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how do I help my rescue not be so aggressive and anxious

I have a dog I rescued from a maltipoo rescue he's a year maybe? but he is from a Koran meat farm he likes me and one person he hates men and he gets bad social anxiety like me im not sure how to help him he is my best bud I hate to see him so unhappy   

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I would personally have one of my guy friends that is willing to help this issue come to your house where your dog feels safe and sit in a room just him and the dog.Give your friend your dogs favorite treats and have him be very patient but try his best to bring the dog closer and have him open up (Petting/scratching). Eventually over time your dog will grow learning that male figures are okay to be around it all takes time and effort.

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Keira in Richland, WA
Dec. 22, 2018

You have to remember that he was missed treated and never got any real affection. Don't force yourself or others on to him, you may love him a lot but he does not know that. Let him come to you and to others and remain calm at all cost so you can build his trust. Most dogs don't ever recover from such a hard experience, if he doesn't recover then you have to let people know that he doesn't trust people and to kindly keep their distance so he can feel safe.

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Taylor in Warren, MI
Dec. 22, 2018

1.Avoid all situations that lead to aggression during the behavior modification process. Dogs are very intelligent and they are masters at reading body language. They will learn things from every interaction. We do not want a dog that is learning to trust to have a reason to regret trusting. It will be that much more difficult to get it back after something like that. 2.Never reach over a fearful dog, especially if he is cornered or has no escape. Instead call him to you as you squat down, turn your body sideways (so you're not facing him), avoid eye contact (look at the floor near him, but not at him), and stretch out your arm with your hand held nearly at ground level, palm up and open. 3.Never disturb a fearful dog when he sleeping. Instead, call him from a distance, whistle, or make the "kissy" sound. 4.Ask company to cooperate with you and avoid situations that make your dog uncomfortable. This can be very difficult when dealing with family members that think they know better. In these situations, it would be better to keep him in a crate in another room and just avoid the whole situation in the first place. 5.Put a bell on his collar so you can know where he is without seeing him. 6.Never pet him and tell him "it's okay" or "you're a good boy" or anything else in a soft calming tone while fear and/or aggression is being displayed. Instead, wait for him to relax, then pet him and tell him he's a good boy. If the reaction is so severe that he will not relax, calmly remove him from the context. Reward him when he does finally calm down. 7.Never physically correct or punish him. Any kind of harsh treatment will only serve to confuse him and damage the bond between the two of you. Remember, trust and the bond are paramount with a fearful dog. 8.Never leave fearful dogs (or any dog for that matter) alone with children. 9.Do not allow strangers to approach your dog. Instead, allow your dog to approach them, but only after you have instructed them to stand still and not look at him or speak to him in the beginning. If petting is attempted, only pet under the chin and chest, never on top of the head or the back. DCC is paramount in this context. 10.Minimize sudden movements and loud noises. Instead, keep it cool, calm, and collected :-).

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Your best bet would be to slowly introduce him to men first, if your dog is having anxiety you'll first have to have someone friendly come over to your home a couple of times and just interact with you. Make sure your dog knows he is there and is not a threat. Over time he will grow accustomed to the new man. After this you should start having him interact with the dog, again slowly. Things like just talking to the dog and being nice is a great start!

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This kind of thing takes time. My dog was filled with anxiety and would pee when people would reach for her. I started by taking her to the dog park twice a week. I would let her approach people at her leisure and never forced her to interact. Then when she was on the leash, I would comfort her while others approached her from behind or from the side. I was always her straight ahead person. It has been two years since I adopted her. She is still nervous but wags her tail and lets people pet her. She enjoys the attention and many people can't believe the change. All it took was building her confidence in public situations. Just hang in there and be patient. Continue letting your pup endure all types of situations. They only learn by doing.

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Hi! I'm a certified veterinary technician and it sounds like your dog is going to need some socialization training. This can be difficult, especially with dogs that are no longer puppies, however it is not impossible! I think the first step you may want to consider is joining a puppy training class that is geared towards socialization training. If this is not a possibility for you, then you'll have to try some tricks on your own. If your pet is food motivated, then it is always a good idea to start with treats. Instead of using high pitched, really excited voices, have yourself and the new person talk in quiet calming voices. Dogs feel less intimidated if the new person crouches with their body turned side ways to the dog. The new person should not make eye contact or attempt to reach out to the dog. Give lots of treats and slowly work your way towards the new person. Never pull or push the dog towards the new person. Allow the dog to approach as he feels comfortable. It may take several attempts to get the dog to feel comfortable with the new person. You may also want to call around to Veterinary Clinics around your area to see if they offer "happy visits" which would entail a technician working with your dog to make them feel more comfortable meeting new people. Hope this helps!

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I would bring your pup to the vet. Some Aggression issues stem from Disease, and it is best to rule that out. The Anxiety is normal, for a Rescue Pup, he is still young. Start with the Vet, the Doctor would know best, and give you pointers and best practices, even support websites, this issue is complex in nature.

