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Gonca in Dallas, TX
July 30, 2018

Why the sitters delay their application at the last minute. I talked nearly 10 sitters and all of them postpone... It is really ridiculous. It is not professional

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Sofia in New York, NY
July 30, 2018

Because they maybe found another jobs apportunities

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Good question, could be shopping around for the right family/fit and of course money always play a part.

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Laura in Phoenix, AZ
Oct. 17, 2018

What dates do you need? Where are you located? Laura Frances Zaki, Scottsdale Arizona, Boca Raton Florida

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I understand where you are coming from i have been there and dealt with that before. If i was you i would just respond to the ones that send in a application asap not wait days or years. I know what it feels like just trust me you will find the right person

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Eda in Horsham, PA
Aug. 25, 2018

I think so,,do not take the job seriously

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They may not be seeing your ad till then, but I'm sure it must be annoying. As a caregiver, I will respond promptly if you will promise to remove your ad once you do find someone.

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We all don't postpone! I would never flake on a family especially after having a phone interview or even face to face! Wishing you the best of luck in your search

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It is completely unprofessional and completely ignorant of the sitter to that, especially if (S)he has already made a commitment.

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I don't understand why a sitter would do that. if you are looking to babysit, like I am, you should want to talk to the parents looking to hire you.

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some times we have stuff going on we have to organize make sure everythings going properly

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Miranda in Guy, TX
Aug. 8, 2018

Yes, it really is unprofessional, but try to keep in mind that an emergency or something horrible could've happened. Be reasonable with them and make sure everything is okay.

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people are flakey in Los Angeles. I am not like that. I usually give 2 day notice if I can't help

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They may not want to have to many applications in for one day or time frame. It is unprofessional n I have had same issue the opposite way no one tries to contact until right before day/day needed

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Visit my page and I'll see if I can help.

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sometimes its easier if you provide 2 different times to pick from maybe that might help.

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most probably have other jobs and don't get there scheduled till the last minute if they do answer they are probably just looking for a quick buck.

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I agree the sitter should always make sure they can do the date they set up in the first place

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it is not professional and probably not motivated to do the job.

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No, you're right, it isn't professional. However, we all have times where life happens and we need to cancel.

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Most likely because they want to be the right fit for the children. Possibly though they are just not professional.

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maybe they dont expect that someone will need them right away. They underestimate the need. Sorry that happened to you

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I am seeking one very urgent and I am a very flexible person that will want to be responsible with my clients

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am so sorry you had to go through that bad experience ., i can't answer for everyone but i personally think that when some unexperienced babysitter wait till last min cause they think they might get a better job with a better hourly pay , so instead of being honest with you and upfront about what they are comfortable with and what they aren't they would rather wait . again am really sorry

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If you want someone who is truly looking ask a Mature person. 18/19 might sound good but the immature attitude is they are looking for something, they think.

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I am sorry you had a bad experience. That is something you will not need to worry with Auntie Brunna, mom.

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I currently have a full time job. If I am a part-time sitter and I tell you that I will be there, I will. Sometimes my doctor has to take off unexpectedly, which will leave me open. I see a position that hasn't been filled and I can do it, I will apply.

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User in Houston, TX
Aug. 1, 2018

Yes, it's very unprofessional. I will always tell the family that, I'm babysitting for that I'm free or busy. I won't just postpone at the last minute. That's a bit unfair to the family

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Leah in Pacific, WA
Aug. 1, 2018

May be there is information that when you talked to them you did not disclose or they get engaged elsewhere for better pay.

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Carly in Omaha, NE
Aug. 1, 2018

In my opinion, it is better that they are showing you how unprofessional they are now prior to you hiring them to watch your children. Saves you from a lot of distress and will allow you to find the right sitter for you.

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Ramona in Mentor, OH
Aug. 1, 2018

There are times that an answer is delayed due to other pending applications. We do not always receive an answer as to whether someone is going to hire us or not.

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I think a quick response is extremely important, yes or no, I can or cannot do this job answer.

