Boarding dogs when your own dog gets jealous!
I could really use some advice on boarding dogs. We have been boarding dogs and cats all summer. Our own dog loves cats but she doesn't love every dog that boards with us. She gets jealous of the attention we give to other dogs (though has no problem with us petting cats) and it can cause friction which means we have to keep the visiting dog separate from her except on walks and outings where she's very friendly. Occasionally we board a very laid back dog whom she loves and everyone can mix all the time. We have the means to keep animals in separate parts of the house if necessary and we always make sure everyone gets lots of tlc and exercise but I find it stressful when she doesn't get on well with a dog and I worry about safety if someone jumped a pet gate or the kids left a gate open etc
I wonder if everyone that boards dogs has pets of their own that are welcoming to all other dogs or is it a common issue that dogs don't get on well with each other at all times?
Thanks in advance!
i would suggest pack walks you can find them all over town and go to parks and stuff training her around other dog helps with jealously!
I do not board dogs anymore, because of the huge pet restriction list ;however; if you introduce her to the dogs on neutral territory first, before bringing the other dog into your home, for example like a park or pet smart, or a big yard, just not your own. Then when she meets them in your house, it will seem like second nature.
For me my dogs are the most important as Im sure yours are too. I board many animals and when my dogs dont get along with that animal I muddle through it and dont board that animal anymore.
when your boarding other animals still give your animal you love and attention so he doesn't feel left out or jealous
Its probably a dominance issue.
Dangerous to continue to board dogs that don't do well with your pets
Hard to say. My Schichon is very territorial.
A few months ago my uncle came to spend Thanksgiving break with my family and brought his small dog with him and our Alaskan Malamute spent nearly the whole week howling at him. If you're dog just gets yappy and not aggressive it's up to your judgement but it might be okay to leave the two together. Two things that brought my uncle's dog and my dog together was treats. It mesmerized them and keep them from barking at each other. Another thing is we took them to a dog park and they ran around together without a problem. If you have a fenced in back yard and you're sure that the dogs won't get aggressive, that is something you could try. I hope everything works out for you!
pets are never boarding they are sometimes try to get you know them from their point view
i help they give birth and clean they little ones and not play favorites between them both
I think that dogs are like us in that we don't like certain people and it is the same with dogs. My dog doesn't like small dogs but loves bigger ones! go figure.
Think of them as human. Would you want someone else coming over every other day or week taking your person away from you. Some people we don't mind, and other we hate. I think you have to decide if the dogs you pooch doesn't agree with are worth watching. Maybe you do some meet and greats or trial days before committing to that client.
I wouldn't take on dogs that my dog is jealous of, sorry- but it is your dogs house, not the visiting dogs. Like you said- it's a safety issue and I wouldn't risk it. Stick with the cats and the laid back dogs only.
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Very common! Dogs (and cats!) are territorial and always seek to protect. To them you are being naughty by inviting all of these strangers. It's very normal and something you will have to take case by case. When you notice the jealousy be careful to give your furbaby as much attention as possible and then some! Little treats don't hurt either ;)
It's very common for dogs not to get along with other dogs when they are introduced into their home. I worked at a doggie daycare once, and it was all about trying to figure out which dogs would get along with which other dogs. Like people they all have different personalities, and it sounds like you will need to target 'laid back dogs' and separate them when they are not. Good luck!
Most dogs dont always get a long with other dogs especially if they have a dorminant natural temperament. If you meet a dog that you intend to board and care for temporarily, I would limit the frequency in which you board dogs if the boarding environment tends to disrupt your own peace in your own home.
I currently do not own a dog, but shared my life with a sweetheart of 14 years. Some dogs just don't get along with specific other dogs, just like people do. I sympathized with you. Best of luck!
I try to always give some attention to my dog at same time as another dog. Keep them on opposite sides of you. If you see your dog growl or do anything pre-aggressive & say no several times to the dog. Dont force dog to sit or hit it, just use only verbal commands.
I would attempt showing both dogs attention at the same time. Maybe even hide a treat and show your pup that's it's okay to show her love and another dog then she will think HEY I got a treat. Maybe give that a shot unless you have a very aggressive dog try a muddle and bring the dogs around each other and if she responds nicely give her a treat so she knows it's okay.
