seeing is a true decline, versus a natural state of old age? These 6 warning signs will help you determine whether your parent is facing a medical problem or simply following the usual path of ageing:
1. Physical Changes
Is there any difficulty walking, extreme weight fluctuations, or a decline in personal hygiene?
2. Household Changes
Is there no food, old food or out-of-date food in the fridge? Are there scratches or dents on the car?
3. Mood Changes
Does your parent show signs or anxiety or depression? Depression is NOT a normal part of ageing – and it can be treated!
4. Forgetfulness – Out of the Ordinary
Losing glasses can be expected. A repeated pattern of forgetting pertinent events, however, may be cause for concern.
5. Misuse of Prescribed Medications
Are there expired prescriptions? Can your parent remember what medication he or she is taking and when to take it?
6. Mishandling Finances
Are there unpaid bills, problems keeping track of expenses, signs of carelessness with money?
Once you recognise that the changes you are observing may be signs of dementia, a chronic illness, or increased frailty and dependence; it is time to communicate your concerns in a compassionate and clear manner. You can then take proactive steps to plan for the type of care that will give your parents the independence and well-being they deserve, while maintaining their safety and your peace of mind.