1. Resources
  2. /
  3. Parenting
  4. /
  5. Advice for child caregivers

💯What's the best advice you've gotten on being a caregiver? 💯

Diane Hoelter
July 20, 2018

Last week we asked you "What's the most embarrassing moment you've had on the job?  "and you really opened up!  This week our question is:

What's the best advice you've gotten on being a caregiver?

Answers
Shena in Ashland, NE
Dec. 18, 2018

Always keep an "emergency" pack in the car for the kids with: water, snacks, diapers, changes of clothes for everyone, couple toys, blankets, cell charger.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Diana in Chandler, AZ
Aug. 24, 2018

I had an amazing director, mentor, and later good friend, who gave me the best advice when we worked together at a preschool for many years. Basically it was about just being straightforward and honest with parents, always. When you work with kids there are a lot of embarrassing things that come up. Poop issues, sickness, and awkward things like when kids start discovering their body parts, etc. She always approached parents in a straightforward, practical way. Certain conversations can be difficult to have but somehow she made them seem easy, and best of all, done in a loving way. Being a caregiver for children is not only about the relationship you have with the child, but also the parents. You're working together to shape a tiny human. Her advice of being completely honest and straightforward, and doing it in the most loving way, was something I have carried throughout my career working with children.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

The best advice I have gotten on being a caregiver is "Let your inner child out." When dealing with children, you have to be able to connect with them on their level, even if that means making forts and curling around the house. Of course structure and rules need to be followed, but a caregiver is not only the parents choice, we are the child's choice. Definitely need to have a balance of both.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

The best advice I've gotten is to ALWAYS trust your instincts. If a child is being too quiet, there might be something wrong! It's important to always have eyes in the back of your head when watching a child because you never know what they can get into if you blink!

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Its not a one size fits all. This advice works for so many things in life! No two kids are alike and they don't respond the same way to teaching, discipline, etc. You need to be versatile enough to change up how you do things if one technique is not working.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

The best advice I have been given on being a caregiver is to be the best YOU that YOU can be. This isn't just another job or task to do, a family is asking you to help them in their time in need and as a family oriented person myself I see it as a privilege to earn the trust of these hard-working parents to take care of what they cherish the most. So by being the best version of yourself will allow you to be open with the family you will work for, joining their team! Be a team-player!

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Dina in Fort Lee, NJ
Aug. 24, 2018

The very best advice I have received on caregiving is to enjoy and have fun with the children! While this may seem like stating the obvious, it is really a terrific reminder. All children deserve to thrive, laugh, and play every day. Even in the busiest and most mundane moments, children have an innate ability to experience delight and wonder. My role is to encourage that joy.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

The best advice I received as a caregiver was, "Care for a child like it's your own".

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

If you don't love caring for people, find another job.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

to reply to all messages because you may not be able to do it but they may have something that can fit your calendar.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Malie in Katy, TX
Dec. 18, 2018

The parents are always right. Never question parenting methods unless they put the child directly in danger

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Jena in Gilbert, AZ
Aug. 24, 2018

Just this morning I called a friend from elemntary school to wish her a Happy Birthday. She is a care giver and the past 16 months she has helped raise a beautiful girl. Her advice, which I agree with.....It is as you were watching your very own children. Keeping them safe and out of harms way. To me, it means to watch them all the time never keeping your eyes off them. Play with them, Keeping them busy and happy. When it is someone elses child they are priority. Trust is key to having a good care giver.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

User in Allendale, MI
Dec. 18, 2018

The best advice I've gotten on being a caregiver is to also be a friend. I think having a trusting relationship with the children you nanny/babysit/spend time with is very important. A caregiver should be there for them just as a parent or teacher would, and I am glad I have gotten that knowledge passed on to me. Not having anyone to talk to when you're confused or hurt by something is taxing and difficult. Being comfortable with telling your parent, teachers, and caregiver things you're struggling with is valuable and so so important in life.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

The best advice I received was treat each child as your own, like you are caring for your own siblings. It was a huge honor afterwards to be able to help serve, listen to, and educate the children in my facility.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

The best advice I have received regarding being a caretaker, is to be educated and prepared. I think anyone who wants to work as a caretaker, already has a kind and loving heart, it's a characteristic we innately possess. Therefore, I think that the advice caretakers should take and that care seekers should require, is a prepared and educated Nanny. Educated on, Early Childhood Education. (ECE classes) There are 4 classes that can be taken at community college. They equal 12 units and can be done full-time in one semester. This education is the foundation for any qualified nanny and preschool teacher. It is absolutely essential to know what is "developmentally appropriate" for each stage of their little lives. Understanding neurological development enables a caretaker to foster healthy development. Emotional, fine and gross motor development are rapidly growing until age five. Most of there neurological pathways are being formed and it is so crucial that we help to create positive pathways that lead to essential coping skills. These are skills that will last a life time and what every child deserves. A prepared nanny must have Pediatric and Adult CPR/First-Aid/AED. They even have a special class for pool safety that I recommend. These are all topics that my Mother taught me and insisted I acquire. I'm so glad I did, it has made me feel confident in my ability as care taker.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

