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How do you leave a live-in position gracefully when your reason for leaving is pay-related?

A family on Care reached out to me and ultimately hired me for a salaried live-in "nanny" position. Unfortunately for me, it turned out that the job is more household management and requires longer hours than expected. While living rent free is really helpful, this job pays well below what I've made in the past and my paychecks are consistently late. This has created a lot of financial stress, so after completing the 3 month trial (as requested), I've decided to move on.

I'll be requesting my 3 month review when the family returns from a weekend away, but how do I leave the position gracefully when I haven't been paid in two weeks? Would it be wrong to give less than two weeks notice if another job opportunity presents itself? I don't want to miss out on a high paying job because I can't start right away, but I also don't feel obligated to stay longer than necessary considering the fact that I've provided services that I have yet to be paid for.

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I believe you are allowed to leave without a two weeks notice, given your circumstances. Although it may seem rude, explain that the lack of payment for your other services and delay in mentioned payments has caused you tremendous stress, so you went to look for another job. Thank them for their time and wish them luck in finding a new babysitter. Hopefully this helps.

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I will politely tell them that I have an opportunity with another company and would like to move there because their conditions a more favorable to me and that they should pay me for the days I worked for them. This may enable me to have some peace of mind.

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User in Allentown, PA
April 18, 2019

I think that the best way to leave a job is to communicate and let the family know in advance. I think that the best thing to do is to speak with the family and make sure that these guidelines you are expecting to have met are clearly understood by all parties. I also then recommend not leaving until you have another job because low pay is still better than no pay.

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Annalynn in Pullman, WA
March 18, 2019

If another job presents itself, just explain that you need to finish your 2 week resignation commitment. If you need to give less than 2 weeks notice, I would suggest that you bring that up with the family as soon as you know you will need to leave in less than 2 weeks.

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You're not really living rent free if your checks are well below what you're worth. Take another job and don't feel bad if a 1 week notice is the best you can do. Next job, have a contract that covers pay day, hours, annual raises, holidays, etc.

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It sounds like your agreed upon expectations are far from being met. If you can uphold your end of the agreement, I would try to, but if it is in your best interest to move on sooner because of financial stress, then to me, that is okay. Take care of yourself, so that you can best take care of your charges :)

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Maria in Addison, IL
March 3, 2019

I never been live-in

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Anna in Littleton, CO
Feb. 22, 2019

No,that wouldn't be wrong because that was not how u made schedules for the work to be done

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First and foremost, you must take care of yourself and your financial needs. Also in this situation communication with family about your thoughts and feelings is key. It is unfair that the family pays you late and that they still owe you money. This is a tricky situation because you want the family to give you a good review, yet what happens if you cannot give 2 weeks notice due to taking the opportunity of a better job. I would explain to the family that you are in a financial crisis and that you need your pay. I would also share with them that if a job opportunity comes up you would need to take advantage of that. Maybe you could work out a compromise with the family that works for both of you. Good luck!

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I think a written notice would be a choice,(parents maybe rethinking your low pay ? maybe offering raise? But don't ask for raise $ verbally) need to have good bonding for this scenario,but if no bonding ,just move on.

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User in Pasco, WA
Feb. 8, 2019

I too have had a family that did not respect the financial arrangement we had. Being paid late is NEVER ok! They (the parents) would likely never allow that from their employers, your position should be no different. As to the question... Simply state you "appreciate the opportunity to work for their family, but ultimately it isn't the best fit for you at this point in your career". If another opportunity comes along before your two weeks are up don't feel bad about taking it. You need a reliable and steady paycheck. Best of luck going forward.

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They definitely need to pay you. That is the first thing. There can be legal issues if you are working for them and they are not paying you/not paying you on time. Be sure to get your paycheck first, and let them know that you will give them at least a week notice before leaving for another position. Your time is valuable and you should be paid as such, even if you are living in their home.

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User in Westwood, MA
Feb. 2, 2019

just say this job isnt working out for me. period if they want to know the reason, be honest. tell them you need to make more money . plain and simple. perhaps you can talk to them before hand and see if they are willing to increase your salary to keep you.

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it's very difficult situation i think but i will stay till my time is up and i will ask for pay before i will leave ?

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you communicate and leave

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