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Should I give into temptation?

User in Atlanta, GA
June 25, 2018

I saw this over at reddit today:

A link r/Sat - Remember that SAT hack in the news? Guess it was just a matter of time....

  

And as horrible as it sounds, if others are doing it, should I be too?

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NO! The way that wrong doing/sin works is that all of it pretty much is potentially going to take control if done. So do you want to be in control or to be controlled? What I say to my kids is if you never do a sin then it will never become a slavery to it. Smoking, which is an example of something that if someone could be moderate enough in doing it would not necessarily be defined as a sin - if just tasting once - or smoking very rarely. After all many things are bad for us and in that level of moderation to nothing it would not really be a habit that could kill, and yet smoking is addictive due to nicotine in the system. Sin is like the nicotine in the cigarette, the thing about something one might choose to do that becomes addictive and dangerous. Avoid temptation. If one is talking about sexual sin? Flee is what the Bible says. You may not believe the Bible, but that is the best way to protect from something that takes over and destroys lives.

User in Atlanta, GA
Aug. 25, 2016

But it doesn't seem fair that some people will have answers to the SAT and I won't...

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No sometimes it does not seem fair. Sin is pleasurable at the time the Bible says, but ends in death. I don't know how people think they are getting SAT answers or are, but each test is unique so it seems they are not going to get away with something. However, what are you talking about specifically? What are others doing with the SAT to cheat or do something wrong? That is a serious thing.

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You should not jeopardize your child's chances of attending college. Any cheating would and can be reported to the school system where it would stay on your child's record.

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NO, don't start something not good !!

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User in Miami, FL
May 4, 2017

Please, don't do it. Even if it isn't a scam, you will feel rewarded through studying effectively and getting a tutor, if necessary. Besides, what guarantee do you have that it will be a success? The only thing that is certain, is that after the bid, if you win, you won't get your money back. Please, yield not to this temptation!

User in Haughton, LA
Sept. 4, 2016

Good response. I did not have as much information about the details of the 'temptation'. After saying what I did it was shared that it had something to do with a test, and still did not share as much, but I still gave a response of not ever giving into temptation as the thing to do also.

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I would not cheat on those exams. The SAT scores is a large influential fraction similar to a belt. The score will determine the strength of the belt. The higher the score,the stronger the belt, the better prepared must the student be. Scholars just observe the students wear this honorary belt as academic pressures intensifies hoping no one thinking about their belts. These tests are vital pieces to one's college application. Think about it this way, that final score is similar to a belt that goes around your hips. Lets say you are a 32 inch belt, if it goes any higher or lower, that belt will lose it's purpose, functionality, & its value. The purpose is lost because it can't be used. The function is lost because the belt is not the correct size. The value is lost because no matter how much money is saved or spent the purpose and functionality of the belt is lost. Raising the question, who would sale him an ill fitting belt? An SAT score is like a belt. The purpose of the SATs score is to securely identify the student's academic strengths and weaknesses. This information provides enlightenment to all those helping the student because it serves as indicator of your size. Selecting the best school for cultivating one's creativity and passion while merging any education foundational discounts. Pretend you did your best and measured a size 32 belt but you wanted a 36. Your academic advisor will say go to Store A, G or T and buy a size 32 belt because s/he understands the benefits of properly fitted belt. Instead, you go to store D, K, i & Y with the goal of a purchasing size 36 belt. You believe the bigger the belt, the better you will be. Finally, someone took a chance and gave you size 36 belt despite, the obvious. By the time you are a month in the first semester,the weight of a 36 is becoming too large of a burden to carry; essentially, weakening you. Arriving to the humbling conclusion that a 32 belt would have been the best choice proves maturity. What you do with that conclusion is put to you. All in all these words leads to the ultimate question, do you know where you're going?

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Absolutely not - stay strong. Cheating won't help you in the long run, and could actually hurt you on other parts of the test because you will be over confident. And that's only if you get away with it. No plan is foolproof, and even if you do get caught, you'll feel guilty for years.

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Chances are, you are wasting your money. If this has already gone viral, Princeton Review will have corrected it by now. Their rep cannot be compromised like this. Most of this stuff is fake but you won't be able to know until after you have spent your money. As the saying goes, "A fool and their money..." And to top it off, you've wasted all that time you could be using for studying. The best way to prep is with study tests. You can get them off the Princeton Review site. Even better, hire an experienced test prep tutor or tutoring business (like Kumon, Kaplan, etc) because they will teach you the secrets for getting your best grade for any test you take, not just the SAT. PS In case you didn't know, the SAT was revised recently, so these may be true answers but completely outdated (even if the sellers promise otherwise- there is no honor among thieves!)

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User in Osseo, MN
May 4, 2017

Following what others are doing if you feel/know that it's wrong is pretty much never a good idea. If your kid knows that you are willing to compromise your values and cheat, is it worth it in the end so that they think it's okay to do the same thing, especially in college and eventually the real world? "Someone found the answers for the final and is having people over to look at them. I know it's wrong, but if I really want to be prepared, I should do it!" Think about the consequences it will have not only in your life but your kid's life.

