No parent wants to see their kid cooped up inside all weekend while others on the block ride their bikes and take dance lessons. But it’s hard to know how to encourage kids to join in activities when they seem reluctant, too shy or just plain uninterested. Most kids want to be with their friends, but sometimes fear or shyness can get in the way.<\/p>
Some children have a more serious reason for not participating. If you suspect your child is living with depression or another mental illness, seek help from the pediatrician or family physician. If this isn’t the case, try to stay positive as you work to create opportunities for your child. <\/p>
Here’s how to encourage kids to get off the couch and have a good time.<\/p>
Start a discussion with your child so you can uncover what might be holding him back. Is he afraid of the basketball coach or thinks softball is uncool? Try to ease their concerns.<\/p>
If you sit on the couch most of the weekend, your child won’t be inspired. Instead, let them see you going to book club or hitting a yoga class. Show them that a nice mix of activities<\/a> can be rewarding.<\/p> Some kids won’t make a move unless their friends do the same thing. If yours is more of a follower, find out which activities his pals are into and then offer to sign him up.<\/p> Got an older brother already participating in something? Ask him to take your shyer kid under his wing. Attending an art class or baseball clinic with a sibling can be a lot more fun.<\/p> If you do get your child to agree to an activity, make sure it’s low-key. Lessons once a week, rather than most days, may be less threatening to a kid who’s not keen on participating.<\/p> Did the activity fail? If they went several times but just didn’t enjoy it, let them skip it for a week. Too much pressure to attend faithfully could backfire.<\/p> Not every kid is sporty or arty. Instead, delve into your child’s interests to come up with something just for them. For example, a kid who loves superheroes may be perfect for a comic book drawing class.<\/p> Seek out a mommy-and-me class. You might read together for a parent-child book group or bike on weekends as part of a cycling club.<\/p> Are there people in need in your area? Your child can learn to participate by joining others in raking leaves, stacking food in a pantry or walking dogs.<\/p> Try to expose your kid to others by arranging for a pal to come over each week. Solid friendships may lead to more participation in the future.<\/p> Do the eighth-grade boys<\/a> all head to the park after school? Encourage your child to join this exodus. He might realize they’re practicing their jump shots for a basketball game on Saturdays.<\/p> Talk up the positive side of participation, which includes more friends, physical exercise and good old-fashioned fun!<\/p> Let your kid know how proud you are that they’re trying a new sport or attending an after-school class. Even if they’re not in love with the activity, knowing you’re behind them may help.<\/p> If they’ve completed something but say no to anything else, don’t worry. They may just need a breather for now and will come back to the idea of participating later.<\/p> Still have a kid who’s dragging their feet? If your child suddenly changes his mind, step in. Tell them to just try it a few times. Who knows? They could end up loving it.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" No parent wants to see their kid cooped up inside all weekend while others on the block ride their bikes and take dance lessons. 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Gather a group<\/h2>
4. Pair up siblings<\/h2>
5. Start slowly<\/h2>
6. Give them an out<\/h2>
7. Dig deep<\/h2>
8. Go with her<\/h2>
9. Look locally<\/h2>
10. Schedule play dates<\/h2>
11. Find the crowd<\/h2>
12. Explain the benefits<\/h2>
13. Offer praise<\/h2>
14. Give it time<\/h2>
15. Be a little insistent<\/h2>