User in Pittsboro, NC
Aug. 24, 2018

Be honest with the family you care for. If you are unhappy with a certain aspect of the job often times its hard to not let that impact how you care for the children. You may be less tolerable, have an attitude, or act like you don't care and that is never good for your reputation as a childcare provider and it is definitely not good for the family you care for. So, just be open with the parents if there is something you aren't happy with, because a happy nanny is a great nanny.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Deja in Atlanta, GA
Aug. 24, 2018

Try to tend to the children by the guidelines in which their parent/or parents trains them. For example, some parents have a strict time frame of which they allow their children to watch television , you should always honor the schedule and rules of how that parent wants their child to operate.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

that im always reliable and that children take to me easily

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

every child is different so you have to get to know them in order to teach them

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

The best advice I have ever gotten is that I work for the parents, not the kids. Its is important to have fun with the kids, but you need to remember to complete the wishes of the parents.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Jess in Berwyn, PA
July 28, 2018

Never take your eyes off the kids.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

ensure that the surrounding is clean and safe at all giving times. Always be alert and focus on the child and whatever ask by the parents is properly done by their expectation

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

probably never had anything that

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Skylee in Sparta, NC
July 28, 2018

The best advice I have gotten is to be all about the kids, keep the houses clean and nice, be respectful and playful towards the kids, and have fun while being responsible!

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Communicate. Say the hard stuff, say what's on your mind and what you're feeling despite any conflict that you may encounter (burnt out, emotional after family member's death, concerns about child behavior, etc). Listen to your heart and trust your gut. Open up and it will pay off in the end. If it angers your employer and/or costs you your job, then you still have confidence you did the right thing. Trust yourself!

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Communicate. Say the hard stuff, say what's on your mind and what you're feeling despite any conflict that you may encounter (burnt out, emotional after family member's death, concerns about child behavior, etc). Listen to your heart and trust your gut. Open up and it will pay off in the end. If it angers your employer and/or costs you your job, then you still have confidence you did the right thing.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Love and love the child always.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Brenda in Foley, AL
July 26, 2018

Honor what the parents ask you to do.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Best advice I've gotten on being a caregiver-To always maintain the calm no matter how hard the situation, and to never change love I put into the way I treat the elderly because one day I will be rewarded for all I do.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

"It's all about the children, they come first. Their safety and happiness is all that natters".

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Show the kids your there to take care of them not to hurt them.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Kathy in Torrance, CA
July 25, 2018

Focus 100% on your job, AKA the children in your care.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Patience, and more Patience

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

User in Tonawanda, NY
July 25, 2018

Every child is different. What works for one child may not work for the other (and could very well not work for the same child next time you try!). As a care giver and/or parent, you have to be so flexible and patient to decode each child you care for at any given time.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

The best advice I have received has in fact come from care.com, and it has to do with safety when meeting a potential new client family...be cautious.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Don't talk down to children. Treat them as though they are small adults, who have simply forgotten who, what, and where they are. Help them to remember who they are, help to empower who they want to be, and teach them about the world that they live in. We are no better or worse than them... we are their equals and we have the honor of being their guides.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

A good caregiver is someone who is trustworthy.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Patience !!

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

don't be nervous . kids are literally the best creation ever i mean who wouldn't have fun with kids everyone is so focused on phones and apps when you could go outside with a kid who has the biggest imagination that could make them see what you see and its the best feeling you can have . trust me putting down your phone to fight dragons or play princesses and ride unicorns won't be a mistake

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

The best advice I got was just to always think like a kid when watching kids. You want a sitter who is imaginative, creative, comes up with fun activities and games, etc. Think about what you liked as a kid and see if sharing that with them ends up being something they like!

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Noelle in Atlanta, GA
July 24, 2018

Be patient, kind, and nurturing. Their brains are in early development.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Respect, from children and anyone else, is earned, not given.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

The "time out" tactic. It helped me a lot with a 3 year old baby girl I was sitting and she was fighting her little brother and stoped listening to me and star crying very bad so I applied the time out her mom told me about, which was taking her to the corner facing the wall for a 1 minute hugging her and the next minute she was just fine, happy and playing again.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

"Mom's always right!" Each mother will mother her own way and it's up to her to decide how she parents. So if you have a question, call her. If you don't agree with the way she does something, do it any ways and just change the way you do it with your child when you have them.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

I'd say the best advice is to make sure that you always listen to what the child is saying. If they are arguing with you, still do your best to listen so that you are showing that their opinions and feelings matter instead of just shooting authoritative responses before they are finished talking. That way, they will be more apt to be open to reasoning, negotiating, and working out a plan that benefits both of you.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Marina in Irvine, CA
July 24, 2018

as a caregiver is important to maintain a good harmony with the kids, even when we have to discipline theme sometimes

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

My detailed response to the parents about there children and what my advice is to them on any issues or detailed responses on how day went and how loving and reliable I am for the children (family)

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Best advise Is be honest in all that you does when caring for others.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Do what the kids want to do, not what you want to do. Yes, this has some extent, like if the child you are taking care of wants to do something dangerous, proposing something else is a good idea, but find something the child wants to do. When they find something they want to do, they will be more engaged and happy and that's what taking care of kids is all about; making sure they are engaged and happy and safe!

