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Is it okay for your client to leave their child at the house while you were there doing their house cleaning work instead of calling the babysitter to come in?

Hi everybody! I have one client I've been working with for several months. She gets a little hostile with me at times but I overlooked it and she definitely takes advantage of my kind heart and good nature. My question is she was telling me she pays our babysitter $80 a day when her son is off school. He is in third grade. She has started rearranging my schedule so I come on his days off so she goes to work and leaves him at home. But she happens to throw in things like this is his snack this is his lunch Etc. I told her a long time ago the only thing I do not do is babysit due to having the liability of a child. I know how I was overprotective with my children that's why I don't babysit. She does not pay me any extra I am there doing my housekeeping but she calls me repeatedly and I have to stop doing what I'm doing and take the phone to him how do I handle this situation and should not be getting paid more per hour if she's going to do this to me? She's never asked me to do this she's just throwing it on me and when she leaves I realize what she's done. How do I handle this without seeming Petty? Thank you all.

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Lacey in Columbus, OH
Jan. 29, 2019

I would have a sit down with her, still be professional as possible but tell her and explain that what she's doing was not in your job description and she either needs to pay you for the extra services or find a babysitter, sometimes this could end up in a departure but if you dont then she's going to keep doing it and your basically giving her free child care, I know it can be difficult but don't let peopl use you or misunderstand you. Hope this helps , good luck.

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Wait until I finish cleaning and then before leaving I would say something along the lines of "I apologize if there's been some confusion, but as much as I enjoy and want to help you I just don't really feel comfortable watching (kids name) if you're not here." And that's it. You don't need some long explanation. You just make your boundaries clear. She can choose to abide by them or not. You deserve to have your terms respected. If you're open to babysitting then you can negotiate on your own terms extra pay and some sort of contract if you wish, or add it to care.com and accept it through there. **THEN I would DEFINITELY cover my own butt by sending an email to the care.com explaining what's happening. Even if they don't answer, it's atleast documented and time stamped if she were to get fussy about it afterwards.

I do love your answer. Best advice you gave is getting this documented there's so many other things that she's doing as well and I'm not getting paid for and that don't have anything to do with my housekeeping but I do them anyway . she is very disrespectful when she speaks to me and says I need to learn to be considerate but I didn't do anything. It's like she argues with herself. I just let her talk and don't respond but im getting to my Breaking Point.

Rene in Houston, TX
Feb. 5, 2019

I would be available to watch the children. Since they are the parents concern I would have to add the babysitting service may be not so high so she can afford it.

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I would suggest creating a waver that puts all the liability on her for leaving the child without a certified Babysitter. have her sign it hopefully that will trigger her to offer you extra compensation. my two cents

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Doreen in Mesa, AZ
Feb. 5, 2019

I would set up a time to speak with her. I would make sure the child is not there but either in school or in his room, preferably school so there are no distractions. You have to make decisions before speaking with her. One is "Do I want to "watch" or "care" for this child while I am working there as a housekeeper?" If you don't mind the "extra" work. Then you need to approach her on this and let her know that "you don't mind watching and making sure the child is safe and secure and take care of his needs" However, you would like to be compensated for this since this is "extra work" for you during your "cleaning" time there. She needs to recognize that you are a "value" to her family because she hired you for housecleaning but not as a child care sitter. If she agrees to pay you extra make sure you have a "figure or number" in mind because she will probably ask you what you want extra. If you do not want to watch the child while you are working. Then you still need to speak with her "one on one". And address this by reminding her that she hired you as a Housekeeper and that you do not feel comfortable or want to care for a child while you are doing your job. There is a possibility that she might undermine the work involved but you need to be firm and direct because this is your "business" and it is important for you to keep your professionalism or you can be taken advantage of. She will most likely appreciate your honesty and respect your wishes either way. If something happens to the child while on your watch then you are responsible for their well being even if she is not paying you. Caring for a child requires attention and if you are busy cleaning then this attention will not be given. I would recommend that she either has you work solely with a child and possibly do "light" housekeeping like tiding up and teaching the child how to help clean up his room or toys..... But to have you do both cleaning a whole house and watching a child puts you and the child at risk that could lead to further issues. As a housekeeper then you need to remind her of your duties and that it doesn't involve the child however you do not mind him being there but he can not be left alone under your supervision since you can not possibly watch him and clean at the same time. Be direct and calm with your facts and hopefully it will all work out. Good Luck and the Best to You. Doreen Finn

