Care.com Interview Series: You Count
8 women share how they build kids' confidence as part of the Care.com Interview Series.
How do you teach confidence? Every parent wants their child to be strong and brave, to stand up for themselves, and to be happy with who they are. But it's a trait we often struggle with ourselves. Care.com's You Count campaign is focused on building kids' confidence, no matter what their age. From your preschooler who's nervous for his first circle time to your 12-year-old who can't stomach the idea of starting middle school, confidence is a game changer in any child's life.
In order to help other moms navigate this tricky part of parenting, we asked 8 of our favorite bloggers for helpful tips on how to nurture and raise more confident children. Here's what they had to say:
8 Tips for Building Confidence:
- Don't underestimate the importance of unconditional love. "When I was younger, I had to work hard to receive praise, to be told, "Hey, I'm proud of you." I want my daughters to know that I am always and unconditionally proud of everything they do. That I believe in them." -- Stephanie Anderson, Confessions of a Stay At Home Mom
- Realize that nobody's perfect. "Students often set themselves up for failure because they expect perfection from themselves. In fact, I know a lot of adults who struggle with this same issue. We're not looking for perfection. We're looking for your best." -- Sando Weis, The Daily Deelight
- Empower your kids through their own actions. "We make [our kids] take responsibility for their own actions, whether it be for successes or for things they didn't accomplish the way they hoped or should have." -- Amanda Rodriguez, Parenting By Dummies
- Pile on the praise. "I always remind my kids that they are first and foremost smart. I like to talk about and praise them to other adults just loud enough so they can hear me praising them. I always tell my kids I am so proud of who they are, and what I know they can become." -- Erica Voll, Mommy's Fabulous
- Find a balance. "Find the unique in each one of them, and nurture that. I also think it is important to have discipline and require them to take on responsibilities at home." -- Jo-Lynne Shane, Musings of a Housewife
- Don't allow negative talk in the house. "I do have my days when I'm not feeling my best; days when my self-confidence has taken a hiatus. I handle those days by reminding myself, "No Negative Self-Talk." I also remember the advice someone I look up to offered: feelings are just feelings and not necessarily reality." -- Arlett Hartie, Chasing Joy
- Lead by example. "My parents/stepparents said the right things, but actions speak louder than words-they didn't always do the right thing. I try my hardest to walk the walk." -- Lisa Lightner, A Day in Our Shoes
- Practice good manners. "Good manners consists of eye contact, handshakes and knowing when to use your cell phone, but it really boils down to self-interest. You use your good manners because of the way it makes you feel on the inside." --Lisa Richey, Manners To Go