{"id":1152,"date":"2025-09-09T14:32:12","date_gmt":"2025-09-09T14:32:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/s37407.p1377.sites.pressdns.com\/resources\/4-tips-to-try-if-your-baby-cries-in-the-arms\/"},"modified":"2025-09-09T14:32:18","modified_gmt":"2025-09-09T14:32:18","slug":"4-tips-to-try-if-your-baby-cries-in-the-arms","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.care.com\/c\/4-tips-to-try-if-your-baby-cries-in-the-arms\/","title":{"rendered":"How do I get my baby to stop crying with others?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>You love being there for your child, but it&rsquo;s just not possible every second of every day. After all, you may need to go to work or take a yoga class &mdash; or maybe you just want to go to the grocery store <em>by yourself<\/em> once in awhile.<\/p><p>But what happens if your baby is uncomfortable, or worse, completely loses it crying&nbsp;in the arms of someone else, be a partner, grandparent or professional caregiver? For one, don&rsquo;t freak out. According to Janet Lansbury, author of &ldquo;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/1499103670\/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=1499103670&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=janetlansbury-20&amp;linkId=YOPKLJVFIGMGYEOQ\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting<\/a>&rdquo; and a certified parent\/infant guidance class instructor, babies &ldquo;are unnerved by our anxiety,&rdquo; so not making a big deal over leaving (or having an emotional display) can help. <\/p><p>What else can you do? Here are five tips that will help if your baby cries with others.<\/p><div class=\"wp-block-custom-dynamic-list key-takeaways-block\"><h3>Key takeaways<\/h3><div class=\"key-takeaways-container\"><ul><li>It&rsquo;s normal for babies to cry when left with someone else, but staying calm, acknowledging their feelings and offering reassurance can help ease the transition. <\/li><li>Caregivers should use these moments to build trust by allowing the baby to express emotions and responding with loving, respectful support. <\/li><li>Avoid quick fixes, and remember that separation anxiety is a healthy developmental stage tied to growing attachment and awareness.<\/li><\/ul><\/div><\/div><h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-keep-your-cool\">1. Keep your cool<\/h2><p>Your baby&rsquo;s distress is hard for everyone &mdash; you, your baby and your partner or caregiver. The most important thing is for everyone to stay calm. Lansbury says caregivers in this situation should remind themselves that remaining calm is crucial because babies are ultra-aware.<\/p><p>If you&rsquo;re visibly upset, she notes, &ldquo;it can make them cry even more.&rdquo;<\/p><h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-talk-it-out\">2. Talk it out<\/h2><p>Your baby can&rsquo;t verbally communicate with you, but that doesn&rsquo;t mean you shouldn&rsquo;t talk to them. Lansbury suggests talking through the restless&nbsp;moment with your little one in a calm way.<\/p><p>She uses the example of a mom needing to use the restroom: her partner or caregiver can hold the baby while mom is busy, acknowledge the baby&rsquo;s discomfort and calmly speak to the child. Say things such as, &ldquo;I know it&rsquo;s tough to wait&rdquo; and &ldquo;we&rsquo;ll wait together&rdquo; until mom returns. This soothing talk reassures your baby and helps them adjust to being cared for by someone else.<\/p><h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-look-for-bonding-opportunities\">3. Look for bonding opportunities<\/h2><p>It might sound a little strange to use a moment when your baby is crying as a bonding opportunity, but parents can really step up in these instances. Lansbury advises caregivers to allow the child to express their feelings freely. Provide support throughout the crying spell by acknowledging that the baby is upset and giving loving care by swaddling, singing or doing other age-appropriate activities.<\/p><p>By making babies feel safe and supported, even when they are crying, a trusting bond can develop, which can help ease crying the next time that you need to pass the baby to an older sibling or a babysitter.<\/p><p>According to&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.thoughtfulparent.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Amy Webb<\/a>, who holds a doctorate in child development and family science, this can even be a bonding exercise for the parent who&nbsp;is leaving. Your little one will learn that their parent&nbsp;always comes back, which helps to build trust and reduce the time your baby cries for you when you leave.<\/p><div class=\"wp-block-careblocks-enrollment\" aria-live=\"polite\"><div class=\"enrollment-background\"><div class=\"enrollment-content\" id=\"enrollment-block\"><div class=\"enrollment-start\"><span>Like what you&rsquo;re reading?