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In my opinion, it is definitely not okay that your client leaves you with her young son while she is not there! You can handle this situation in two ways as follows: 1) If you would be okay with having the child there with you while performing housekeeping duties if your client paid you enough extra money, then you must ask for more money. If she is not willing to do that, then you need to find another housekeeping job; or (2) You need to tell her in a firm but respectful manner that you do will no longer be babysitting the child while you are performing housekeeping duties (remind her you were not hired for this position as a babysitter but only as a housekeeper) and that she will need to make other arrangements for the child when he is off from school! Also, make it clear that if no babysitting arrangements have been made in the future when the child is off from school, you will not attend to the child whatsoever. If she has an attitude about this, again, you really should find another housekeeping job because this client is very unreasonable, disrespectful, and ignorant!

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First of all you are not being petty at all. Watching a child is a huge responsibility, especially when it is not your own. I would speak with her about leaving you with her child. Explain your insurance does not cover the responsibility of child care and you can not take the chance of him getting injured. Express to her that your attention is on cleaning her home and it is not safe to have her son there because you are not giving him the undivided attention a child would need to be safe. If she can not understand this then maybe you should think about ending your working relationship with her. I wish you well with this situation.

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I would write up a contact stating it is for cleaning purposes ONLY if she does not sign it then you may have to look for another job.

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Absolutely not! You can't focus on what you there to do if you have to watch a kid. Not to mention, god forbid something were to happen!

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Remind her nicely that you told her from the beginning no babysitting and you have not changed your mind. let her know you enjoy cleaning her home but no hard feelings babysitting is out

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You need to have a talk with client and explain you're there to do housekeeping. You can't expect to have the house super clean and watch the child at the same time. Its a great responsibility to baby so we need to focus and watch them. its either one or the other

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Maria in Richboro, PA
Jan. 31, 2019

I would just tell her my I speak to you please and tell her be honest to her maybe she thinks you dont care and need to tell her in a nice way

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It would be ok if I was asked to watch the child in a pinch. Things happen all the time and sometimes there is not time to get a sitter. I would not want it to be done all the time because it would not leave me time to do my job properly.

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If Babysitting was not in the job description then something needs to change. You are there to clean the house, not to babysit. If she is using the fact that someone is in the house so she doesn't have to use the babysitter than you should be getting paid more if she is expecting you to be both a babysitter and house-cleaner. Have a clear conversation with her about it and bring up your concerns again.

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This is not okay! Your are NOT a Childcare Provider. There is nothing petty about extra work, that is not included in your specific job description. You need to tell her YOUR hours, and change them so they do not include her childcare schedule. If she respects you she will adapt. If she can't adapt, then its not worth it. Remember you are the boss of your own business, this business that rocks I might add (I am sure you are a rock star) and there will be more clients out there that do respect you.

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User in Romeo, MI
Jan. 30, 2019

ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!

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Brenda in Lilburn, GA
Jan. 30, 2019

No it is not okay to leave the child at the house while you are there for house cleaning work. Yes she should call the babysitter to come in, this is so not right as the person has stated she did not want the responsibility of taking care of the clients child.

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A little extra help is fine once in a while for we are all human ,..but it should not be a habit .Stick to ypur job description.Disrespect is a No No!

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Mary in Jackson, MI
Jan. 29, 2019

If you are there to clean house and not babysit and you like to clean this lady's house I would tell her that she needs to pay you for cleaning and watching her kid or the next time she does this you call the cops ....She is taking advantage of you and not paying you to do both jobs

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Heather in Cortez, CO
Jan. 29, 2019

Ask her to arrange for child care when you are there or you will not be stopping by if you can afford to quit the job. Or ask for a raise if you do agree to take liability for him when she is not there. Sorry to hear about your situation!