Christine, first let me say that I have been training animals for years. I own and run a horse, goat and dog rescue. I have many in my care. If you listen to those here, you're going to get someone bit really fast. Your dog has been in a very serious situation where he's watched his cell mates slaughtered right in front of him by a MALE BUTCHER. He was transported by males inside a truck where he was squished with others who didn't make it out alive. Any male would be an instant reminder of how close to death your dog was. It's going to take a lot more patience and understanding than just bringing a friend in and/or taking him out around a crowd. If you contact me, I can walk you through some of the things you should do. I can do a training session with you, online, and you can go step by step. Do not..and I'll repeat this, do not do what most people recommend, unless you want to be forced to put your dog down for biting someone. I can't stress that enough. You're not dealing with a normal situation, nor normal reactions. Your dog has ptsd. Yes, dogs get that too. He's in what is known as a fight or flight reactive mode. You will make it a great deal worse if you do what many are recommending here. Contact me and I'll walk you through some activities that will help you and your dog. Rana

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User in Temecula, CA
Dec. 22, 2018

Hi! It's unfortunate to hear of your rescue having been through so much in so little time. Things like this take time to heal from, just as it does for humans. Your new dog may have been traumatized by his experience(s) and just needs extra time to process. About his dislike for men, it must have been related to what he went through. If you have a husband or brothers, uncles, etc, don't have them approach him. It's a very common mitake. His aggression is mixed with his anxiety,which causes fear-related aggression. It can prove to be very dangerous, and you don't want to spike it. Instead, have them in the same room, without any interaction between the man and your rescue. That said, no calling his name, no eye contact, and petting. This way, he will be able to start re-training himself to believe that not all men are bad people. Being super anxious yourself may actually make his anxiety worse, so it may be something you both have to work on together. He will break out of this constant anxiety eventually. Just give him time, and don't force him to change quicker than he's ready for. Good luck, and I hope this answers your question!

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First, let's understand this dog is only reacting this way because of his experiences, so you must combat those horrible memories with new good memories. With a rescue you are almost starting all over from a puppy. This will not be an easy road i promise but as long as your are consistent, and kind with your animal it will work out fine. First thing we must do is SOCIALIZE SOCIALIZE SOCIALIZE!!!! This is so important, even when working with a puppy especially a bully breed, they tend to turn aggressive when they feel threaten, or have not been taught there is nothing to fear. So take your dog out, where there are as many people as possible, and just sit there. The first few time are going to take a lot out of you. Your pet will be very uncomfortable, he/she may even bark or growl, but do not fear it is only due to anxiety from a new place and so many new people. Depending on how bad the situation is i would take he/she out at least three times a week and do this. Slowly but surely, the growling and barking will decrease, until there is no more. Again it is all about creating new better memories for this animal, they just need to be shown there are good people out there. -Capri

Aggression can be caused by a multitude of things. If you are having issues with aggression and anxiety with your dog it would be best to consult with a doctor or trainer before putting your dog in a new stressful environment and having a catastrophic result. Taking your puppy into a situation like a grill party or local dog park is a great way to desensitize them and avoid future issues like anxiety and aggression. However if you have a dog that is older, a rescue and showing signs of social anxiety this would likely cause more stress to your dog and potentially cause them to act aggressive out of nervousness or even in attempt to protect you.

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Kyri in Madera, CA
Oct. 27, 2018

Positive Reinforcement!

Aggression can be caused by a multitude of things. If you are having issues with aggression and anxiety with your dog it would be best to consult with a doctor or trainer before putting your dog in a new stressful environment and having a catastrophic result. Taking your puppy into a situation like a grill party or local dog park is a great way to desensitize them and avoid future issues like anxiety and aggression. However if you have a dog that is older, a rescue and showing signs of social anxiety this would likely cause more stress to your dog and potentially cause them to act aggressive out of nervousness or even in attempt to protect you.

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I have a dog up for adoption that was pulled from County. Panda is a Stafford. She came out of Carson in terrible condition with a spinal infection, burns on back, broken tail and over bred, she could barely walk. She appeared to only be living on concrete due to her calised elbows. Panda does not like unknown people to approach her. She use to hate adoptions. What I do to help her socialize. I keep treats and every time someone comes over I have them give her a treat. I then show her tricks. She loves to show off her tricks so I teach people her tricks with treats. Now she loves company and started approaching people on her own. I still always do the tricks with treats though to warm them up. I tell people never reach over her head or reach down to her in her space. Only come at her with treats in hand until she knows them. Always call her name when enter the room with a sweetness. Once she has gone on walks, play with toys and get her treats she becomes your best friend. Now she looks forward to going to adoptions and getting treats through the cage and showing off her tricks. She will even play with little kids. Still people need to know their limitations with her till she becomes their best friend. Even myself after she lunged at me out of a sleep I woke her from I do not reach down and surprise her while she is in her bed asleep or in her bed period!! Show you are alfa, teach her tricks. Do a new one daily then add on each time. This stimulates their brain along with playing and walks. Panda loves to play in the water hose too. Good luck. (:

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Annie in Anderson, IN
Jan. 24, 2019

On neutral territory, have a male friend you trust give him dog treats, if he will let him. And he will associate this person with the food, and maybe after a while all men won't seem so bad. My first dog was like that, and I did that with her. But there are times that she just knew a person's energy was off and even lunged out at this guy. She was laying on my pregnant belly, while I was at an outside cafe in Tempe Arizona, I told him, and he insisted that all dogs loved him. Well Julie mad it known, that she wanted no part of him near me. She lunged out at him, and growled, never bit him, just warned him. I know long answer.......

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Try relaxation or calming treats or diffusers. Even thunder shirts. The tightness on the shirt makes them feel protected. The treats or diffusers will help to calm the dog down. Start bringing the dog out more and interacting with as many people or dogs he or she is willing to be around. On a quiet day go to the pet store and just let your dog become comfortable and used to their surroundings. The more you do this the more comfortable your baby will start to feel around others. REMEMBER TO BRING LOTS OF LITTLE TREATS! Reward your baby for the hard work and effort they are doing to trust people again. It is hard for them to trust after being treating so poorly for so long. Keep showing them love

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User in Stratford, CT
Dec. 18, 2018

Your pup needs some confidence training. I would search online for helpful tips you can use on him, it'll help the both of you. Good luck!

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Be very gentle and introduce him to other people slowly. If you see somebody a lot (like a sibling or partner) take him with you and don't force anything, just let him get to know them and slowly introduce him to more and more people, then try taking him around other dogs if you want him to be more friendly. Just make sure you don't shove everything in his face at once, he's scared but not impossible.

