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❄️How do you manage family time with caregiving during the holiday season?❄️

Diane Hoelter
Nov. 26, 2018

Last week, we asked: "What are you thankful for?".  This week our question is:

 

How do you manage family time with caregiving during the holiday season?

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Creative art or gifts that parents can keep forever.

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Nita in Palatine, IL
Oct. 13, 2019

just enjoy

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I, personally, am a big believer that family is important and we should all make time to be with our loved ones, especially during the holiday season. Unfortunately, this can sometimes interfere with our caregiver responsibilities and obligations. So, to handle this, I think it's best to let your employing family know well in advance (like 2-3 months ahead of time) what your holiday plans are and whether or not you plan to be in the area during the holiday season. If you are not going to be in the area, maybe see about finding a sub for your position if the family really needs care while you're out of town. Make sure your sub is someone reliable though, because it does and will reflect on you if something goes wrong in your absence. Of course, you may need to be open to cancelling your holiday plans as sometimes, as frustrating as it can be, your job needs to take precedence over your personal life. Most important though is that you are communicating with your employing family. As long as you are making sure to communicate your plans with the family employing you, the rest should work itself out. Hope this helps!

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Kayla in Cordova, TN
Oct. 8, 2019

Setting boundaries with the families I caregive for!

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as a caregiver/babysiiting duty first before my family...when off work i will give them best time to care them.i will woke up early n prepare their needs before i go to work..

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I think having a sit down with the family you care for is important let them know your concern and see if they have any times where they could let you off early or have special days with your family.

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Y'lana in New York, NY
Sept. 19, 2019

i will go to work and after work i will go back to holiday

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Maria in Berkeley, CA
Sept. 17, 2019

I agree to take caregiving on holidays.

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Pamela in Seattle, WA
Sept. 12, 2019

I use a agreement with the families I work with. They know I will be there when I agree to be and they depend on my excellent care. I am flexible within the guide lines established through our mutual agreement form. The families I work with are happy that I have boundaries, as they do as well. If something comes up we both communicate well in advance and help it work for both parties.

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Paola in Brookline, MA
Sept. 10, 2019

You are the caregiver and want to spend time with your own family? I mean, this is a completely personal and family specific answer. If you have financial needs or goals that you're focusing on that take you away from your family, hopefully it's temporary and you can have those conversations with your family. If you're gone regularly (including holidays), it might be important to find other times (not the traditional holidays) where your family can have time together (each holiday and day is only as important as you determine it to be in your own mind...is it important that your family gets together on Christmas or is it important that your family gets together?). If there are only certain holidays that you work, make up that time on the next holiday. I think the overemphasis on holidays and family time on holidays is unnecessary and completely conjured up in our heads. People see each other 364 days a year, but are traumatized if they don't see each other on one particular day that society said should be important...it is a bit bizarre. Make family time when and where you can!

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Hi! I am interested in being your nanny/babysitter! In my experience with social work I realized that children are a great responsibility that I'm willing to take on. I've spent hundreds of hours paying careful attention to them and caring for them. I think that there are ways to make the best out of any situation, even despite the unfavorable conditions some children may have been born into. By accepting and then adding to their experiences with love and values as I have done in the foundation of Ciudad Bolivar, I believe any child can have a bright future. I also believe that through listening and serving them that they manage to acquire invaluable knowledge and life experiences that they might not otherwise have had, as is the case of the care that I have provided for my neighbor. Resume Work * Community Psychology August 01, to November 21, 2016, Bogota Colombia * Educational Psychology February to May, 2017. Bogota Colombia * Clinical Psychology August 01, to November 17 2017, Bogota Colombia * Program Au Pair In America from July 23, 2018 to March 23, 2019, USA

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Ask for days off far in advance and stack them when you can. For example, if you get thanksgiving off, try to get Black Friday off too so you can spend a long weekend with family. Ask the family what their needs will be and try to stick to them so you don't get taken advantage of by being asked to work more than you're willing to.

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Ask for time off and offer that you won't expect pay for those days

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Everyone wants to spend time with family during the holidays. I already have plans to spend Thanksgiving in Boston with my family. I will respect my employer's needs for their holiday schedule and together we will come up with a mutual advantageous plan for everyone to have family time. It is best to discuss this during the interview so there are no misunderstandings.