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Joanie in Enola, PA
Jan. 29, 2019

Your client is definitely taking advantage of you. I would explain to her that you are there to clean and you cannot babysit while cleaning.

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Hayes in Lebanon, PA
Jan. 29, 2019

Given a proper background check it would be ok however it is always recommended to never put oneself in a position to be one on one with a child. There is always safety in numbers.

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I would say to her , no disrespect to you, but I am here to clean not watch children. Unless you would like to double my pay I don't expect to be taking care of your child.

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polite;y tell her your not comfortable babysitting and that you cant continue to watch her child . your there to clean not baby sit, and that your sorry for any inconvience but you cant clean properly if your having to watch after her child.

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stop doing it, your allowing her run all over you and take advantage of you, look for another house take her place. then you should move on. she will always take advantage of you if you let he.

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my answer is to let the client know that you are not there to babysit but to do housecleaning. remind her that you do not want that responsibility and that she must find a sitter when he is there otherwise you must find another job. you must be stern and make your point clear otherwise she will continue to do it because she knows you need the money.

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Yes!!! she is taking advantage of your good heart and kindness. I would explain to her that it takes time from your cleaning and you are there longer. I would say you want to be paid 80 or more since you are spending more time and that you are not a babysitter. If all else fells tell her you can no longer clean for her and find another client.

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This would depend on the age. If under 8 I feel the child would require a good part of my time. I would tell the mother if doing both this is my rate.. I could probably accomplish some laundry,dishes, & light house work.

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Carla in Newtown, CT
Feb. 10, 2019

yes, its ok the kids staying at home!

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Alaina in Norman, OK
Feb. 10, 2019

WOW. That is all I can say to start my response. OH HECK NO, is my next thought. Allow me to elaborate: Being a caregiver of any sort, requires a very specific set of human characteristics and trusted moral convictions. However, don't mistake those AWESOME and rare qualities as anything other than traits you've been blessed with having. Now, even though our job is service to others, it by no means WHATSOEVER requires obligation, to any employer, for ANY REASON AT ALL, outside of our profile/ personal resume ty hat we make very specific, therefore we do not accept jobs outside of what we want. Now, to keep from getting overly passionate in my opinions, I am going to do my best to get to the point I want to make. You are absolutely, and singularly,the ONLY PERSON who decides what job you do, when you do it, and anything else that goes against that is unacceptable. This employer has, in my opinion, tested her power by taking your voice away from that day 1 when you were never given an option to say yes or no. But that is irrelevant, and why? The employer had no respect for you at all. And the way I have interpreted the situation, is black and white with no grey in between. They do not view you as someone who is actually worthy of making your own decisions, and they walk all over you, which is taking your power more and more. You're never being petty whenever you are standing up for yourself and she choosing what you want to do rather than someone forcing you to feel uncomfortable and putting you in a situation where you are doubting your own self worth and place as an employee. You should be very calm, in control and confident, and initiate this conversation without asking for permission to have such conversation. Stand firm, express yourself, without confrontation, and choose words according to how much this particular job means to you. I would personally leave a job such as this as soon as their true intentions, lack of equality in the workplace and complete disregard all around were at odds with my values and moral obligation to myself.

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Honestly some people never realize how selfish they are and if you complain it will get turned around to be your problem. My best advice is to part company with this client. There are many nice people looking for help that will appreciate your capabilities. Good luck!

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Hmmm...I'm no expert, but at a minimum, I would say if you're going to be left in charge of a child in addition to cleaning, your pay needs to be increased.

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I do not see problems in the client leaving the child at home while I do my work, but he comes back before my work is finished, or I pay an extra for the service of drool. I was hired to do the cleaning or to agree so that the two people are well ...

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You are providing a service of cleaning not baby sitting. It is not appropriate to do what she is doing she is just taking advantage.