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Aw poor thing! Thank you SO much for adopting and looking past his anxiety. Just like us, he did not choose to feel that way. Please be sure to not stop social activity. Walks a few times a week are great so he doesn't regress and slow integration to dog parks too. Rewards are key so he knows these are always good things. There are anti anxiety sprays and supplements for animals at most pet stores. Give those a try or even check on Amazon!!

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Terri in Holland, MI
Nov. 23, 2018

Congratulations on your adoption of a maltipoo; these dogs usually are not subject to aggressive behavior as a rule. Your new addition to your family has seen and experienced heart-rending conditions no living person or animal should be exposed to, ever! What I would do in this situation is get him in a quiet, stress-free area away from people and pets alike. Set up a comfortable sleeping area; a feeding area where there are not any distractions of any kind. Plenty of water, inter-active toys and treats should be at the ready for you to bond successfully with your furbaby and have a comfortable seating arrangement for you, as this could take quite awhile to build his trust and unconditional love for you. No matter how bad the situation, dogs have an inbred love and need to be loyal pets after a time of reconditioning. One person at a time should care for this poor pup and this person ideally shall be you, at least for a period of time. My best wishes for a successful training; also, if you mirror any fear, he will also. If you need counseling there are several options to consider. Keep all males away from your maltipoo, as he associates males with extreme cruelty and death; wishing you all success in this venture! Regards, Terri M. Care.com

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Give him space, his own safe den or room. That's a huge trauma to endure and was probably subjected to constant abused. If he loves you be there for him as you can. Try giving him a chewy eat time you need to leave to keep him occupied some. Maybe play some soft music in his room. One of the most important things I learning from my anxious dog was that he feeds off your anxiety.

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Manuela in Spring, TX
Nov. 18, 2018

I found my Chihuahua dog in a trash container. The first weeks when I brought him to my house, he was very anxious. But over time he learnt to build trust in humans again. You will need extra time and patience to deal with anxiety issues. Is your dog really aggressive or is it just a result from the overall anxiety? A routine with a constant schedule for exercise, playtime and attention might help your dog to get back to a normal situation.

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Logan in Ruskin, FL
Oct. 18, 2018

Many dogs have a problem with aggression because they aren't very socially active. It may be a pain in the butt, but try to bring them to a grill party that has other dogs, or bring him to a local dog park. I hope I could help!

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Hi there, From my experience working closely with animals I would suggest you consider consulting with an animal behaviorist who can monitor your dog's progress. It isn't uncommon for a rescued animal to struggle some in a new transition. Often fear shows up as aggression. An animal behaviorist could help you make sure you are doing everything you can to help your new dog feel safe and happy.

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Hey, I would suggest very slowly start introducing new persons into his life for short periods of time. This will gradually get him more and more comfortable with strangers or even people he has already met. Also, I would suggest taking him out on walks more often in parks in which there might be other animals or dog owners. Going to parks will decrease his anxiety and stress. In seeing the other animals, he will be able to pick up on their vibes and learn their behaviors. It might take some time for my advice to show signs of progress, but in situations like this, it is of high importance that you do not rush.

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My suggestion would be to very slowly start introducing him to one other person being around you. Once he gets comfortable with that person, add a new person to your circle. It will be a very very slow process, but that is what I had to do with my dog who has really bad separation anxiety and doesn't live many men either.

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Emily in Lockport, NY
Sept. 24, 2018

socialize them as much as possible, even if in small sessions and reward for good behavior, also you can get anti anxiety meds from your vet, and they can be great for dogs that need it i would recommend calling your vet for advice and go from there!

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Kathy in Waterbury, CT
Sept. 23, 2018

Hello, You rescued a maltipoo, what a great and new designer breed. Rescues can often come with behaviors that could had formed in the past. Nothing that the men he hates did. But you mention you get anxiety, it is best for your little one if you are not around when he is going to be in contact with a male and most importantly that you find someone that has many years of experience 15 - 20 immediately to help your new pet over come his fear for a better healthy, happy life. Ms. Kathy AKC CGC Evaluator

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show him that some men are good

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Terri in Holland, MI
Sept. 14, 2018

The best news is you rescued that poor dog from a Koran meat farm! Since I have not met you or your new dog, I do not know why he loves one person and not the other. But from past experience, you really have successfully bonded with this maltipoo rescue and it will take some time before your baby warms up to the other person. What I would do in this situation is select a room the dog is most comfortable in, play with the dog, give him a lot of attention and tons of patience. When the dog is receptive to the environment, bring in the person SLOWLY into the room and have the person sit down

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Arij in Jersey City, NJ
Sept. 12, 2018

show him compassion, it will take time for him not to be so anxious, he's probably been through a lot. he has to learn how to trust you and people close to you.

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My own dog, who is a pure bred border collie from a Texas farm, doesn't get along with men. Sometimes it can be a trust issue. With males, it can be a dominancy issue. You just have to learn to read when he gets tense and nervous, and when he does get anxiety. Thanks!

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Most of that aggressive and anxious behavior derived from fear normally something that happened in the past. The way you introduce the dog around men is The same way you introduce birds to dogs slowly and distant at first. A lot of patience will be needed and a guy friend you trust. Locking up your pup when guy friends are over only stems the idea that separation is needed. Instead take you and your pup into the bedroom and play and distract him. While in the bedroom (for familiarity) ask a guy you trust to come in the front door and stay by the door. You and they dog will hear him. Just the mere smell and sound your pup will assume an intruder. Once pup is calm, playing around with you or he is not affected in general then have your friend slowly walk towards the bedroom with the door closed. If you have a dog gate or a kennel to block the doorway even better because then the pup is protected in his own house but he can still watch his every move. Even if you need to repeat these steps for several days, continue forward, it WILL pay off. Once the barrier between hallway and bedroom isn't needed then just allow the pup to cause the first touch normally this will be sitting first but completely relaxed is when they lay down near or and eventually right by the person. While the guy slowly moves toward the bedroom and while in it, make sure to sit and wait on the floor. It is less intimidating size wise. If anxiety isn't directly related to not knowing a person try using the thunder coats, gives dogs the feeling of a warm hug and security. We did this with our husky the first week he was in his kennel in a different room than ours.