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I wouldn't get too personal with questions like that, but rather something like, " will you be able to still work the hours....., during the holidays? Keep it simple, remember they are your employees.

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Well, almost everyone is working at least 8-12 hours a day. For me I have my personal calendar. I will write down every thing I need to do with date, time and an extra traveling minutes to avoid stress. I need to know my limit and less my commitment to other especially if it's not that important. My job and family goes first.

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Kaylee in Memphis, TN
Aug. 23, 2019

I would just approach your bosses, tell them you wish to take off, and ask them what days are most convenient for them. Make sure you do this at minimum a month in advance and then follow up 2 weeks in advance, bonus points if you can find someone that can cover your shifts

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Alyce in Honolulu, HI
Aug. 20, 2019

Have conversations sharing thoughts of what we do daily and being grateful each day for another day. Using calendar posting a board on the wall, having family meetings. Using time management and setting goals writing. Them down and discussing with your family will help a lot.

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Meghan in Lebanon, PA
Aug. 15, 2019

It is extremely hard. Sometimes I took the children over my parents house if it is ok with there parents. You start getting really close with them and they trust you on taking their kids anywhere. I took the kids to my holiday cookie making party and they had a ball. I also brought my step daughter over their house to play with them and it was great. Once you gain trust you become like family and the holidays become one big family when you have cared for their children for a long time.

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When you are becoming a nanny, you are also becoming apart of their family! If you have certain occasions/holidays that you would like to spend with your family, let them know! As they have kids as well, they will understand that your parents will want to spend some holidays with you! It will be a give and take relationship with work but sometimes you have to make sacrifices!

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Amy in Zuni, VA
Aug. 7, 2019

You work with your family very early on dates that are very important to you. Amy Carr

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Always keep a log book and projects for the season and a wish list for grandchildren and children I am babysitting for.

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schedules and planning!

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Maria in Encino, CA
July 19, 2019

I enforce my time management rule which is to be fair and respect everyone's requests and try to accommodate all without sacrifsing my sanity!

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Linda in Roswell, GA
July 18, 2019

I visit my son in Buckhead. I rarely visit my sons in NY cause they come to GA.

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It's so important to have a contract. That way the family you work for has agreed in advance to any time off you plan on taking. Specify what holidays you will/will not be available for, or if you will be taking time off, reducing hours, etc. This gives them notice from the get go, they need to find alternate caregivers for that time frame. You can't be a good caregiver to others, if you don't take care of you:)

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I've been working on major holidays with a lovely family that has a high functioning 11 year old Autistic child as well as 10 year old twins. I usually balance family time by meeting my family in Marin/Sausalito for a nice lunch and hike and then head to Belvedere or SF later in the evening. This year I may choose to go to Hawaii with my family but plans haven't been set just yet. I like seeing my rotating families during the holiday season, in the past my families have always gone away for the month or for weeks and always give me time off too. Nannying has so many perks, it's really a great career.

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Family is incredibly important but also we have to understand that we have made a commitment to someone as an employee. I think working the holiday schedules out on hire or far in advance is helpful because you have time t plan a celebration with your family but you can also provide early availability for the holidays you spend alone.

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I believe you need to let your family know that you may need to work during the holiday season, and ask if there are any plans or times that they would prefer you to be there. If you currently have a job, I would talk to the family about what would be most important to attend and then discuss with the family you are caregiving for to see what their expectations are for the holiday.

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Katherine in Kent, WA
June 27, 2019

It's very difficult to balance, but important to avoid "burnout". Everyone is different but for me taking family to do something relaxing like a pedicure just takes the stress off.

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Whatever is a win/win situation for both it will be worthy for both parties.

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My kids are older and not so much as needy as they once were. Because of this, time has to be set around schedules of all, at least gather once a week or as much as can be done. Not a chore-but out of love! Food, fun, laughter, enjoy family time as much as you possibly can, just like any other fun time! Will not be long until wondering where the years have gone and with them took my little ones......NRS

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Lena in Plano, TX
June 23, 2019

work only 4 hours no less if the respect you You will get time off

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User in Benson, NC
June 17, 2019

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I divide my time between family and being a caregiver, my families with children count on me.