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no it's not okay

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Cheryl in Agawam, MA
Feb. 8, 2019

Tell her you aren't trying to be difficult but you were hired to clean her house. Child care isn't part of your services. This woman is a user and she doesn't respect you. You might want to start looking for another cleaning job where they appreciate you and the work you do. I've been cleaning houses since 1996 and over the years I've had clients take advantage of me too but never as bad as your situation though.

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it depends on the age of the child.if the child is a teenager i think he or she can be left in the house with me.if the child is a baby i don"t think is a great idea. i need all my falculties to concentrate on my job .tnx

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Blake in Omaha, NE
Feb. 8, 2019

It depends on the length that the family was going to be out of the house, and the age of the child

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I believe that you should full on address the situation. If she is willing to pay more for the extra services that you are providing then that would be a different story of course. But, you should not have to feel taken advantage of while you are working nobody wants to feel that way. So to answer the question, no I believe it is not okay because that was not in the job description.

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Kindly but firmly tell her that if she wants you to babysit her son, then the amount you are paid needs to reflect that. Since you set your boundaries when before you started with her, she should not be surprised. You can remind her of that if she is. I would also suggest rehearsing what you are going to say with someone who will be honest with you. Think of circumstances that might come up so you can be prepared. Stay calm and do not allow yourself to get upset. This is a business arrangement, after all. Explain, going forward, you either need to be paid for the full range of services you are providing, or she needs to call the sitter when her son has days off school.

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you can say I am charging double if you like for me to watch him as this is something that is not part of cleaning. it is a added job so one must charge accordingly.

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Diane in Bedford, MA
Feb. 8, 2019

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Silvina in Miami, FL
Feb. 8, 2019

I love children, I have 2, I think you should talk to the cleaner and coordinate with her if you are going to leave the boys two or three times, if they are small, they are a big responsibility, and I would not like something to happen to them when the mother

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I would just tell her you are not comfortable with her leaving him alone with you and that you prefer to just concentrate on the housekeeping.

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Yes it would be okay unless the child/children required attention that would keep me from cleaning and doing what i was hired to do.

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I would either say, absolutely NO, I don't baby sit! Find a new cleaning job!

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Yes, I like children.

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How older is the children?

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I would ask to have a sit down meeting with her regarding my position. If she is married, I would also ask to have the husband at the meeting. Based on what I was hired to do, we could negotiate a higher price for the cleaning and babysitting combined. If she was unwilling to raise that rate, than I would make it clear my rate was to be at the house cleaning only based on what I was hired for.

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CONFRONT THE INDIVIDUAL. AND INFORM HER OR SHE THAT U WERE HIRED ONLY TO CLEAN, MAYBE U CAN RECOMMEND A SITTER IF KEEPS ON CONTINUING U JUST MIGHT HAVE TO HAVE HER MAKE OTHER ARRANGEMENT FOR HER TO HIRE ANOTHER HOUSE KEEPER. BUT BEFORE YOU TELL HER CAN NO LONGER WORK FOR HER INFORM HER WHY YOU ARE LEAVING AND THEN MAYBE SHELL HAVE A DIFFERENT OUT LOOK ON THE SITUATION. ,

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I prefer for a parent to be present or an adult to be in the home while I am cleaning.

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Pull out the contract that you had her to sign when she employed you to clean for her. Show her where you did NOT sign on to take care of her child and therefore can not be liable for him/her.

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yes of course, a lot my clients have a baby on their home. I love child is no problem for me !

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just say no!

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Not petty at all. I'd sit down and have a conversation with this woman. If you are willing to watch the child she needs to offer more money and a set schedule. If you do not want to watch the child she needs to bring in the babysitter so that you an focus your full attention on what it is that you were hired to do.

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Hi everybody! I have one client I've been working with for several months. She gets a little hostile with me at times but I overlooked it and she definitely takes advantage of my kind heart and good nature. My question is she was telling me she pays our babysitter $80 a day when her son is off school. He is in third grade. She has started rearranging my schedule so I come on his days off so she goes to work and leaves him at home. But she happens to throw in things like this is his snack this is his lunch Etc. I told her a long time ago the only thing I do not do is babysit due to having the liability of a child. I know how I was overprotective with my children that's why I don't babysit. She does not pay me any extra I am there doing my housekeeping but she calls me repeatedly and I have to stop doing what I'm doing and take the phone to him how do I handle this situation and should not be getting paid more per hour if she's going to do this to me? She's never asked me to do this she's just throwing it on me and when she leaves I realize what she's done. How do I handle this without seeming Petty? Thank you all.

