Tips For Responding To Defiance
It is a toddler's job to be oppositional. This is the period in your child's development when she begins to understand that she is separate from you and can exert some control over her world, but before you know it you may fear you're raising a defiant child.
One powerful way she can do this is by defying you. You say, "Do this..." and she says, "No!" The drive to assert one's self is useful as it motivates your child to want to make things happen.
Being able to do some things for herself builds her confidence. The key is to find ways to show your child how she can be in control and make her own choices in positive ways.
For instance, if she's resistant to brushing her teeth, ask her, "Do you want to brush your teeth before or after we read books?" You can also reinforce that there are positive benefits to cooperating, such as by saying "You helped get yourself dressed for school so quickly. Now we have time to read your favorite book before we go to day care."Learn more
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