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Be Yourself, You Are Fabulous

Melissa Roja Lawlor
Aug. 8, 2012

One mom's tips on building confidence by being yourself as part of the Care.com Interview Series.

Erica Voll knows a little something about confidence. After all, the writer of her personal blog, Mommy's Fabulous, and co-founder of the women's networking site Girls Lunch Out is constantly reminding herself that, "regardless of what I've done and where I'm going, I am me. I have a self, and it is fabulous." Her blog and website encourages moms to embrace what makes them fabulous and never, ever sell themselves short. See how Voll's early family and work influences helped shape her confidence, and how she plans to transfer that over to her own kids.

Tell us about your family.

We are a family of four. Our daughter is 3, and our son just turned one. They are amazing together. Our daughter has an amazing personality that attracts everyone. Our son is so laid back and loves to have fun.

Do you consider yourself a confident woman? If so, what and who helped you get there?

My mom and dad for sure! They are both professionals, and always encouraged me to do anything I wanted to try. They also let me NOT do the things I didn't want to do. I made my own choices, but had structure growing up. They definitely let me do my own creative thing though!

Do you or any of your kids struggle with a lack of self-confidence? How have you handled that?

Wow. No (see question 1!) if anything, I worry my daughter may be too impulsive at times. I always try to encourage her to make smart choices.

What was the one moment you knew you were worthy, important and that you truly count?

Early in my career, I had a mentor (now, dear friend) who worked with me. She was confident, didn't take no for an answer, and claimed her "space" in the work environment. I admired that. To this day, I don't sell myself short on my accomplishments and achievements. I am proud, and I don't apologize for standing up for what I believe in.

How do you express the value of confidence to your kids? What tips do you have for other parents on boosting kids' self-esteem? Is there anything you wish your parents had done or said to you to boost your self-esteem?

I always remind my kids that they are first and foremost smart. I like to talk about and praise them to other adults just loud enough so they can hear me praising them. I always tell my kids I am so proud of who they are, and what I know they can become.

How might you (some day) use social media to increase your child's self-esteem?

Oh, this is a tough one. Sometimes I feel like I want to keep my kids away from the Internet! I think kids' esteems are built by doing and participating, not seeing. Maybe I'd encourage them to start a website based on an idea they have.

What's the ONE thing you want your kids to feel/remind themselves/know when they walk out the door in the morning? What words do you want them to remember to boost their confidence?

You are smart and you make great choices!

Erica Voll is a marketing consultant who is passionate about introducing brands to bloggers and other women in her community. She co-founded Girls Lunch Out and blogs about family life over at Mommy's Fabulous. You can also find her on Twitter and Facebook.

Find more messages of confidence in our Care.com Interview Series: You Count ยป

Photo used with permission from Erica Voll.
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