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Amelia in Colgate, WI
Sept. 3, 2018

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Spend time in the same room with it. let it walk around the room and get used to the environment and used to you. Don't rush anything. Do your thing and let the rescue do its thing until its comfortable with you.

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Ashley in Mesa, AZ
Aug. 31, 2018

I just got my premium account and did the free background check that comes with it. I was charged $59 for this! I need help to get the charge reversed. This is not right

Mimi in Rosamond, CA
Dec. 23, 2018

One of our girls was an adoptee from a co worker . It was her daughters females chihuahua-who would just not eat while the girl was away all week at school. BUT also this families BIG puppy just loved to grab "sissy" by her tiny neck---and take her with him,where ever he wished. Sissy had ZERO say so in her own life when this big "baby" wanted her with him. One evening the husband/father of the home stepped into this,& in his loving attempt to save Sissy from yet another forced travel--he FELL--on her. While no physical harm was done--this 5 pound girl was left terrified of men in uniforms. ( Dad was a city employee) So when I brought her home--she took one look at MY husband in HIS work uniform--and went right back into her carrier. Robert said nothing,Just played with our other at that time only ONE other chihuahua--Louis--gave him treats and kisses. After a short week--she was in his lap and kissing him also. BUT--he ALWAYS CHANGED FROM his work clothes prior to coming into our familyrooms. He made sure she need never see the uniform until she was secure with him. Its been 8 years now. He could wear ANYTHING--as soon as she sees/hears his truck--she is whining with joy. The thing is--he sat back--did not even look at her EYES until SHE was ready

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Adriana in Newark, NJ
Aug. 27, 2018

Ohh, I hate to see any animal unhappy too. I think he needs to get in touch with people one by one so that he is becoming familiar and losing his anxiety. Perhaps he has been mistreated by some man before the rescue, so the introduction of others people have to be done slowly and quietly, with people arriving without noise or agitation, everybody has to know to wait his time.

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try and get a thunder shirt. it makes them feel secure anytime not just in storms.

Lyella in Archer, FL
Aug. 25, 2018

didnt work for my dog

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Kimberely in Mesa, AZ
Aug. 24, 2018

Play time and working one on one with him. Lots of patience and time. Because you need to teach him it's okay

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Suzel in Fresno, CA
Aug. 22, 2018

Just give your dog a lot of love and attention. Walk you dog around where theirs some people but not to close to them. So your dog could get used to people interaction. and also give your dog a treats for being good.

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I would suggest training classes that would definitely help and seeing a veterinarian to provide you with some medication to help him with his anxiety.

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If you're out in public give him a thundershirt. Despite it sounding cliche, a family friend of mine has a boxer with social anxiety and doesn't like strangers because of her past owners. Put on the thunder shirt and just walk him around town. Start slow, go to a place with maybe a few people. At first don't let people pet him until he gets familiarized with the environment and being near different people. Then work your way up. Go to a place that's semi-busy, then to a bustling city. But always have that Thundershirt on. It really helps and I hope this advice does too!

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Terezia in Groton, CT
Aug. 19, 2018

I have a rescue Chihuahua/Terrier mix that hates men as well, and also children; he's from an abusive home so he's very reactive to others. What's helped is any time he is introduced to another person (make sure he is on a leash where you can pull him away or hold him back if needed) and he starts growling/snapping, verbally reprimand ("no" or "uh-uh"). Have the other person stand still and ignore your dog, and not make any movement towards him, eye contact, or say anything. If doing well, let your dog sniff him but do not let the person touch him or reach for him. Gradually work up to where he can be pet. What also helped was the "two week shutdown" (https://lgarinc.org/decompress...) - which you can do even if you've had him for a bit before doing this, it still helps.

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Thank you for rescuing him and seeking out help! These situations and behaviors are extremely unfortunate, but they can be helped. You would have to find an certified dog trainer who specializes in dogs that are aggressive/anxious. Search around your area for professional dog trainers, and don't try to fix these behaviors yourself since they are potentially dangerous. In the meantime, keep his stress levels as low as possible by not forcing him to be in uncomfortable situations. Best of luck to you and your pup!

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Meagan in Newnan, GA
Aug. 16, 2018

I actually have a dog who was very scared and would growl at new people and especially men. What I found worked for me was pheromones and anyone who came in the house gave him a treat.The treats though you want to make sure that they aren't high in calories (carrots,green beans are great). The pheromones that I used were Adpatil brands. They have plug ins for your house and sprays that help. It does take time for them to warm up. It was almost a year for my boy to warm up to everyone.

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User in Colonia, NJ
Aug. 15, 2018

The 1st thing is to get them to listen to you. Takes alot of time & effort on your part. The Pup will need to learn to sit & stay no matter what is going on around you & your pup. Not until that is accomplished will anything else be accomplished. The older they are the longer it takes, usually. Some dogs become very protective of their owner.. It can be a hazard to others whom you aquaint with. Keeping them slightly behind you when you walk them ( keeping them at heel ), or when speaking to others, it is the position where you are & where your pup is that matters & that the dog usually understands.. If you allow the dog to be ahead of you or in front of you, they will be on watch & will be in charge. Thats why it's so important you gain their undivided attention in order to have a well behaved dog ! Good luck & remember,be the Master in charge not your pet !