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

When talking to parents about things that happened that day consider bookends. If you have something negative to tell them talk about something positive before and after. They hear the negative but really take home the positive.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Always have patience!

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Stay calm and positive! If the kids see you stressed or getting frustrated, it will rub off on them, and make the situation worse.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Yes, kids are a pain, but you gotta be patient, and take control.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

The best advice I've gotten was to always treat the children you're caring for like their your own because you never want anything bad to happen to them and you always want them to be happy.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Michael in Miami, FL
July 23, 2018

The best advice I have ever received about handling children is to be firm but supportive. If you allow that kind of behavior it only opens the door for more manipulation. Be firm but loving is the foundation for having a great relationship.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Kayla in Phoenix, AZ
July 23, 2018

These kids are more than a paycheck

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Go to School!

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Love is all that matters.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

The best advice was that make sue you watch the child like its you sibling

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

I had gotten dressed in the dark as not to wake my husband. Had my blouse on inside out all day. No one told me,(or hopefully no one noticed). When changing my clothes after I came home...Eeekkk!

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Jerry in Aurora, CO
July 22, 2018

Your not just taking care of a child or children, you're taking care of a family

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Mary in Smiley, TX
July 21, 2018

Be flexible!

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Emily in Norman, OK
July 21, 2018

The best advice I've ever been told by a caregiver has probably been "Take your blessings when they come". I had a nurse tell me that

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

The best advice I've been given it to always have an open line of communication. When nanny and family are on the same page the household runs smoothly.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

safety and love more caring

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

The best advice i have received is to just love the children like your own. This was the best advice to me because loving the child that you are babysitting just makes it 10 times better.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Be yourself. I think that will help in every area in your life.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

To be present and stay in the moment with children while babysitting.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

User in Dequincy, LA
July 21, 2018

Always do the best that you can do and be passionate about it!

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

With kids, always be kind. I have 2 rules, no fighting and have fun. Got that advise from my Mom.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Isis in Lemoore, CA
July 21, 2018

Always make sure that you are able to get along with both the parents and the children.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

patient and love, is the key for everything!

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

User in Raleigh, NC
July 21, 2018

Being a caregiver you have to be willing to teach and learn from the children.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Be open and have a good time.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

To be a good listener.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Lydia in Mesquite, TX
July 21, 2018

Be patient, not every child was raised the same way and not every child reacts the same.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

To always make the children your top priority at all times.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Be yourself. Have fun. Don't be afraid to speak your mind.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Joe in Crockett, TX
July 21, 2018

Q:What's the best advice you've gotten on being a caregiver? A: Be open-minded-especially when it applies to CHILDREN.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

First: if you're unsure about something (like a rule, a gadget, or especially any symptoms children have) don't hesitate to ask. If you try to figure it out alone to avoid embarrassment, you could put the children in danger. The second piece is: if something goes wrong, don't wait for the child to tell the parent in passing, days later. Tell them yourself, and take responsibility, and explain the situation calmly and clearly.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

That I'm trusted. Being reassured is always a great feeling.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Focus on the kids and see what they are really interested in to make sure they enjoy themselves will getting the things done they needed done.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Always remember that each child is different and requires different activities and attention levels.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Make all the kids happy and let them have fun and do something fun with them

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Eda in Horsham, PA
Aug. 25, 2018

It does not metter the tittles,It is important that I enter the world of child and to do the job with love and the child's family to be happy.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Always be professional.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Learn from the mothers and fathers you sit for. Watch them, and figure out how you'd like to be as a mom. Many are super involved but work takes over, and they feel guilty. Notice how parents are before they leave the child in your care. Some kids may need extra attention because they aren't used to their parents' attention. Some might want some independence. It's all about what you feel and what you can learn about being a parent and having someone else's children under your watch.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Laura in Phoenix, AZ
Aug. 13, 2018

Love everyone. Laura Frances Miron Zaki Founder, Peace Love Hope Foundation

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

To never, ever stop loving the children as I do. I am often told that my heart is one of the very best things about me! <3

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

don't sweat the small things and to let kids be kids, all messes can be cleaned up and as long as no one is in danger or gets hurt let the kids make a mess, and use cleaning up after as a teaching moment

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

to be patience and listen to the rules of the parents and app;y them ALWAYS

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

I fell in the river and had to wear the mom's clothes to dry mine at the hotel dryer.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Gina in Hillside, NJ
Aug. 1, 2018

Being honest,reliable,and engaged to their activities, such as,playing with them,doing arts and crafts,the park, swimming and play dates,etc....

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

the best advice i have gotten before from the parents is to always make sure i take pride in my worth because i take care of their children like my own and always make sure their well being is put first no matter the situation we are facing at that moment.

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Make sure you do your job as a caregiver and follow the people that hire you instructions

Leave a comment

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

Leave an answer

Create a free account with Care.com and join our community today.

How much should you pay for a babysitter?