Hi Carolyn! Your vet or animal trainer could be of assistance here! This seems a problem dealing with jealousy and maybe even territory; some dogs really have an issue with territorial rights, although most dogs do not. I am happy you have separate quarters for those dogs that are not of the pack and they will not accept dogs not of their pack! Dogs are conditioned to live in harmony with other dogs and cats; however, some express pack mentality and you are very wise to pick up on your dog's fear, because it is very real and she could get hurt. I really would suggest you expand on your kennel to protect all dogs to avoid personal injury and lasting emotional trauma, as you seem to be a caring, kind animal boarder; I wish you luck and I hope my advice helps! Best regards, Terri M.
It may help to have a pre-meeting before you board the dog ...maybe a dog walk or take them both to a dog park Some where outside the home .
As your dog appears jealous at any time, do not reward her. You're rewarding her jealous behavior. If she barks while you tend to the other dogs, wait until she's calm, and then reward her. I would never yell at or physically discipline your dog if she becomes jealous.
You could do free evaluations, and only accept dogs that don't stress yours out.
It's natural for your dog to get jealous, one thing that can help is if you keep doing your job, eventually she will get used to the divided attention, but maybe invest in finding a toy that you dog really enjoys. I hope I could help!
I do have a dog that didn't get along with one of the dogs i was pet sitting, but she was really excited to see the dog. So we let them be around each other in moderation so they would get along. Just dont forget about giving lots of attention to your own dog. I also believe this is very common.
make sure I'm always including them when I'm around all the other dogs
You should always bring boarding animal in thru the back yard. And make sure your pet is in the yard prior. Slowly let them into house. I always serve them together. Sometimes this works and other it doesnt. We have a rat terrier who acts the same way at times
What you must first understand is that your dog is like an only child, she has always been able to have your attention whenever she likes.Also it is completely normal for dogs to become jealous of others. The first step is too teach her some patience, when feeding her have her sit in one spot and wait for about a minute then, show her a little affection so she knows you are happy with her, then and only then place the bowl on the floor. slowly but surely extend that time to two minutes then five. Once she is doing well with that, we move on to the next step. Manners and how to be a good host. When a new dog is coming into your home, bring your dog to the door to greet this (New friend) again there should be a pause before opening the door, no more than a minute. This time is for your furry little friend to calm down & understand you two are having a visitor. Lastly the thing that will really drive home the lesson, HAVE THEM PLAY TOGETHER. Take them out for a walk or a trip to the dog park. If the dog you are sitting for has to be given medicine, have your furry little friend right beside your though the entire process. This way your pet always feels included. It is just like bringing a new baby home, you must find a way to get the older sibling to think a little differently, and see this new being as friend not foe. _Capri
Hi Carolyn, From my experience working at animal hospitals and pet resorts and closely with animal behavior, animals simply don't like every one they meet, similar to humans. My recommendation to you in this situation is to suggest clients have a "play assessment" drop-in before your potential boarding job, to gauge the interactions between animals. If there is any sort of dangerous behavior potential between the animals, my suggestion would be to play it safe and not accept the boarding job. I know that may feel inconvenient, but pet safety and your safety across the board is what is most important. Good luck! ~Jenn
Hello Carol, To begin, it is a common issue especially with dogs that have been with their owners for 4+ years. This is because dogs are protective in nature and when another dog comes into their home, they feel threatened. Dogs are much like kids, if their mother brings in another child into their home, he/she will feel a bit jealous. I would suggest taking your dog on a play date or doing something extra the day before boarding to reassure them of your love and affection. Also, so that the dog remembers of this memory while the other dog(s) are there and as a result feels calmer and less set aside.
I find it helps if your pet gets to spend sometime bonding with these animals and you avoid quick overturn between clients/pets. Sometimes it takes a bit for other cats to get used to my cat or for my cat to get used to dogs, but given enough time and slow and safe introduction, they do eventually come around.
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I do not board pets
If you are still looking I can help you with your kitty. I love cats and have 3 kittens I just rescued. I have a 3,000 sq ft home in san pedro
spend alone time with your own dog daily, try to spend time with all at same time as well. always give him his food/ treats first.
I have a dog that is hit or miss with others as well, she's absolutely lovely when it's a laid back dog boarding but doesn't take kindly to some of the yappier and more playful guests we have. If it's someone who is/may become a regular (more than once a month) I do try to get my own used to the other animal by allowing sniffing through the gates and proximity with leashes. If it works, the dogs are usually fine after 3 or 4 visits(I never trust them enough to leave them alone together, not worth the risk). Sometimes it's a no-go, and like you, gotta give everyone equal love and make my rounds so nobody feels jealous or hurt. It can definitely be a bit stressful worrying about everyone's satisfaction. I don't force interactions, because like people, you just can't always get along and I feel that goes for dogs too.