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well with me the family that I am taking care of their girls they pretty much know my family they are like my family also I have been taking care of their kids since the oldest was 2 or 1 she's now 9 years old

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Lydia in Odessa, FL
June 10, 2019

our family doesnt celebrate the holidays, but we do have many family get togethers during the year.. those times are equally important and its a time to get together and laugh,play games together,be silly and enjoy our family bond

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Just like any other job! (Except this "job" is way more fun! :))

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Request time off to spend time with families or just have "Me" Time, you devote your time and energy helping others, you need to practice self-care.

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Remember care givers have family too. I would always get the holidays off, but I would always be offered to spend them with the family I worked with.

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I think you need to speak before with the families and make a scheduled because is good that all of one knows that.

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I work around the clients' schedules, often helping to cook or serve at their dinners. The two of us at home either celebrate the day before or have a special breakfast such as Dutch babies and then have a pre-prepared late supper.

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I adjust my time to suite work and private time during holidays. I may have to forego some of the things in order to satisfy other ends.

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Need to change locations on my profile. I do that on edit but it still takes me back to South Carolina location. Help

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Yes, it is necessary to have a certification. For example First Aid and CPR

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Discuss this ahead of time with your employer! Find out what they expect of you when it comes to holidays as far ahead of time as possible so you can manage your own expectations.

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You should explain to the parent and the nanny Family and that depending on the situation also that time is given and take. is a Holiday.

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Get positive feedback on your family back up emergency plan for unexpected absences and holidays. Most families take special time off and some may want to fill in for you such as aunts, uncles, or grandma and grandpa.

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Hi, my name is Lucrecia my friends call me Mily. I have 18 years of experience and excellent references. I care newborns up to 6 years, I m very tidy, punctual, honest, and I dedicate 100% to the care and protection of the child. Thank you for your attention.

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Kayla in Sandown, NH
April 28, 2019

i share it with them

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Andrea in Cerritos, CA
April 18, 2019

Scheduling priorities is essential. Managing family time with care giving during the holiday season will be accommodated.

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I have a responsibility first and foremost to my employer--this is true with any job. If any conflicting family events come up, it is important to communicate that with the employer. Beyond this, how I would manage is purely situational and requires empathy within my specific situation.

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User in Vancouver, WA
April 18, 2019

The family and I plan ahead, for vacation, holidays, etc. I want them to have time together and also myself with my family. All of this is possible with proper planning and communication.

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Don't do holidays

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Kate in Weatogue, CT
April 18, 2019

I am always making sure that i am there to feed to the pets no matter what. I have house sat for more then one cat, for 5 days very often. Holidays are no issue and I will make sure that im am there for what ever they need.

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Hi, I recently moved to Vallejo, my information says San Francisco, because I have always worked in the Marin area and also y Have a room in San Francisco. I have 18 years of experience and excellent references. I care newborns up to 6 years. If you would like to know more about me please contact me. Thank you.

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Cameron in Portland, OR
April 10, 2019

Have open communication with both your family, and your employers. As long as you are honest, and do your best to work with everyone, i doubt their will be any problems. At the end of the day we caregivers are human beings too, and have to be assertive to be successful in both family/work domains in life.

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Rosa in Daly City, CA
April 10, 2019

I am a caregiver.

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Hi Ipek, I have experience with newborns and infants my last job ended 23 days ago I had a boy 2 1/2 and the baby 6 months. I have excellent references, I'm punctual, responsible, extremely careful, in 18 years I have never had an accident with children.

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Even though it's a Holiday, I will still come work if needed.

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Kelly in Milford, MA
April 8, 2019

usually, I'm not hired on holidays but I have babysat on NYE for the past for years. But if you have plans, your welcome to decline and spend your holiday with your family.

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User in Denver, CO
April 6, 2019

Give them plenty of notice!!! Be honest and let them know you'll need the time off if family is traveling to you.

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Christine in Buford, GA
March 30, 2019

Easy, do not overcommit yourself. Communication is so big and make sure both the families involved with your life schedule and that you are communicating with them.

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I would just say and be honest my family spends time during the holidays together and I would like some time off

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Jennifer in Gardena, CA
March 19, 2019

DECORATE IS MY MIDDLE NAME

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Melanie in Richmond, KY
March 15, 2019

I think it's best to let the parents know that the holiday season is important to your family.