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No! You could suffer from academic suspension, and no one wants to deal with that mess.

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If it sounds horrible to you, don't do it. Don't waste your time. Do your own thing. They are not your friends anyway.

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No, you should not. We are tempted with things but it is a gate way to more and more risky behavior. If you continue to give into your temptations, you will get used to the feeling you get from it. But the problem, it will never enough and you wind up chasing an euphoric feeling that you will never be able to satisfy. It will consume you. This is why many people find themselves depressed and unfulfilled because they are chasing something that is only found in the imagination of the minds.

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No way! Dare to be different.

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If others are pursuing a career in medicine, then you should probably too lol but if they're doing drugs and literally EVERYONE is doing it, do you think you think you should too? Learn the difference. Be your own judge.

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Frances in Bronx, NY
July 13, 2018

With my experience, DON'T GIVE IN!!! Don't give in as if your life depends on it. I have just learned this tough lesson.

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No you should not give into temptation.

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If you have to ask, no. That which is described as tempting is deemed bad by your own conscience. With that being said, humans are very very bad at obeying their own conscience. If you have the clarity of mind to ask on this website, then no you 'shouldn't' do it. But it is only up to your will power to listen to your conscience rather than your base hedonic instincts. Also, other people doing something is not remotely sufficient reason to partake in any activity, good or bad. Even if it's a good activity, like exercise, for example. You don't justify exercising because everyone is doing it, you justify it because maybe someone you find attractive goes to the gym, or you want to be more fit, or you want to feel good, etc. Don't do something just because it's popular. Besides, personally, I'd rather be different from other people.

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I see temptation as the phenomena where you have two (or more) choices, and you determined that one of the choices was better than the other one(s). But then one of the lesser choices suddenly looks better than you originally saw it. The decision? Well, it depends on whether that other factor sufficiently compensates for its otherwise inferiority. Also, this definition is often a purely subjective change, but ideally you want to analyze things objectively. Of course, we can only objectively analyze things imperfectly as we are finite but also because our subjectivity can mask as objectivity (we can fool ourselves into thinking something is true when it actually is false or when we actually don't know if it is true or false, much more commonly for the latter case). If you want to learn more about this topic, it is in the realm of psychology. I will add one more thing though. You develop habits based on what you do. If you have the temptation the first time, odds are it will decrease the second time (if it doesn't, then just be a bit patient and it should be less tempting over a reasonable period of time). If you give in to the temptation, then it becomes stronger each future time. So, make sure you have a clear grasp of what you're getting yourself into when you accept or deny a temptation. Also, keep in mind that sometimes the context can make the answer yes in some cases and no in others, that it isn't black and white, always yes or always no. That being said, I find it easiest on a psychological level when I give myself a clear line that says "always yes" or "always no", but that the problem is that it isn't always true, yet to do a fraction yes and a fraction of the time no causes confusion and/or freezing on what I should do, and the best answer I have for that is to search and dig toward the roots until you find the principles that you can always follow, as it costs energy to make a decision and a principle makes it easier, which is why I think we tend toward always yes or always no because it reduces energy cost. If others are doing something, they see some good in a thing (else they wouldn't be doing it), but they also probably fail to see the weakness(es) of that thing. Again, the solution is knowledge, and taking the route of caution and/or at least admitting one doesn't know (and that even when one has a lot of knowledge acquired, one may still not fully know, but one can at least make a more accurate approximation than one who has no clue what is going on). I am not a psychologist, by the way, but I do informally consider myself an epistemologist (epistemology is the study of knowledge), which is from studying mathematics/logic.

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That depends on what you are being asked to do. From the sound of the question, I would say no.

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Reeta in Clifton, VA
May 30, 2018

No. Part of maturity is strength of character. Strength of character means being able to go against the grain and stand up for what is right. However, in terms of others doing it, does not mean you should be doing it because it is not always what is right in general or may not be right for you. Keep good values and you will be fine!

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Stick with the values you have been taught.

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Daniel in Miami, FL
Jan. 24, 2018

Lol, what?

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No, make your own decision for yourself

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It's wrong if the temptation is breaking your sense of morals. It's acceptable if the temptation is breaking society's sense of morals. Everything is relative. Take it with a grain of salt and never go against your word, because you is whom you will live with all your life long. Forget what others say.

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No , not everything on the internet is true or is best for everyone to do and think like

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I mean, it depends on what you are talking about. If it is something small then it doesn't matter. If the temptation goes against your morals or who you are as a person then no. Don't do something because it's the "wave", do it because you wanna do it.

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John in Pottstown, PA
Sept. 16, 2017

It has been my experience that giving into anything tempting should be considered first morally.

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If you give into temptation now and only enjoy it for a minute, you could experience a lifetime of making up for your mistake. Is one minute of happiness worth a lifetime of regret? I don't think so. Just always be mindful of what the future has to hold. You can change your future for better or for worse. If I were you, I'd go the safe route! - Iris Tudor

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Cam in Columbus, OH
June 1, 2017

Temptation? If you don't have anything better to do, then why not.

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