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try to satisfy them in there needs at all costed

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I promise you if I can the day you request is the day I come

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Im a reliable person.

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User in Milford, NH
Aug. 1, 2018

Many sitters work other jobs that they can't easily get a certain time off from to interview- i've run into similar situations where employers are not always understanding, and it effects both you and your potential sitter.

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It is not professional and they are doing you a favor. Don't hire them.

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because care.com blocks some nannies messages if they get only premium.

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Maybe you are talking to the wrong sitter/nanny. I, and I am sure many others do not delay or postpone any contact with parents.

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Deborah in Vista, CA
Aug. 1, 2018

Well for one the grammar of this question is really wrong! it's terible that a professional site would post this!

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it is very unprofessional,but some are very busy and have a lot on their hands already.

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I will babysit for you! I would love to!! I live in Bowling Green, Kentucky

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User in Phoenix, AZ
July 31, 2018

In my experience the Job postings I see, I respond right away. However, most posts have dates that start that day or the next day. For example I applied to a job listing but the start date was listed as today, July 31st. Had the job been sitting there or was it new? I don't know. I apply when I see it. So many times it's just the website not the caregiver.

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User in Valrico, FL
July 31, 2018

That is very unprofessional. I wonder why I can apply to 30 families and never hear anything.If you are near Valrico, FL look me up.

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well i believe yes that is very unprofessional to have someone postpone their application especially if you need someone to care for your child right away.

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Grace in Hampton, VA
July 31, 2018

I'm not sure if you're referring to an application coming in late or a babysitter responding to your message later than ideal. I know that if a job hasn't been closed and it says it started yesterday (and wasn't a one-time job) I will still apply because sometimes people put in the wrong start date or they're still looking for someone even though they couldn't find someone at the ideal time. As for the messages, sometimes I don't see the notifications for upwards of 24 hours. The app is inconsistent and we are only human. That also means that sometimes we have family emergencies or other obligations that come up and aren't able to check our messages. For religious reasons, I am personally unplugged for at least twelve hours every weekend.

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I think people need to be respectable towards other people time and if there is something that came up and you would not be able to make the appointment you should inform the person immediately and apologize.

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Lisa in San Diego, CA
July 31, 2018

How do I report an employer for being verbally abusive towards his girls and me, as well as not following through with his contract with me? He yelled daily and said I wasn't strict enough... He calls his eldest daughter overweight constantly, when she's perfectly healthy and beautiful. I only worked with him for 2.5 wks. He yelled at me for doing cannon balls in the pool with his girls, saying it wasn't professional or safe, after I told him during my interviews I'm a great swimmer and the best at cannon balls... We also have a contract, saying if on either end it didn't work, we'd give each other a 2wk notice. He fired me last Friday, saying I wasn't strict enough. He's a bully and has no intention on paying me for the 2 weeks. What should I do?

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I am really not sure. This is just like any other job which means you must show up for work and do your job on days you are scheduled. If something comes up that is an emergency its very important to contact a job or a person expecting you to show ASAP because now they have reschedule or find another sitter on short notice

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In agreeance it is unprofessional. However seeing both sides of one story, I believe there could be multiple reasoning for such actions. On one note, it is a possibility the sitter has applied to multiple positions and is weighing out their best option. While it is yet unfair to the family it would be most unfair to hire and have the sitter leave in a matter of a week and rehiring takes place all over again. A second observation could be that an unforeseen emergency has emerged and there is a need to asses the situation immediately putting them in a predicament to cancel. Which leads me to my last point open communication, it's important to communicate what the issue is, from both sides that is. You don't want to burn a bridge before it can even get built.

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Shena in Wichita, KS
July 31, 2018

As a sitter who does NOT delay applications... I consider it unprofessional as well as showing that they don't want the job as much as they're trying to make it appear during interviews.

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Anne in Orlando, FL
July 31, 2018

I believe that based on each applicants schedule they apply as they have time to hop onto Care.com. I try to come on every other day to see if there are new jobs available. I have noticed that there are jobs available for the same day that I am searching and if it is still up then it is my belief that the family still needs care so it wouldn't hurt to apply in case they are still looking last minute.