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Lyn in Wood Dale, IL
Aug. 14, 2018

Hello, Thank you for rescuing this little guy. Sadly he was not socialized as a pup and will need extra care to overcome he anxiety. The more outing you take with him the better even if it's just a ride in the car. This will help he to overcome his fears of the outside world. So far all his experiences had been bad. Take fun treats like cheese or hot dogs to help encourage good behavior. It may be hard for him to overcome his fear of men as a man may have been his abuser. Dogs in meat markets are treated unkindly. I would suggest handing out these treats when a guest comes over or a short lead in case you need an extra hand on him if he shows aggressive behavior. Good Luck with your new pup & remember his life is so much happy now that he found you

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My dog used to do the same with tall men wearing hats or that had beards, now she does much better with them. I suggest bringing someone over to your house (a friend or relative) that you dog would normally bark at, and have them get acquainted with each other. Have the person sit down on the floor with him, let your dog sniff them, have your friend give him some treats so that it's a positive environment. Do this a few times a week and your dog should slowly begin to be calmer whenever someone comes over.

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Hannah in Irvine, CA
Aug. 13, 2018

Make sure to have a routine, feed him at the same time, walk him at the same time every day. Try to praise him a lot and build his confidence, give him toys and be gentle overall. Be consistent, and show him you are reliable and safe.

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anxiety is hard to treat. i would suggest you take him to the vet and get him on medication to help calm himself. i had to do this with my one dog.

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It sounds like you got your dog fairly recently if it is only a year old. It might just be that your dog needs time to decompress. Who knows what kind of situation he was in when he was in the Korean Meat Market and just needs some time to get use to everything. I would definitely take things slow with him and give positive reinforcement when it comes to new things like people. If things still don't seem to be getting better, I would look into hiring a reputable dog trainer in your area.

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User in Dundee, IL
Aug. 9, 2018

Your dog might need some help from anti-anxiety meds until it's easier for him to trust people. If he'll allow, have people set high quality food (his favorite treats. We use chicken at the shelter) near him and walk away. It's very important they don't linger in front of him for too long. People giving him yummy treats will slowly show him that people are good and he should begin to trust others a little bit more. It's a slow process, but if a dog in a shelter environment can turn around, I believe your pup can too.

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If I were ion your position I would invite over some male friends who are willing to relax at your home for a little while and reward you dog for approaching him if he does. Talk in a soft tone towards your puppy, because he does have a bad past. Sometimes a lot of effort and time is needed to reverse any social anxiety, and trauma from a dog. Start slow and always remind your puppy he is not in danger. Figuring out what the dog hates about men is a good first step, such as hats, or facial hair.

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positive reinforcement is the only way to go here. You may not get him to love men, but he may be more accepting of them over time.

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For many dogs that did not have a good start to life, you need to start slow with the things that cause them anxiety. In your case maybe try having men you trust to come by and meet your dog outside of the house. Also, it helps to get down on your dogs level and tell them it is ok when he is anxious or meeting someone new. As or the social anxiety going on walks in less populated areas than slowly working up to more populated areas as he gets more confident might help.

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The easiest way to keep your pet from freaking out is to train them that when you leave, you'll always come back. An easy way to do that is you can buy a furbo that way it will feed your pet a treat to make sure that they don't stress when you're gone.

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Maybe just have him gradually introduced to one man. When or if he becomes comfortable with him then gradually introduce him to other men. I would have a person he is comfortable with to be there, maybe one person only for a while so the dog does not become so overwhelmed.

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Nicole in Denton, TX
Aug. 5, 2018

socializing him with other dogs will help him lossen up and feel comfortable. as far as him and his fear of men. i would suggest a slow introduction with one male until he feels comfortable. for all you know a male mistreated him.

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i think he just needs to be around more people more often but go into it super slow and be mindful of who you choose to be around him

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Megan in Lincoln, NE
Aug. 5, 2018

Maybe try talking to your vet about the social anxiety part.

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User in Monroe, CT
Aug. 5, 2018

get some CBD oil in the pet store only give amount based on weight it will calm him and you train from there on. It is non physcodic but will calm the pup

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I have a rescue animal but she is not aggressive. What I have found helpful is walking and having someone of the opposite sex play with her. She was super anxious but this has helped.

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I suggest that you remain consistent with your discipline and use a calm tone of voice so he doesn't perceive that you're scolding him. If all else fails, just avoid coming in contact with the person he seems to dislike!

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If he's a maltipoo, I'm assuming he's small. If you hold him with just a little pressure, with your palm covering his chest, that may sooth him. Dogs can be like babies sometimes. If they're feeling anxious, they need to have reassurance and sometimes that's direct contact. You could also try to see if there is a dog therapist in your area, or call your local vet. Sometimes they recommend anxiety vests called Calming Coats. It is like a little vest that applies just enough pressure to keep your pup calm. Hope he feels better, and good luck!

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I have rescued 4 shelter dogs and taken in 3 strays. My only advice is patience and calmness. These dogs need to trust you before they can love you.

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Shyan in Mosheim, TN
Aug. 3, 2018

since he is still a puppy try step by step, bring one person around him every other day, make sure they are genital and loving though. He has been through some bad times and it takes a little time to get over his passed. The dog will become aggressive when its under stress, if this method doesn't help vets will be able to help. it just takes time and easy going steps, he will come around! Mine did, he was also a rescue and only wanted to be around me, now he gets so excited for other humans. lol!

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Baylea in Brusly, LA
Aug. 3, 2018

Don't push your dog to have social interactions too fast because it could make it worse for him. Slowly help him build his confidence and social skills by taking him on walks and try bringing him to places with a lot of people. Make sure to keep his distance far enough so he does not panic. Gradually decrease the distance and stop before he starts to panic again. Allow him to just watch other people but make sure he feels safe where he is.