Fairly common for a dog to guard their resources as you describe. Keeping them separate is the best way to keep everyone safe. You could work on counterconditioning your dog to visitors by feeding treats and have fun things for your dog only when you have visiting dogs. Consult with a professional trainer or behaviorist in your area for a specific management and training plan.
My dog gets along with others dogs pretty well, but doesn't make the first effort to socialize with them. Dogs are naturally territorial, so reassuring them to know that you're not replacing them in activities such as playing with them with their toys/ making sure the other dog has their own toys, is helpful.
I can't board cats or dogs. But can spend the night watching them/
keep them home,make make it adapadable hire a sitter. or take your friend with you
Hi Carolyn! so I think this could be a very common issue with other people that "board" other peoples animals or pet sit from their own home with their own pets as well. Unfortunately Unless your dog gets along with all dogs i would just suggest not boarding or pet sitting from your home, its stressful, and can become dangerous for everyone in the home, the adults, children and the animals.How ever it could also very well be too much going on in your home for your dog (she sees it as her territory) which could be why on walks and outdoors she gets along well with other dogs. Maybe try letting the dogs meet prior to the other dogs staying over night. wishing you the best of luck, hope this might help. -Emily!
Sometimes the dogs just need to be able to meet in a neutral space first, if you're not already doing this. Another thing I've found to be helpful is petting them at the same time, whether it be two different people or one person petting both at once, then reward for good behavior. If your dog continues acting this way and becomes more aggressive I personally would discontinue boarding to give your dog a break. (You can always begin again once you feel your dog has had enough time)
Hello! As someone who has owned several dogs and has studied a good bit of dog behavior and worked at shelters and dog daycares, I have noticed that some dogs get along with other dogs better than some. It seems to be completely normal. Is your dog that is having issues older? One thing I noticed about what you wrote is that you said she gets along with the dog that is calm? Usually older dogs are more mature and want to put younger dogs in their place, for instance if the dog she isn't getting along with is super energetic and all over the place, she may have to urge to correct that by giving a growl or a nip to calm the dog down. If she gets along with some dogs and does fine on the walk, I wouldn't say she is an aggressive dog, but is more of the alpha where she wants to control and correct. Its hard to pinpoint the exact behavior without seeing it, but one thing you can do is create boundaries with her when a new dog comes in that she doesn't get along with. You can have her lay near you but not right next to you and the other dog as you give the other dog affection, so she knows its ok to be close by but not have to control the situation. If you repeat this over and over you should see some good results. Since other dogs are entering her territory it will be natural that she is going to be a little more guarding of your house and you, but if you treat them all the same and keep each dog as calm as you can and work on boundaries with her in each area of the house, you again should see some good results. I hope this was helpful and I wish you the best! -Amanda
Hello Carolyn, Kathy pet expert here. Currently I go home to home to offer my services in pet care, walking, training or sitting. Last year I looked into getting my own property for boarding. Every town is different but this town ask that a property for boarding be more then 4 acres. Space/distance between dogs that don't get along will decrease the amount of dress. My other experience was with a k9 that the town had asked the fencing be 6ft. 6ft fences and kennel covers will help you contain the pets better. The dogs need to be safe. I also have a little boy that sometimes goes with me to the training classes. The children have to understand how important these pets are to you and to them. I suggest the children not be around. Ms. Kathy AKC CGC Evaluator
Hi Carolyn, You need to hire a professional dog behavoiralist,that said... Sounds like you know you are putting other dogs at potential risk of harm if your dog doesn't like them or gets to them by accident, in that case until you solve the issues you should not be offering to board dogs. If you decide to continue without correcting the issue it is on you,hope you have good pet sitting insurance.You also need to be honest with anyone who is considering leaving their dog in your care,let them know so they know what the risks are.
Try to spend some special one-on-one time with your dog. Could be almost anything; special walk just for him/her, special treat, or maybe a good 5 minute petting session for only him/her. When I am gone for overnight care, I usually try to change into neutral clothes that I keep in my car so they don't have the scent on them. Anything that goes to an overnight gets washed immediately or put away. These things seem to work for my beagle duo at home. Hope this helps!