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Maybe the sitter could have decided to go with a different family. I do agree that's it's unprofessional, the sitter should have given notice.

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User in Stamford, CT
July 31, 2018

Hi! My name is Mary, I'm a experience, lovely and energetic babysitter looking for a full time job. I'm available to work 8:00AM to 5:00PM. Good recommendations.

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They are not confident that they will get the job. Or they are not sure they want to do it in the first place. People do need to show that they are reliable, diligent, caring, and responsible like being fast to apply. Really, the word in integrity. That says it all!

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I agree this is not at all professional. One should be clear in her dealings to save everyone's time.thanks

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Jose in New York, NY
July 31, 2018

Probably the sitters are waiting for a better opportunity, but I think that's not fair because they waste your time and it is not ethical.

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Well, the reasons might but not limited to: 1. accepted another job position. 2. Just changed their mind. 3. Job description 4. they became ill or someone became ill in family. 5. decided to attend school. 6. transportation problems. this is just a few ideas

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I think the sitters postpone the applications =, not only because reading all of them is time consuming, but also because it helps them to decide who is most dependable.

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Hi! I couldn't agree with you more and I'm so sorry this has happened to you frequently. At times I'm sure when getting used to using the site it can be overwhelming. Thankfully, the site also allows you to access so many more eager nannys like me!

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I'm sure why sitters would do that, and it is ridiculous and unprofessional.

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I would agree that is unprofessional and disrespectful of the person's time and plan - especially as it involves children. Responsible, professional, reliable childcare workers can be hard to find which is why it's important to ask specific questions to people who can give character references. As a full time nanny, I give my employers 2 months notice for vacation days so they can plan accordingly.

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I definitely agree with you that is unprofessional. to answer the question as a caretaker it because of the job be so competitive, and everyone is only like for the higher payment and fewer responsibilities. unfortunately, that makes it harder for those that what to do the job because its what they enjoy doing.

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Ashley in Seattle, WA
July 30, 2018

If they delay or postpone their job then they clearly aren't professional enough to handle their job.

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Rebecca F.
July 30, 2018

I received an email from a family wanting to do an interview. Why can't I send her a message?????? However, I can't email her back. What is wrong with this site. I paid and have a premium access. I could loose this job.. Rebecca Follis

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Janice in Omaha, NE
July 30, 2018

I am a 60 year old Nanny and have had to postpone, reschedule or cancel my appointments recently due to contracting a summer cold that is really nasty. I always send a message or text to them letting them know. My intentions are good, but my health seems to be suffering. If I have had to postpone, reschedule, or cancel please my accept my apology. I know your time is extremely important. Jan

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User in Arlington, TX
July 30, 2018

For a guaranteed quick response, look for caregivers with the Care Pro badge on their profile. In order to attain the badge, caregivers must meet a series of criteria, including an average message response time of 24 hours or less. They must also have gotten a background check and at least 3 positive reviews on Care.com. Of course, many caregivers are quick to respond even if they have not been able to get enough reviews or a background check yet, so not having the badge doesn't necessarily mean they will be slow to respond.

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User in Oak Lawn, IL
July 30, 2018

I don't understand why anyone wouldn't answer you. I agree it's not professional. I try to be as up front as possible so people don't waste there time considering me if I can't do what they ask. I wish you luck in your search.

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For many people, babysitting is their primary source of income. If it seems as though a sitter is "stalling", they may be waiting to see if there is another job where they will be able to get more hours or a higher pay rate!

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Jane in Tarrytown, NY
July 30, 2018

I agree, It is completely non professional and disrespectful

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Jacob in Dover, NJ
July 30, 2018

They need time to quit a previous job

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User in Portland, OR
July 30, 2018

I'm not exactly sure. That is pretty ridiculous!

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Gina in Hillside, NJ
July 29, 2018

Sorry ,I did type my application but did not went through,I'm not good on computer.

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I do not understand why? Unless they are currently employed and not ready to apply due to scheduling.