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Patience is key! Everything you do will have to be slow so he learns that he is safe and doesn't have to be afraid. Emotional distress for animals is very hard to communicate since we can not understand them. Keeping to a routine can help the dog become more relaxed with his environment. Don't introduce everything to him at once. Once a routine has be established try something new or add to the routine. There is no set time for this, you just have to see how he reacts, it could take him a few months or a few weeks. He may not ever like men, which is ok, the goal is for him to be non aggressive to men. Get him to be comfortable in his environment, with women and most importantly to trust you. Once he understands he will not be harmed and relaxes he should be able to be around men.

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General Rules to Follow Avoid all situations that lead to aggression during the behavior modification process. Dogs are very intelligent and they are masters at reading body language. They will learn things from every interaction. We do not want a dog that is learning to trust to have a reason to regret trusting. It will be that much more difficult to get it back after something like that. Never reach over a fearful dog, especially if he is cornered or has no escape. Instead call him to you as you squat down, turn your body sideways (so you're not facing him), avoid eye contact (look at the floor near him, but not at him), and stretch out your arm with your hand held nearly at ground level, palm up and open. Never disturb a fearful dog when he sleeping. Instead, call him from a distance, whistle, or make the "kissy" sound. Ask company to cooperate with you and avoid situations that make your dog uncomfortable. This can be very difficult when dealing with family members that think they know better. In these situations, it would be better to keep him in a crate in another room and just avoid the whole situation in the first place. Put a bell on his collar so you can know where he is without seeing him. Never pet him and tell him "it's okay" or "you're a good boy" or anything else in a soft calming tone while fear and/or aggression is being displayed. Instead, wait for him to relax, then pet him and tell him he's a good boy. If the reaction is so severe that he will not relax, calmly remove him from the context. Reward him when he does finally calm down. Never physically correct or punish him. Any kind of harsh treatment will only serve to confuse him and damage the bond between the two of you. Remember, trust and the bond are paramount with a fearful dog. Never leave fearful dogs (or any dog for that matter) alone with children. Do not allow strangers to approach your dog. Instead, allow your dog to approach them, but only after you have instructed them to stand still and not look at him or speak to him in the beginning. If petting is attempted, only pet under the chin and chest, never on top of the head or the back. DCC is paramount in this context. Minimize sudden movements and loud noises. Instead, keep it cool, calm, and collected :-).

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I would advise to take it very, very slow and use ALOT of positive feedback through tone of voice and physical treats. Have your closest guy friend participate, sit together on the couch and continuously give positive feedback and reassurance to Maltipoo. It might take him a second to see that your guy friend is safe, but once he sees no one is in any real danger and you are in fact in a soothing a nurturing mode he will adjust. Once he has calmed down from your calm tone and demeanor, reinforce the calmer behavior with a treat. It will take a few times, but just be patient, dogs are very in tune with their owners emotions, and you will be able to reteach him everyone is here to love him now!! I hope this helps! Have a great day!!

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Sheri in Fishers, IN
Aug. 3, 2018

I'm a trainer in the Indianapolis area and can tell you he definitely should go to a classroom setting. That way he can get more socialized around other people, kids, dogs. I'd take him with you whenever you can as well. Don't tell him "it's ok" and stroke him as if he's "doing a good job" acting like that (as there's a fine line) . You're best off to just praise him when he's showing good behavior and confidence. Use treats to coax him and reward him, and have others approach him w/ treats as well. These are some basics without going on and on and having never met him.

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Just continue to reassure him that you will not hurt him. He obviously shows signs of abuse probably from men because you said he hates them. Continue to shower love and eventually he will learn that he has a good owner and is loved like he is suppose to. That being said, don't get too upset if he gets too aggressive. When it gets that way, just let him be until he comes back around again. I hope this answer helps! :)

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My lab is exactly like your dog. I rescued my lab at the age of four years old. So by then she already had a few years of being unsocialized. At first I thought there was no hope for her, but it took lots of time and patience. I started off by introducing her to smaller animals, puppies and kittens. She loved them. Then I introduced her to our family beagle and poodle which of course were older and bigger than a puppy or kitten and it took time, lots of time. She would drool at first and get aggressive, but that didn't stop me from letting them be together. Of course, I would step in once they got too close to one another, but they learned. I am still having trouble having her near any dog as big as her. But like I said introducing him to puppies/kittens or smaller animals in general could be a good start.

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Your dogs feel your anxiety therefore, his gets worse.

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I have dogs in a similar mental state as well. It is always best to find a person who the dog is most comfortable with, and slowly introduce him to other people. Having too many people around the dog may overwhelm him and make him more frustrated and angry. Try to have new visitors, especially men, give him a treat to show that they aren't predators or harmful for the new pup.

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You have to be patient. Once they feel secure with you they will come to you. Talk in a monotone voice and get down to their level. Do not force yourself on them. They will eventually come to you.

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My best advice would be to limit his contact with new people because stressing him out will only make him more anxious and aggressive. Once he gets comfortable with those that are already around him, it would be worth a shot to ease him into new people and always stay by his side, petting him, keeping him as relaxed as possible. Another solution could be to socialize him with other dogs like at a dog park so he can get used to being around other dogs as well as different people where he can have the control of the situation in getting away if he wants to.

