About Desiree

I’m sharing this after a great deal of reflection. After a full week of back-and-forth through the Care app and text, we finally scheduled a phone call. The conversation was going well—until she asked me to confirm whether the role truly required a part-time relocation to another state. This requirement was clearly stated in the job posting and had already been acknowledged in prior messages. When I said that yes, relocation was necessary, she abruptly hung up. At first, I assumed it was accidental. I even called back twice, thinking surely, after all this effort, no one would end a conversation that way without a simple, “No thank you, this isn’t a fit for me.” But it became clear that the call had simply been ended. More than anything, I believe parents and guardians are looking for people of strong character. This work requires it. Admitting a mistake takes a measure of bravery. Saying “this isn’t a fit” requires the ability to hold a boundary with clarity and respect. We all feel overwhelmed at times. But the time and energy that go into screening candidates—and for candidates, evaluating employers—are significant. None of us gets that time back. These aren’t small things; they are essential qualities in someone I trust to care for my children, especially in moments when they themselves may feel overwhelmed or need guidance.