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I am sorry that has happened to you! There are some of us out there that are professional but have patience. I wish you luck on your future need for a good sitter.

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Hi I am a great caregiver, that won't postpone on you!

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Isis in Lemoore, CA
July 29, 2018

In my honest opinion, I find it very difficult to get a job on here, so that could be why or maybe they need to see if it works with their schedule, especially if they have work or school.

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Morgan in Normal, IL
July 29, 2018

I assume it could be that some people on here, looking for a job, are not prepared to find one. They do not have their application process ready to be interviewed, or so be it, and you need to not give them a second chance!

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Actually some people don`t want to quit old jobs.

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User in Bronx, NY
July 29, 2018

Hi I been looking fir a nanny job for 11 months , I have 28 years of experience caring for children all ages and when I get a response from employers they say to me I have a nanny but she not meeting my expectations so I like your profile, they call me and never response again, they play games back and forth texting I don't understand this? WHY these employers play games with honest people who really care about their children and children.

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I think it's due to immature babysitters. Also, many people are holding out or delaying in hopes of a higher paying or easier job. Once you commit to an application, your word is the first draft of your contract. These days, a person's word isn't what it used to be.

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Abi in Bronx, NY
July 29, 2018

I totally agree! The right sitter will be punctual and professional and good at follow up and especially when it comes to finalizing a position. Sorry that, that was your experience, hopefully the right candidate will follow up and confirm promptly.

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User in Massillon, OH
July 29, 2018

Finding a nanny for a family is a very important task. Children are the most precious things in their life. Do not apply for apposition with a family if it is not the most precious to you as well. When a nanny sets an appointment with a family to meet and discuss their position, it is just as serious as an application and interview in any large corporation. It should never be taken to mean, you will do it if nothing else comes up. Children and families are counting on us to be there and provide the very best care, early education, safety and love we can give. And families need to provide a salary to give your child a professional nanny. Children in the first years are just that important!

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They are not serious!

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Jane in Knoxville, TN
July 29, 2018

I feel bad for you. Maybe the sitters are young and don't take their jobs seriously? Not sure but good luck in your quest. Jane

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Amy in Zuni, VA
July 29, 2018

I can' speak for anyone else but I would consider that difficult to work with I believe it is important for both employer and employee to be honest with one another from the very beginning.

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I do not understand why someone would actively seek employment and then not respond when the client reaches out or postpone meeting with a prospective family. Its unprofessional, and your first red flag that they are not someone you want caring for your children!

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I agree that if you make an appointment (for an interview) you should keep it, and do your best to give the other person some notice if you can't.

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Emma in Dowagiac, MI
July 29, 2018

I cannot speak for everyone, but I strive to keep my schedule solid, and would not treat a client like such. As stated it is extremely unprofessional.

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I have been a Nanny/sitter for 14 years. I have never cancelled a day of care for any reason. I am respectful of my Care Family and am devoted to them while their children are in my care. Sitters should have the same respect.

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User in Boonton, NJ
July 29, 2018

With all due respect, I completely understand your complaint. However, as a professional teacher, and now tutor/care provider myself...this does work both ways. It IS indeed a huge red flag, Whether the employee or the employer drops the ball. Sadly, many do not regard"babysitters" with the dignity and respect they deserve. Many are responsive, genuine and conscientious. The same is true for employers. In the end, the children suffer, they are the ones that bear the brunt of poor, impulsive decisions of the adults responsible for their well being. I wish you the best. A genuine, hard working and reliable person is difficult to find, but well worth the research.

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Dana in Los Angeles, CA
Sept. 23, 2018

Maybe the babysitters got other opportunities that conflicted with your schedule

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Nannying can be a numbers game. You are applying to multiple people and sometimes you get another offer or your schedule changes. Also are talking about postponing a meeting or just cancelling their application all together? Postponing a meeting could be because they had something come up or for some reason they just got nervous about meeting you. Cancelling all together could be because they decided to go with another family and simply are inexperienced and haven't learned how to properly turn down a job.

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