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Todd in Madison, WI
Aug. 1, 2018

Hello, This is a tricky case, as it requires me to ask a series of questions. To best answer your question. With that said: The short answer is he'll some training and socialization. Fear aggression is a hard thing to overcome, the degree of success will depend on the age of the dog. Dogs are most social-able under 6 months. At a year old, there is still a lot of promise for your rescue! What I would suggest is having a pool of male friends/family at your disposal to rotate out as your dog will get accustom to individuals over time. I would start subjecting your rescue to men on neutral grounds, with the idea of gradually bringing the dog and person closer and closer to each other without your rescue showing aggression/anxiety. If the dog displays aggression/agititaion/anxiety then you will want to remove the dog from the scene all together. Once you have regained your dogs composure, then you can try the exercise again. Rewarding your dog with a treat when he is not reacting to the male at the end of the block. After rewarding your dog, you can try taking a step or two closer to the male. Then rewarding or removing your dog. Repeat this for 30 minutes to an hour a day. The ultimate goal is for your rescue to be comfortable with men in the home. This will be some time down the road, but you will want to create scenarios that get your dog worked up in the home. With the intent on working to desensitize your rescue dog to men in your home. Lastly, I feel as you can never have enough resources and if you need a helping hand. A trainer can work with you personally, will support you all the way through and see that you have the success you are looking for.

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Play fetch with him until he's tired out, then give him treats when you try to teach him something. Make sure he feels secure with you. Then slowly introduce others. He's stressed that is why he pees in the house. Make sure to take him out every 10 to 15 min. Good luck

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Joan in Groton, NY
Aug. 1, 2018

An anxious puppy is unsettling. Do you have a trainer in the area that can help you with this puppy? Sometimes we give off signals to our furry friends that we are not aware of and a trainer can assist you with this.

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If you have a vet in your area who you trust, I'd recommend consulting them and asking if they can recommend an animal behaviorist. Your vet clinic may even have one on staff. An animal behaviorist can talk with you, spend time with your dog, and come up with a plan to work on the anxiety and aggression. While there's plenty of advice for dealing with dogs and anxiety out there, I'd recommend getting a plan specifically tailored for you and your dog. Solutions to aggression and anxiety aren't always one-size-fits-all. Sometimes there's even an underlying medical issue that needs to be addressed in tandem with the anxiety/aggression. Most of all, whatever plan you go with, I recommend positive training methods. Discipline programs which use choke collars, shock collars, and the like, are only likely to increase your dog's underlying anxiety.

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Judging if the anxiety has been ruled out by a vet, some prescribe medication for the dog's anxiety. Hearing that he holds a liking towards you and another means he trusts you, based on his past, you can't blame him for being a little cautious around others. Have you tried staying around him while he mets men who promised to do no harm to him? I'd imagine he instinctively seeks you out for comfort. While I don't have the qualified experience to properly tell you how to handle it, as all cases are different, I do encourage reading this https://www.petmd.com/dog/cond... or try to ask advise from other local dog-owners ( or refer to a vet/behavior specialisit if you haven't ) who deal with a socially anxious dog as well.

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Theresa in Tucson, AZ
July 31, 2018

I would like to hear a little bit more about what you consider "social anxiety". Then I maybe be able to help you. Thanks, Teri

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User in Homewood, IL
July 31, 2018

I think it's important you meet with a trainer to have your maltipoo evaluated to determine if the aggression is fear related or if it's a behavioral issue. Based on your pups history I'm not surprised at his issues but you definitely should seek an experts opinion and have the work with you and your pup to get him on a path to a calmer, happier and healthier life. Best of luck!!

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Bry in Chesapeake, VA
July 31, 2018

I used to dog sit a dog like this. He was very anxious and hated men. So working with the owners we cut up his favorite treat (hotdogs) and had her husband come in slowly and kneel down so he didn't seem like a "threat". We would not force the dog to go to him but reward him when he stopped growing or barking and eventually he would go up to her husband willingly. It takes some time they did it a couple times and day and it worked. Hope this helps. Best of luck.

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Amy in Martinez, CA
July 31, 2018

I try and distract him/her from their woes. A toy, a treat, a scritch (especially around their ears!), a walk

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Joey in Aurora, IL
July 31, 2018

Dogs will generally be more afraid of men and taller/muscular people, but the best way is slow exposure to new people. Make sure the people are very calm and move slowly around your dog while completely making themselves visible(especially their hands the whole time). From what your dog has been through it'll just take time, but be patient and loving!!

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With my experience, rescues can take a long time getting comfortable with certain things. I wouldn't push him too much because it can just make things worse. Start with things that don't frighten him so much and move your way up to people. You can try one of those thunder jacket things, I haven't tried one myself but I have been told they work. The more he is socialised the better, just maybe start with 15 minutes at a time and move up to 30 and then more and more. Hope this helps!

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Hi! I have a dog, his name is Maddox. We rescued him as well, and was very shy and anxious. Only liked me and one other female, would run and bark from men. We started to see how he would react around other dogs, and around other dogs he would forget about his anxiety around humans because he would feed off the energy of the other dogs. We eventually had a family friend bring their dog over for a day to see how Maddox would do around the house and around the men/boys that live in my household. He did wonderful almost no anxiety, happy as can be. So long story short, we ended up getting another dog and now Maddox is a completely different dog, he's sweet and cuddly, and isn't scared of men anymore.

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I suggest you ask one girlfriend over to cuddle and play with him while you are there. Do it together so the dog gets used to positive attention. Let him smell their hands and feet and rub your sent on the toys. Then relax with him between you to while watching TV, Let you friend give him a treat he really likes or part of the one you give him. Once he is used to one gal pal introduce in the same way a man friend or brother. Go much slower and ask them to slip off their shoes or slippers so the dog can smell the sent and not be worried about the shoes. Soft voices and no calling out also help the dog stay or get calm.

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Ashley in Batavia, IL
July 29, 2018

Clicker training is a great way to condition dogs to what you want or need them to do. If he hates men I would suggest maybe click and treating him every time he comes across a man and is not growling, barking, or acting anxious. You want to start slow. Start with a man several feet away or a man just entering the doorway halfway and build your way up. Positive reinforcement is key; using negative reinforcement will only make him more anxious and potentially aggressive.

