{"id":92777,"date":"2024-09-24T14:42:41","date_gmt":"2024-09-24T14:42:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/?p=92777"},"modified":"2024-09-24T14:42:41","modified_gmt":"2024-09-24T14:42:41","slug":"detective-mom-swears-by-these-rules-for-kids-safety","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/detective-mom-swears-by-these-rules-for-kids-safety\/","title":{"rendered":"SVU detective mom swears by these 3 nonnegotiable safety rules"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>A detective on TikTok is making waves with parents after sharing a surprising list of common activities she&rsquo;s banned in her household due to her experiences on the job. The mom and special victims detective, who goes by <a href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@emily.speed7\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Emily Speed<\/a> on TikTok, revealed that she says &ldquo;no way&rdquo; to sleepovers, certain social media sites and talking with kids about so-called &ldquo;stranger danger&rdquo;, and her reasoning has some parents rethinking their decisions.<\/p><h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-s-off-the-table-for-this-tiktok-mom-s-children\">What&rsquo;s off the table for this TikTok mom&rsquo;s children<\/h2><p>In a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@emily.speed7\/video\/7170447566117588270?is_from_webapp=v1&amp;item_id=7170447566117588270\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">video<\/a> that&rsquo;s been watched more than seven million times, Speed says her work involves investigating crimes against children. As a result, she has a unique perspective on safety, and she dives into the specific safety reasons she says no to things like slumber parties and Snapchat.<\/p><figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-tiktok wp-block-embed-tiktok\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\"><blockquote class=\"tiktok-embed\" cite=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@emily.speed7\/video\/7170447566117588270\" data-video-id=\"7170447566117588270\" data-embed-from=\"oembed\" style=\"max-width:605px; min-width:325px;\"> <section> <a target=\"_blank\" title=\"@emily.speed7\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@emily.speed7?refer=embed\">@emily.speed7<\/a> <p>Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. Credit: @thegirlcop <a title=\"womeninpolice\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/womeninpolice?refer=embed\">#womeninpolice<\/a> <a title=\"police\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/police?refer=embed\">#police<\/a>  <a title=\"investigation\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/investigation?refer=embed\">#investigation<\/a> <a title=\"childinvestigator\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/childinvestigator?refer=embed\">#childinvestigator<\/a> <a title=\"svu\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/svu?refer=embed\">#SVU<\/a> <a title=\"childsafety\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/childsafety?refer=embed\">#childsafety<\/a> <a title=\"momsoftiktok\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/momsoftiktok?refer=embed\">#momsoftiktok<\/a> <a title=\"momtok\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/momtok?refer=embed\">#momtok<\/a> <a title=\"greenscreen\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/greenscreen?refer=embed\">#greenscreen<\/a> <\/p> <a target=\"_blank\" title=\"&#9836; She Knows - J. Cole\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/music\/She-Knows-6921490873293211649?refer=embed\">&#9836; She Knows &ndash; J. Cole<\/a> <\/section> <\/blockquote> <script async src=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/div><\/figure><h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-sleepovers\">Sleepovers<\/h3><p>The main problem with sleepovers, Speed says, is that you can never be 100% sure about who will be in attendance.<\/p><p>&ldquo;It&rsquo;s not just other adults,&rdquo; she says. &ldquo;It&rsquo;s also other kids and siblings. I have a lot of cases involving things that happen at sleepovers. I don&rsquo;t even recommend having them at your own house because some things are just out of your control.&rdquo;<\/p><h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-snapchat\">Snapchat<\/h3><p>Social media presents a lot of dangers to kids, and Speed singles out Snapchat as being particularly risky in her line of work.<\/p><p>&ldquo;There&rsquo;s a lot of predators on this app that can try to find kids and teenagers and get them to send pictures and videos of themselves,&rdquo; she explains.<\/p><h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-stranger-danger\">Stranger danger<\/h3><p>Most Gen-X and Millennial parents remember being warned about talking to strangers when they were kids. Now, Speed says, data shows that&rsquo;s not the biggest threat to kids.