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I would be completely honest with her. Let her know how it makes you feel, if she's not willing to appreciate you and the hard work you're doing, and at least have the decency to just ask you if you'd be willing to babysit, then she doesn't deserve you. It's not worth giving up your peace of mind.

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Rosa in Mineola, NY
Feb. 5, 2019

no its not

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Emily in Oneonta, AL
Feb. 5, 2019

Do you need this job very badly? If this job isn't the thing holding your finances together and paying the bills, I would first ask her for ten dollars an hour on the days she NEEDs you to watch her kid. That is in addition to what she is paying you to clean her home. If that doesn't go over well with an angry attitude, give her your notice. Is it worth being taken advantage of? No

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Yes no problem

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No a child should not be left in the care of the housekeeper unless previous arrangements are made and pay is also given for watching the child.

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This is true she is asking you to do two jobs. I just read of a job. To help only in the early morning to send they're one child to school. Once he is gone. Get to house work. So as not to ask of you to do two jobs. Then in the afternoon a nanny comes to care for the child. All the best

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User in Buffalo, NY
Feb. 4, 2019

This is 100% wrong. I would tell her right away you will no longer babysit and if she does it again, I would terminate the client. I've been a housekeeper for 20 years and this is not ok. Good luck!

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I would not be comfortable leaving your children unattended by an adult while I was in your home working. Respectfully, Ron Doty

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Yes i can take care

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Ina in Slidell, LA
Feb. 15, 2019

Simply tell her you are unable to do both jobs. Babysitting is a full time job. If you were off in another room cleaning or vacuuming and didn't hear the child do something, she is going to hold you responsible. Tell her she needs to hire 2 people. 1 to babysit and 1 to clean. I hope this helps

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My answer to this question is to remind her that you originally told her that you do not care to babysit, so she will have to find someone else to watch her son. You have a voice, use it.

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I don't think there is a "nice" way to tell her, being nice is what caused her to take advantage of you. I am sorry you have to deal with this situation. I have been there. I am an organizer and at times people try to sneak in or force tasks on me that are not my responsibility, like asking me if I want to go out and get myself a sandwich so they can ask me to grocery shop for them or bring them lunch. I find it very disrespectful. Now you might need to keep this job, but if she is treating you this way she is not respecting you as a human being, I would try to replace her with another household. I would approach her by telling her that you are not trained to babysit, you do not know CPR, and have no insurance in the event something happens to the child, for example if he trips over the cord while you are vacuuming. Tell her that you don't feel equipped to be responsible for a child while busy with housekeeping. What if you leave a cleaning solution around and he ingest it? You are not trained, or have insurance for it. I can't think of anything else other than telling her you are not being paid for that job. Maybe ask for compensation if you want to take it on. Here are the requirements for a babysitter Common Requirements Must be 18+ years of age or older. 4+ years' experience in babysitting. Must provide at least three valid references. First Aid and CPR certifications required. Must have a clean driver's license and reliable transportation. Hope it helps.

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yes that's fine but i will be an extra cash

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Speak up in a tactful manner

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Tell her she needs to pay you an additional $80. 00 a day if she leaves him an home while you are there cleaning, If she says "no", QUIT.

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I am the most calm person that I know. My daughter gives me a lot of practice on patience, and in holding my tongue at times.

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There is nothing petty about setting matters straight. You were hired to clean her house, not care for her child. She is certainly taking advantage of you. If I were in your shoes, I would request to meet with her outside of your housekeeping schedule. Keep it professional and explain what you are there to do. If she doesn't like that, trust me, you will find someone else out there to clean for that will truly appreciate your hard work.