<\/span><h2>Join Care for free<\/h2><form name=\"enrollment\"><div class=\"enrollment-field-wrapper\"><label for=\"enrollment-block-firstname\" class=\"sr-only\">First name<\/label><input name=\"firstname\" type=\"text\" class=\"enrollment-field enrollment-firstname\" placeholder=\"First name\"><p class=\"enrollment-error enrollment-block-firstname-error hidden\">First name is required.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"enrollment-field-wrapper\"><label for=\"enrollment-block-lastname\" class=\"sr-only\">Last name<\/label><input name=\"lastname\" type=\"text\" class=\"enrollment-field enrollment-lastname\" placeholder=\"Last name\"><p class=\"enrollment-error enrollment-block-lastname-error hidden\">Last name is required.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"enrollment-field-wrapper\"><label for=\"enrollment-block-email\" class=\"sr-only\">Email<\/label><input name=\"email\" type=\"email\" class=\"enrollment-field enrollment-email\" placeholder=\"Email\"><p class=\"enrollment-error enrollment-block-email-error hidden\"><\/p><\/div><div class=\"enrollment-field-wrapper\"><label for=\"enrollment-block-zip\" class=\"sr-only\">Zip code<\/label><input name=\"zip\" type=\"text\" class=\"enrollment-field enrollment-zip\" placeholder=\"Zip\"><p class=\"enrollment-error enrollment-block-zip-error hidden\">Zip code is required.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"disclaimer\"><p>By clicking &ldquo;Join now,&rdquo; you agree to our <a href=\"\/about\/terms-of-use\/\" target=\"_blank\">Terms of Use<\/a> and <a href=\"\/about\/privacy-policy\/\" target=\"_blank\">Privacy Policy<\/a>.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"enrollment-loading\"><div class=\"enrollment-loading-animation\"><\/div><\/div><p class=\"enrollment-error enrollment-error-message hidden\">We&rsquo;re sorry, your request could not be processed at this time. Please <a href=\"https:\/\/www.care.com\/app\/vhp\/get-started\">click here<\/a> to try again.<\/p><button name=\"submit\" type=\"submit\" class=\"button button-primary button-sm enrollment-submit\" data-loading=\"Sending...\">Join now<\/button><\/form><\/div><div class=\"enrollment-already-registered hidden\"><h2>Already Registered<\/h2><p>The email you entered is already registered. Would you like to log in?<\/p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.care.com\/login\" class=\"button button-primary button-sm\">Log In<\/a><\/div><div class=\"enrollment-complete hidden\"><span>Congrats!<\/span><h2>Your account has been created.<\/h2><a href=\"https:\/\/www.care.com\/app\/job\/cc\" class=\"button button-primary button-sm enrollment-cta\" id=\"enrollment-block-cta\">Find care now<\/a><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><p><\/p><h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-ditch-the-quick-fixes\">4. Ditch the quick fixes<\/h2><p>When hearing your crying baby, your immediate aim may be to calm them. However, do not rely on &ldquo;quick fix&rdquo; methods such as overfeeding or distracting them with a toy. With these short-term methods, the tantrum will just start again when the distraction is over.<\/p><p>Instead of discouraging the cries, reassure your baby that you&rsquo;ll be back soon &mdash; and then keep your promise.<\/p><h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-5-remember-it-s-completely-normal\">5. Remember, it&rsquo;s completely normal<\/h2><p>If baby cries with others (or with anyone but mom), it may be due to attachment, says Webb. Babies often see their primary caregiver as a &ldquo;home base&rdquo; of sorts, she explains, and they are only comfortable exploring the world when mom or dad is around.<\/p><p>At around 9 months, separation anxiety is also at play here &mdash; babies are learning that objects and people still exist even though they can&rsquo;t see them. &ldquo;They begin to know that even though mom is out of the room, she still exists,&rdquo; says Webb, &ldquo;and they want her.&rdquo;&nbsp;<\/p><p>Some babies can develop a sense of object permanence as early as 4 to 5 months old, according to the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.healthychildren.org\/English\/ages-stages\/toddler\/Pages\/Soothing-Your-Childs-Separation-Anxiety.aspx\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">American Academy of Pediatrics<\/a>, so some separation anxiety can begin to show around then.<\/p><p>Remember this is a&nbsp;normal milestone in your baby&rsquo;s life and allows your little one to process their&nbsp;feelings. It can be hard sometimes, but try to take a deep breath, knowing this stage&nbsp;won&rsquo;t last forever.&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When your baby cries with others \u2014 every time \u2014 it can be upsetting. 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