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As a professional caregiver I make sure that those I serve know, in writing, the days I will be taking off prior to being hired. Unless you are working for an agency, it is up to the person or family you are working for to make additional arrangements. Always remember, you are a professional

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For my job, I'm given the three main holidays off(thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day), so if they plan a trip around that time I do not go with them. But I'm expected to go on the trips with them if they start the day after. Basically I just make sure that my work won't keep me from going home. But it is quite difficult.

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Get it straight when you are needed and when family is available. Grandma doesn't need you to be with her, nor does she probably want you. Think of what you'd like to do for the Holidays, first and put it all out there as soon as possible from the time you ever begin working for them.

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How do we manage family time: The value of time-"time is gold" so we use it in a meaningful way like playing together our likes and dislikes. Reading good books and make it fun by answering some questions written on a rolled strips of paper. The one who got the most answers will get the a rewarding surprise. Cooking together and teaching them the value of sharing work, play and eating. Going to the park and visiting some friends and relatives also helped everyone develop friendship and camaraderie among friends, relatives and families as well.

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Most people are free from work during the holidays and want to be alone with their children. I leave it up to the parents to decide if they want a caregiver during these times.

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First is my job and then my family during holiday season.

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Anne in Duxbury, MA
Feb. 24, 2019

Normally you would have Holidays off. Probably not paid for though

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I work my schedule around my Nanny position, my job is important and comes first.

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Dawn in Newton, NJ
Feb. 10, 2019

help out wrapping

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Amy in Zuni, VA
Feb. 10, 2019

Start early. Ask your family what are their expectations and days off are. If there seems to be a conflict, work together,have a give and take attitude and mutual respect for one another. Also, see if there is any give and take with situations. For example, if it is imperative that your family needs care during a very important gathering of your family during the holiday, see if for an exception, their children can be brought to your important gathering. This is not something that is a daily occurrence but work together to accomplish things. Amy C

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make special games, nice gifts, make it personalized for each person .

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umm maybe try to discuss those situations with the parents or guardians and ask if you can be home for the holidays

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In case a family call for help or to seek any advise from a caregiver it will be very nice to respond quickly and in a respectful manner once the caregiver is now part of the family.

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have fun and treat the children as humans, kids are not property

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we're thankful whatever we have!

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helping parent with any activities plan and let to know to children about Holliday season we are celebrating.

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That's a tough one. The family you sit for should understand that you want to spend time with your family during the holiday's.

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I am a single adult whose children live in the same city and frequently invite me over for dinner. I maintain a busy schedule and keep everything written down. I work 5 mornings a week at a retail store, two evenings a week I volunteer at church and three afternoons a week I babysit. So scheduling is a must. Then when I am with my family I can direct ALL my attention to them and give them my quality time.

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Caregivers must be able to give help to parents when they are in need with their help.

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Family time is so important cause it the time you have to learn about what important in your spouse, and children lives. You have to balance working, and spending time with your children.

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Brooke in Petal, MS
Jan. 2, 2019

Take a break and see your family

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during the holiday I be with my family and do family thing with my grands and just enjoy my children

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Accordingly and with consideration to the individual ways the holidays are celebrated; that and good food and fun games!

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Tiffany in Bush, LA
Dec. 18, 2018

I try not to work on major holidays, like Christmas or Thanksgiving. I feel that every family should be together during those times, but I am always open to work New Years Eve or Halloween.

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In this case there should be an agreement and need to sacrifice or consider to each other not always but once in a blue mood.

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I do not work full time, so working in time for myself and my family isn't an issue for me right now. My MB has the week between Christmas and New Year's off and therefore, I will as well, which gives me a nice break!

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Susan in Debary, FL
Dec. 4, 2018

I lost my husband 5 yrs ago. I have no family so no Holidays.

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If the family needs me during the holiday season, I try to be as understanding and helpful as possible. I like to come to agreements for scheduling that benefits both myself and the family.

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Marva in Greer, SC
Nov. 28, 2018

With all do RESPECT, I do not celebrate holidays, but I respect people that do..I have no problem with working on Holidays.

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How much should you pay for a babysitter?