<\/p><p>&ldquo;Statistics show that people who perpetrate [crimes] on kids are usually those closest to us,&rdquo; she adds. &ldquo;Instead, I&rsquo;m teaching my kids things like good touch\/bad touch and that they can always come to me if anything like that were to happen to them. I&rsquo;m going to stay away from the scenario of the creepy old man in the van that&rsquo;s going to snatch them off of the street because that&rsquo;s just not the reality.&rdquo;<\/p><h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-child-safety-is-a-hot-button-topic-for-parents\">Child safety is a hot button topic for parents<\/h2><p>Speed&rsquo;s video ruffled some parents&rsquo; feathers, especially when it comes to cherished childhood traditions like slumber parties. More than 3,000 people left comments on her post, and not everyone agreed with her bold stances.<\/p><p>&ldquo;I had many sleepovers with friends and at parties as a kid,&rdquo; one person writes. &ldquo;All were great memories and innocent.&rdquo;<\/p><p>&ldquo;I think it&rsquo;s really important to teach teens to use social media safely and appropriately,&rdquo; another person adds. &ldquo;Saying no only makes them hide it.&rdquo;<\/p><p>But others were grateful for Speed&rsquo;s common sense warnings and shared their own tips for protecting kids from harm.<\/p><p>&ldquo;As a social worker, I agree with this list completely,&rdquo; one person writes. &ldquo;I would add don&rsquo;t let kids use a public restroom alone, even if you think it&rsquo;s safe or are familiar with it.&rdquo;<\/p><p>&ldquo;I&rsquo;ve heard someone say it&rsquo;s not stranger danger, it&rsquo;s strange behavior we need to teach them to look out for. That stayed with me,&rdquo; another person shares.<\/p><p>&ldquo;I tell my kids that no safe adult will ever ask them to keep a secret,&rdquo; one person writes. &ldquo;If an adult asks them to keep a secret, they need to come tell me immediately.&rdquo;<\/p><h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-the-main-takeaway-for-parents-and-caregivers\">The main takeaway for parents and caregivers <\/h2><p>No two households are alike, but Speed&rsquo;s video provides some important food for thought for parents when they&rsquo;re faced with tough safety questions about their kids. Whether you allow social media or not, experts agree that discussing <a href=\"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/5-dangers-of-social-media-to-discuss-with-you\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">social media safety<\/a> and setting limits is important for kids of all ages. And, even if you don&rsquo;t agree with Speed 100%, it matters how you <a href=\"https:\/\/kidshealth.org\/en\/parents\/stranger-smarts.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">talk to kids about strangers<\/a> and prepare them for the real dangers they may face in the world. <\/p><p>Parents play a huge role in protecting their kids, and so much of that comes down to the ways they communicate and the rules they set for their households. Speed&rsquo;s important post is a reminder that parents should strive to educate themselves about the changing risks kids face and have ongoing conversations about how to stay safe. <\/p><p>We can&rsquo;t keep kids in bubbles, as much as we may want to sometimes, but we can do a lot to raise intelligent, aware little humans that know how to make the best possible choices.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A special victims detective on TikTok has parents rethinking these three common activities she&#8217;s banned for her kids.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1264,"featured_media":205716,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"enable_toc":false,"care_reviewed_by":0,"care_post_updated_flag":false,"care_updated_date":"","last_update":"2024-09-24","view_count":18701,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"member-type":[4],"vertical":[6,13,11],"platform":[2],"class_list":["post-92777","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized","member-type-all","vertical-children","vertical-kids-health-safety","vertical-news-trends","platform-resources"],"acf":[],"created":"2022-12-14","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/92777","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1264"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=92777"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/92777\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":205724,"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/92777\/revisions\/205724"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/205716"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=92777"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=92777"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=92777"},{"taxonomy":"member-type","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/member-type?post=92777"},{"taxonomy":"vertical","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/vertical?post=92777"},{"taxonomy":"platform","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/platform?post=92777"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}