When dog don't get along with other dogs and they try to steel the attention back from you, it might be because your dog feels as you are trying to replace them or your dog just doesn't like the way the boarding dog.
keep them seperated from each each other
I think that when you are boarding someone else's dog, your dog being territorial, which most would be, might have a problem with another dog being there
That makes for a very stressful stay for all of you. My dog has always been very needed and possessive of me, he also gets jealous. Do you do a meet and greet prior to boarding? I have all the dogs meet on the sidewalk (a neutral place) and I praise my dog constantly for being well behaved with the others. He loves the praise and it has encouraged great behavior. I give them all treats also. I have the visiting pet owner(s) spend time with us in my house and that helps them all get acclimated. My meet and greets last about an hour. It has helped tremendously.
Hi there. I have never boarded dogs before in my own home, however I worked for a dog shelter for a good number of years. While working, I have notices the same things you are describing with your dog and the visiting dogs. This desperation for love and jealousy your dog has seems to be due to separation anxiety. It is very common in dogs, 1 in 3 dogs have it. My own dog has it. When this anxiety is not addressed in it's early states it can turn into aggression toward other animals when they are being given the love they believe they deserve. The treatment for this issue is not a cookie cutter fix. It is different for all dogs. I would love to help you more. Feel free to message me.
Hello, With any animal it is always best to do meet and great. It is good your dog gets along with the cats and does well on walks with the other dogs. Sometimes depending on the personality of the dogs it can create friction or jealousy because the home/food dish/toys is their area and may not want to share it with another dog that may be energetic or needy versus the laid back dog. unfortunately its not something you can force them to do because they just may not pair well or get along. keeping them separate is good but if there is tension there may be issues if it gets out of the baby gate. you can try giving attention at same time or same amount. You can try playing with them out side throwing balls or Frisbee or toys so they both have time with you. I would keep eye out on any weird behavior toward each other that may cause tension and lead to aggression. It good to try wear them out if they are high energy. Ultimately though the personality may not be good fit and they just may not be paired well together and you may have to keep them separate.
Hi, Carolyn! I believe all dogs can be like your dog. You have a lot of strangers coming into your (and your dog's) territory. My dog is also very friendly. He's very curious about other dogs. It depends on what dogs you are bringing into the territory though as well. By nature, there are dogs that are more dominant or submissive. Maybe the dogs your own dog doesn't like demand for your attention. For example, a dog comes over to you and DEMANDS you pet them by touching you with a paw or forcing their head under your arm. This is a sign to other dogs that that dog that is getting your attention is claiming dominance. Your dog has already established their own rank in the home, with you as the Alpha dog. So another dog swooping in to become a dominant figure may be unsettling for her. I hope this helps. You can always try to give both dogs the same attention at once! It works well that way for my dog. Good luck, and I hope this can answer your question!
Hi Carolyn, I understand your frustration. When it comes to animals you can never be too safe though. This sounds like a very high tension environment for you and your dog to live in. Which can easily become an unsafe situation having guests (pups) separated. It is always best to be safe than sorry, I strongly suggest house sitting instead of boarding since your house does not seem to be dog friendly or safe with these conditions. Please reconsider boarding in your home to ensure everyone's safety. Thank you!
It's pretty common for dogs to not get along with each other. Dogs are like humans, sometimes they love other dogs, and sometimes they just don't get along. You can't really force a dog to like another dog, the same way you can't do that with humans.
Hey there! The best advice is to do a meet and greet. If there is any sign of aggression or dominant behavior displayed by either dog, you need to continue boarding with separate areas. I never take on a client that will cause added stress to my pack. It is common to run into territorial behaviors. Just be smart.
I don't board dogs only sit at dogs home. I have a sweet heart rescue but bringing another dog in her home she is very protective wouldn't risk the safety of one of my clients
Hello Carolyn my name is Sal and I find that to be a very common problem with everyone who invites new pets in their home. My family has always referred me as the Pet Whisperer and I haven't met one animal that hasn't taken to me right off the bat.But I would suggest doing Meet and Greets at your home or near by Parks first so they can run walk sniff each other out first to get acquainted with each other and the location they are staying at. This is Key for me I always bring my dog to meet the new kid on the block! lol Also boarding numerous pets especially mixing Dogs and Cats if they don't know each other can lead to some big problems so be careful. That's good you separate them but isolation can make matters worse everyone needs to be comfortable with each other and respect their space. When I board my pets I make sure I'm with them 24/7 and they are always in my sight. Hope this Helps. Sal
My dog definitely loves some but not all other dogs but it doesn't seem to matter what size the dog is. I have found it is best to meet ahead of time and outside of their territory so they don't feel they have to protect or ward off a threat and can greet one another on neutral grounds. It could be that both dogs want to be the dominate one so they won't get along but they could also warm up after they get over the stranger danger.