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You have to set some boundary's with her. Tell her you told her from the beginning the only thing I do not do is babysit so if you want to leave your child home while I am here cleaning you will have to find some to watch him. After you tell her that make sure she has arranged for someone to watch him the next time you clean. If she hasn't done that I would not go clean again until she has made those arrangements. You have to stick to that or she will run all over you.

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Ale in Leominster, MA
Jan. 31, 2019

It is fine, i do not see any problem with.

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You're not petty regardless. You need to tell her you do NOT babysit, and if she's going to keep leaving him with you, it's going to cost extra. You're there to clean and this is interfering with that. If she doesn't like it, I would quit because that is outrageous.

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You should be a babysitter or a house cleaner not both. Pure and simple.

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Jema in Tulsa, OK
Jan. 31, 2019

N0,it is not Ok to leave there child,. They should call a babysitter.

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YES, ITS OK

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yes no probleman

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Leslie in Norwalk, CA
Jan. 29, 2019

why nobody can see my profile picture?

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I only do housecleaning, no babysitting, sorry.

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Yes it would absolutely be just fine to leave their child at the house while I was/am cleaning.

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Being taken advantage of is not pretty, it is wrong. You agreed to clean her house not watch her child, that is a separate duty that you need to be paid for. Also, you are a professional and this person is not your friend or relative for whom you would do avors. As a professional advise her that you unless she compensates you for babysitting as well, you are not willing to proved that service. And yes, I have had many insatances of clients who attempt to push that envelope.

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bueno en mi caso fuera sincera con ,la que me contrato ,le dijera que no puedo debido que mi cargo es limpieza del hogar,que le agradesco todo lo que hace como aceptarme como housekkeper, pero no estoy entermino de ninera,

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I think you should have some confidence and stand up for yourself. Be real. You can be honest without being disrespectful.

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First don't think that just because you refuse to be took advantage of that your being petty. Secondly remember that people will only treat you the way you allow them to. So you must set the tone of the behavior you accept right away. Seeing this was not done I suggest the next day you work and as soon as you arrive simply ask her this Question. Will you be leaving your son home today in my care?? If she say's Yes.. Then simply remind her that when you were hired on by her the job duties and pay was for Housekeeping only. If you dont want the responsibility of taking on the child let her know that it affects your time management and the responsibility of a child not yours or (if you want to make the extra $$ add in) and that you were'nt hired to take care is not something that you are comfortable with. So now she has a decision to make . She needs to call in a sitter and not leave until they arrive or take the time to discuss your New pay,schedule and responsibilities for when the child is left at home.

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User in Owasso, OK
Feb. 14, 2019

I would not allow this woman to take advantage of me anymore for starters. She isn't even paying you to watch her child! What are you supposed to do? Act like he is not there? Leave him before she gets home? I think it has been going on for awhile and you will just have to get your guts up to put your foot down.Unless you continue to do what you are doing and not say anything, like-- I will quit unless you make other arrangements, OR pay me $100 / day plus my usual housekeeping wages you if you want to watch the little guy--, nothing is going to change. I am strong on my stance because she knows what she is doing and she knows you won't say anything. Nothing will change if you don't. I am sorry you are put in this situation.

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Martha in Tulare, CA
Feb. 14, 2019

no thank

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Personally, I don't think you would be petty to remind her that you are not there to provide childcare, that is a separate function and fee. You mentioned that she gets a little hostile at times and I would caution that this reminder will probably cause this to escalate or even end in your services being terminated. However, your choices here appear to be limited to (1) continue providing the childcare, all the while being resentful, (2) addressing the situation and possibly losing the client or working in an even more hostile environment. Under no circumstances should you just leave the child there alone when she leaves. The decision/action to leave a child of that age alone should rest with the parent. Good Luck.

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User in Golden, MS
Feb. 14, 2019

I have learned a long time ago...As hard as it may seem, Sometimes you just have to learn to say "NO!"

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No this is not petty. This woman is taking advantage of you. You need to "put your foot down" and tell her you do not babysit. Your job is housekeeper and that is all. You would be liable if this child gets hurt when you are there alone with this child. Do you think this job is so important that you continue to put up with her shenanigans? Good luck. I'd be giving this woman my notice.