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He probably feels when you have social anxiety. You have to show and work slowly to have him become friends and reward with treats. Have your friend show some playful exercises or walks to the dog park if he gets along with other dogs. Always reward! Good Luck!!

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There is cbd oil that you can give him which will help take the edge off. It takes about half an hour to take effect, after the half hour slowly start to get social by having one of your guy friends come over if the dog barks he leaves and waiting for a bit. If the dog doesn't bark the guy will give the dog a high value treat and this can be anything. From hot dog to a toy he only gets when your guy friends are over. Its going to a lot of work but it is a strat.

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Most dogs that are anxious around certain people were abused in their past. Unfortunately, I believe this is the case for your dog. It is great that he feels comfortable around you, most abused animals do not feel comfortable around most humans. Use this affection to your advantage. Show him that you love him and would never hurt him. He may never get over his fear of men or his social anxiety, but I guarantee if you give him time and continue to show your love for him, it will get better. He should learn to trust again. I'm not saying it will completely go away, but it will get better. Just remain patient and understanding.

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Axel in Chicago, IL
July 27, 2018

For now, try to expose your dog to a wide variety of different people of all color, women, men, and children. Dogs could have many reasons why they attack aggressively it may be because of a past experience and that's what may be affecting your dog. Invite your friends over and have your friends offer your dog treats when they're behaving well while having your friends over always keep a leash on him/her to keep control when meeting new people. Be well aware of your dog's form of aggression, and a be cautious when you're starting to expose them to new people they can show signs of aggression even before they do, they may pin their ears back, their fur may stand up on their backs, and or yawn. If they do show any signs like these remove them immediately.

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Try and determine the cause of the anxiety and what the dog seems to dislike in the male, possible uniform or facial hair, it will require slow introduction to what he seems to be anxious about and a lot of positive reinforcement while you are doing this.

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Jazmyne in Tulsa, OK
July 27, 2018

Time is key when it comes to owning a rescue. Continue to give your pet love and care so they can recognize they're in a safe place. Give him space for awhile, and you can even try crating! By doing that you can set up bedding and your pup can find comfort in your home. His aggression comes from fear because he's still unsure if he's in a safe place or not. Give it time, and I'm sure he'll come around! If he continues with the anxiety and aggression I'd suggest taking him to your pet care provider or local vet to figure things out to help him become the happiest pup.

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Jieralie in Bronx, NY
July 26, 2018

Try to slowly integrate other people. Start with those closest to you as the dog becomes more relaxed with a safe atmosphere. Stay calm when the dogs anxiety acts up, and pull him/her away from the dog and after the dog is calm slowly try to introduce the person again.

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Often times aggression and anxiety in dogs stem from self-esteem issues that may have resulted from trauma or neglect earlier in their lives. Focusing more on positive reinforcement can be a great way to combat this issue. praise them whenever they do the slightest thing right, and avoid giving them attention aside from minimal reprimands for negative behavior. This will make them gain confidence in their good behavior, which will often help relieve anxieties as well.

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I find animals tend to like being in charge of their situation. Working slowly, one person at a time, or at an empty place, then add one person, then 2, etc. Giving them an escape if they need to helps. As for being afraid of men, having a man just sit there, ignoring the dog completely, not making sudden movements while your dog can explore can help out. Make sure there's no threat at all until he gets used to the idea. It's similar to human exposure therapy. Or have the male in a position that dogs recognize as submission, such as down lower than the dog, laying on their back while the dog is wandering around can help as well.

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Try giving your visitors treats to give your dog and introduce your dog to every new person telling them its okay they're my friend. If that is effective your dog will learn that he is safe and that he is in a place he can play and meet knew people without being intimidated. Plus hell love all the treats!

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Kayla in Portland, TN
July 26, 2018

I would suggest giving calming treats or CBD oil a try! Those will help with the anxiety and over time your pup should start to become less anxious. Just take it slow! Just like us, forcing any new situation can make anxiety worse. Good luck!

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Similar to you I rescued a dog that came from an abusive situation. She was never aggressive only had anxiety mainly when I was leaving the house. What I would do was give her a distraction as I was leaving. A bone with peanut butter worked well. When I came back she was not as stressed and had not destroyed anything. I have worked with some aggressive dogs. He may always hate men given his history. Try this only if it is safe and he does not get aggressive. It is best that when a new person approaches him for the first time they knell, don't look him in the eye and let him come to that person. This gives him a choice that he did not have in his past. This may reduce his social anxiety especially if the people he is meeting are men.

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Susan in Ocala, FL
July 25, 2018

You have to win his trust, talk quietly to him and give him treats when he listens to your command, give him lots of love!

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I would slowly get him adjusted to men and other situations that give him anxiety. I would start by maybe giving a man a dog treat and holding out his hand towards your dog. Let the dog come to him. The pup may see that men are not always bad if you associate trust and positivity with them.

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For starters, do not force him into interacting with anyone men. Show respect for him. When you want him to meet someone, do it in your own home/space have your dog with you and the person comes in respectfully. Before anything, introduce your dog to the person, have your dog sitting position. Do not let the person try to come up to him or pet him. Let the dog KNOW YOU WILL NOT TRY TO MAKE HIM INTERACT. PERIOD. He may never get over that, so be respectful.........LOVE CAN HEAL ANYTHING, but honor his boundary for now. He might at some point, relax and open up to a male friend, BUT LET HIM INITIATE IT, THE DOG WILL MAKE THE FIRST MOVE>>>>It establishes TRUST with him. You have no idea his possible abusive history, there's always a reason for that, but healing can occur with LOVE. Best to you!

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