It seems that your dog may just be territorial of your home and possibly of your family. If your dog senses that another animal is more dominant, that may be a trigger for your pet. Maybe try introducing your dog with other boarding pets outside the home first before bringing them inside your home. She may just need time outside of the home to get to know the other pets before being bombarded with welcoming a "stranger" into their home. Every pet wants to feel dominant in their home and be able to protect what is theirs, and if they have not grown up with other pets around, they might not be used to sharing toys or their owners. I hope I was able to help! Good luck=)
I don't have a dog! All of my attention goes to yours !! :D
I think that would be a very common issue. Every dog is different so it's important to pay attention to their reactions. It's awesome that our dog is friendly with other dogs! She sounds well socialized but it's understandable that she doesn't like all other dogs that come into HER house and mess with HER people. Your house is her territory and so she may always be territorial with some dogs but she may get better with practice. Taking them on outings together and letting them play outside if they want sounds like it would be good for both of them but letting them run the house together unleashed may never be something she is okay with. I think it's important she at least has a portion of the house that is still hers and that she gets enough attention from her people.
My dog, Buckie, can get jealous too. So he likes to show off by being the fastest runner. When he is around other dogs, he kind of squabbles for the attention. The trick is to love on them both equally. And if you are petting and loving on one dog, give your own dog the same attention. Also, do it when yours isn't looking. That way you can get away with caring for the other dogs without getting the "look."
I think that it is a common issue. Do you do meets and greets before you take in a dog for boarding? Meet and greets help my dog, as she gets to sniff the dogs and get to play with them before they leave and come back. My dog is okay with other dogs, and can get jealous, but she just comes up to us for attention when I am giving other dogs attention. Also if she does seem to do well with a dog make sure to praise her and maybe even give her a treat. This may help her to see that when she does well she gets a treat and a nice pet. :)
it could just be territorial thing. i used to find stray dogs and home them and my 4 year old lab would try to buly the new dog and assert dominance. so i would then take them bot outside to a more open area and let them get familiar. after i see they are getting along. them both being inside was not a issue.
The depending upon the breed of dog or cat,usually the younger they are when you start boarding the easier it will become. A "meet & greet" before you agree to board is imperative. Dogs like people don't like everyone. Be realistic, If it doesn't go well ,it won't go well later After awhile you can tell if it's going to work out right away. .
Hi Carolyn, I suggest you spend some time with each pet at the same time- to show the pets that you can care for all of them and can share your attention. It's normal for dogs to not get along with one another especially when they are new. I also suggest playing games that have all pets involved. It has worked for me when I had a dog and other animals in the house at the same time. Hope this helps! Jenny
Hi Carolyn! I board dogs all the time, and my tiny Yorkie is the most jealous of them all. She goes nuts (not in a good way) if I even look at other dogs. This is a common issue as many pets want all eyes on them at all times. A simple solution is to give attention to both dogs simultaneously to show your affection simply. Good luck! -Olivia
Just keep them separate so no accidents occur.. Thats part of the project.. If you intend to board other persons Pets & you are now aware that your Pet doesn't always approve , you take precautionary measures for the SAFETY of the Boarding Animal & your own... You are making sacrifices on your Pets behalf in order to keep the Peace between them..
My best advice as a long-term pet lover is to have a separate living quarters for the cats. The dogs can be in crates that are crate-trained and the rest of the precious dogs can be in an enclosure with a walking area outside very close to where you house your dogs. The food and water dishes can be in each dog's living area and have their leashes on a wall with a color code for each dog. We built a wall for this purpose; believe me this will save time when many dogs need to be walked or let lose in a safe enclosed area. For the cats, I recommend Cat furniture where they can sleep, as cats do not require as much attention as dogs. Good luck with this exciting adventure and God bless you for caring for these animals; you are a hero!
That is something that should always be discussed with clients. A meet and greet before taking the client's dog is a must to verify that they will get along. Without the meet and greet, you risk jealousy for your own dog and possibly stress for the boarding/visiting dog. It's a huge plus and comforting if owners can assure that their dog will get along well with your dog.
I believe dogs are like people so it's a very common issue. We as humans have our friends and people we click with, and then there are people that are annoying or just rub us the wrong way.
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