{"id":5957,"date":"2021-05-19T22:07:01","date_gmt":"2021-05-19T22:07:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/s37407.p1377.sites.pressdns.com\/resources\/mom-shares-miscarriage-with-daughter\/"},"modified":"2021-05-19T22:07:01","modified_gmt":"2021-05-19T22:07:01","slug":"mom-shares-miscarriage-with-daughter","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/mom-shares-miscarriage-with-daughter\/","title":{"rendered":"Mom shares miscarriage with her 12-year-old to normalize pregnancy loss"},"content":{"rendered":"<p dir=\"ltr\">Journalist and podcast host Paula Faris knows all too well how painful pregnancy loss can be. In a recent appearance on &ldquo;The View,&rdquo; she revealed that she suffered her third miscarriage over the summer. While the losses have been heartbreaking, Faris also shared how she has chosen to use her struggle as a teaching moment for her 12-year-old daughter, Caroline Grace. The mom says she brought her daughter into the bathroom as she was miscarrying, and her candid confession has sparked a heated debate.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Faris was vacationing with her family in Maryland when she realized she was losing her pregnancy. She called her daughter into the bathroom and explained what was happening.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">&ldquo;I said, &lsquo;I just want to let you know, Mommy is &hellip; the baby is probably no longer viable,&rsquo;&rdquo; she recalls to <a href=\"https:\/\/people.com\/parents\/paula-faris-reveals-third-miscarriage-the-view\/\">the hosts on &ldquo;The View.&rdquo;<\/a> &ldquo;&lsquo;Mommy doesn&rsquo;t feel any guilt. This is normal, <a href=\"https:\/\/people.com\/parents\/celebrities-who-had-miscarriages\/\">it happens to so many women<\/a>. It&rsquo;s happened to me a couple of other times. When you get pregnant, it might happen to you, honey. 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border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg)\"><\/div><\/div><div style=\"margin-left: auto;\"><div style=\" width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div><div style=\" background-color: #F4F4F4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div><div style=\" width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><p> <\/p><p style=\" margin:8px 0 0 0; padding:0 4px;\"> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/BuxXhInhAU6\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" color:#000; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; font-style:normal; font-weight:normal; line-height:17px; text-decoration:none; word-wrap:break-word;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Celebrating this world changer every&hellip;day&hellip; of the year. Not just on  #InternationalWomensDay. #InternationalAwesomeDay  #SweetCaroline ?: @faith_christoff<\/a><\/p><p style=\" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; line-height:17px; margin-bottom:0; margin-top:8px; overflow:hidden; padding:8px 0 7px; text-align:center; text-overflow:ellipsis; white-space:nowrap;\">A post shared by <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/paulafaris\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; font-style:normal; font-weight:normal; line-height:17px;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"> Paula Faris<\/a> (@paulafaris) on <time style=\" font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; line-height:17px;\" datetime=\"2019-03-09T02:48:40+00:00\">Mar 8, 2019 at 6:48pm PST<\/time><\/p><\/div><p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p><\/a><\/div><p dir=\"ltr\">Her bold choice to share the moment with her pre-teen has been met with mixed reactions from fans. Some have supported the mom and thanked her for being so open about her losses.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">One woman <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/yahooentertainment\/posts\/10159356131899832?__xts__%5B0%5D=68.ARBx56Kf_xYX6CG8saB49JRJgqUFgPWDNrKO7dt21r9TvQl-IXwGSvU73fhp-ylUKed6aiEgUajmqzT-qsAso3sdMwUsQPet2uSXD3G1dUO9KSG5qyKfeeFd2bOnUDRA-12nxXsPGbsUw5Q9X3VtAst5bYCkzqBPGltv_Bw925tDp6ceNV2-ngHlVZhExFCARpCb9r_5UtnDQcOiMly2KT8pBIls1sXgl1Jzg0KypXrPXdnZq25WNQTlk81tS8dlRWtD3-x41hPPi2uPXJJ2pccma8aeIZn2xj1pg_Qw3h0w-ulmaTT9Z_bPry7wfnxgFAP19210-G_BxNgWPQ&amp;__tn__=-R\">writes on Facebook<\/a>, &ldquo;We invite everyone to be included in the birth of a child, but we are expected to keep the loss of a pregnancy a secret? Hide the truth of how it happens, what it feels like? Mystify it? &hellip; I wish my mother (or other female role model) had been this open, and as painful as it would have been to experience that with her, I would have been grateful for the inclusion and insight.&rdquo;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">But others accused Faris of giving her daughter more information than a 12-year-old can handle.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">&ldquo;When I miscarried my son at 16 weeks, I felt bad having my own husband there witnessing it all,&rdquo; a commenter says. &ldquo;I would never subject one of our kids to it! It&rsquo;s traumatizing enough for adults, there is no need to have a child have that image in their minds for the rest of their lives.