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Charm in Spokane, WA
Feb. 13, 2019

No, not without prior agreement and fair compensation.

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Stuart in Raleigh, NC
Feb. 13, 2019

I would stand up for yourself and tell her that she can either pay you to watch the kid or you're out. Very simple. She's taking advantage and being rude as well? Not sure how you're being so gracious and understanding about that personally, but that's just IMO.

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User in Marquette, MI
Feb. 13, 2019

I personally would tell her it's an extra $50 an hour or $50 a day or whatever price you feel is fair you have to let her know that will put an end to it I'm sure

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Shannon in Perry, GA
Feb. 13, 2019

would have a conversation with her on an off day when you're not cleaning and once again remind her of you not wanting to care for children and also let her know what are you there for. An if you do decide to care for her child to let her know you will need to be compensated for that job too. I hope I was some help to you. Please have a blessed day and I hope Jesus see you threw your situation.

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Some people will take advantage of other people. This a time to sit her dowm. And explain I understand the situation you are putting me im and totally feel uncomfortable. For you did not sign up for the position and if does not change will have to reconsider.

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no, it is not okay, if it was never discussed to watch over the child at all than it is not alright .

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In my opinion is def say a big NO. BUT DID U APPMY FOR THE JOB UNDER HOUSKEEPING? Unless the details of the job u spied for included child care or occasional child care I would squash this. U are there to clean how are u supposed to do ur job in the to e required for 1 and for 2 u can't possibly watch something personally age if u are cleaning. So do u do a not so good cleaning while watching child or not watch child n do good cleaning? I'd say ddo the job u are hired for. If u r not ok with verbally discussing it write a note. And the hostility issue should be addressed to. We need to be comfortable n feel safe in others homes u deserve respect as do clients.. ask them to please plan accordingly when they're gonna need child care u so. Pmy aren't comfortable with the responsibility and can't thoroughly do ur work.. hope this helps. It's just my opinion.. good luck. Hope u post an update with outcome

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Be nice and overlook what your client doing and stay focus on your work.

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You need to communicate with the Parents. You need to reiterate the job services you provide, and don't provide. If you are willing to babysit, and clean then change your price. If you are not, then tell them. If they continue to put you in that situation with no additional pay, or get themselves a babysitter. I would recommend leaving that job.

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Isabel in Upton, MA
Feb. 11, 2019

just call the babyssitter

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This happens a lot. Like me, you would do anything to keep a customer happy so you can continue your business. They can push it sometimes once they see they can do it. Sometimes you have to say no. I would tell her nicely, you are not insured to babysit and that if something were to happen you wouldn't want that on your shoulders. It's not fair to you honestly. Pick a day to clean an that's the day you can come. If your stressed it will start to show in your cleaning. And then sometimes you have to walk away. Be firm but be kind about it, if that makes sense. Hope that helps!!

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no it is not ok because iam there to clean .and to master a job i was hired for .and to complete that job to thr best of my ability. and i just dont see how i could manage that and keep my eye on the kids to .i wouldnt want anything to go bad. now if i was told it is ok to stop .my job i was hire to do to watch kids until you do whatever you need to do iam ok with that.

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I would say that unless prior arrangements were made with the housekeeper, parents would have to make arrangements for a babysitter to care for their children. These arrangements would be subjective to the age of the child, the scope of the housekeepers duties,and the length of time the parents are gone. In short-term situations, I believe that the parents and the housekeeper can reach some consensus.

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no its not okay!

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If you were hired as a housekeeper childcare is not your job. If you do not mind taking on childcare than you should politely confront her and just remind her she hired you to clean the house not to also babysit and the extra task of child care if keeping you from being able to complete your housekeeping task the best you can. However, you are happy to watch her child for an additional charge and make sure she knows this may influence your cleaning. If you do not feel comfortable caring for her child you should let her know in a professional manner. Just remind her you were hired to clean her house and that you are not comfortable caring for children so you would rather her not leave her child with you or you will have to leave but you would enjoy working for her and would love to continue cleaning for her.

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