&rdquo;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Between 10% and 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage, according to the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mayoclinic.org\/diseases-conditions\/pregnancy-loss-miscarriage\/symptoms-causes\/syc-20354298\">Mayo Clinic<\/a>, but the number may actually be higher because some miscarriages occur before a woman even knows she is pregnant. Despite the fact that a substantial number of pregnancies end in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/stories\/9499\/5-questions-to-ask-your-doctor-about-pregnanc\/\">miscarriage<\/a>, the subject is still misunderstood and considered taboo by many.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">In a 2013 <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC4443861\/\">survey on perceptions of miscarriage<\/a>, 55% of respondents said they believe miscarriage is &ldquo;rare&rdquo; and occurs in 5% or less of all pregnancies. Of respondents who had suffered miscarriages, 41% said they felt alone and believed they had done something wrong to cause their miscarriage. It&rsquo;s exactly this kind of misinformation, stigma and isolation that Faris was trying to combat by sharing her pregnancy loss with her daughter.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">According to the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.acog.org\/~\/media\/For%20Patients\/faq100.pdf?dmc=1&amp;ts=20131017T1240362125\">American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists<\/a>, 60% of miscarriages occur because an embryo has an abnormal number of chromosomes, which is something that happens by chance. In 50% to 75% of cases in which women miscarry multiple times, doctors are unable to find a cause at all. As Faris told her daughter, women should not feel like they are to blame for pregnancy loss.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Celebrities like Pink, Beyonce, Nicole Kidman and Mariah Carey have all gone public with their own <a href=\"https:\/\/www.huffpost.com\/entry\/50-celebrities-who-opened-up-about-their-miscarriages_n_59de72a2e4b0fdad73b1b117\">experiences with miscarriage<\/a>. &ldquo;The View&rdquo; host <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2019\/07\/19\/opinion\/meghan-mccain-miscarriage.html\">Meghan McCain<\/a> has also been open about her own miscarriage and says Faris played a huge role in inspiring her to share her story.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Choosing to share a pregnancy loss with a child may not be the right choice for every parent or every child, but that doesn&rsquo;t mean Faris was wrong to do it. One of the best ways to eliminate the stigma surrounding pregnancy loss is by talking about it, sharing experiences and letting women&rsquo;s stories be heard.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">&ldquo;It&rsquo;s important to grieve,&rdquo; Faris tells the host of &ldquo;The View.&rdquo; &ldquo;But it&rsquo;s also important to know that this happens to so many of us.&rdquo;<\/p><\/blockquote>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Journalist and podcast host Paula Faris knows all too well how painful pregnancy loss can be. In a recent appearance on &ldquo;The View,&rdquo; she revealed that she suffered her third miscarriage over the summer. While the losses have been heartbreaking, Faris also shared how she has chosen to use her struggle as a teaching moment <a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/mom-shares-miscarriage-with-daughter\/\">Read more&#8230;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1264,"featured_media":36314,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"enable_toc":false,"care_reviewed_by":0,"care_post_updated_flag":false,"care_updated_date":"","last_update":"2021-05-19","view_count":3382,"footnotes":"","_members_access_role":[],"_members_access_error":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"member-type":[3],"vertical":[6,17,13],"platform":[2],"class_list":["post-5957","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized","member-type-seeker","vertical-children","vertical-child-care-advice","vertical-kids-health-safety","platform-resources"],"acf":[],"created":null,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5957","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1264"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5957"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5957\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/36314"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5957"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5957"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5957"},{"taxonomy":"member-type","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/member-type?post=5957"},{"taxonomy":"vertical","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/vertical?post=5957"},{"taxonomy":"platform","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/platform?post=5957"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}