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Can hiring a tutor help my child stop procrastinating?

User in Larkspur, CA
June 24, 2018

My son avoids his homework and procrastinates on his assignments. Can hiring a tutor help him understand why he shouldn't procrastinate and help him get things done?

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User in Columbus, OH
June 9, 2016

You CAN hire a tutor to ask your son about why he procrastinates and has a lackadaisical attitude about his work, BUT if you're able to find anybody outside immediate friends and family (children might not be as open to those that have an immediate impact on their life; especially with something of this matter) for your son to have a conversation with, that would most likely work just as well (a tutor might bring a bit more of an academic perspective to the conversation). But for some immediate relief and help (hopefully): procrastination in students usually stems from a thought that what they are doing does not and will not matter in the future. Now, some parents have figured this out and have tried to scare their children into thinking that what they are doing will eventually create a terrible situation (i.e. working a less desirable job or being homeless). THIS IS THE WRONG APPROACH. Instead, you can try asking your son about his interests (or ask him if he has any that you may not know about) and talk about what he can do in the future with interests like his (ex: if he's into math or just generally solving problems, maybe there's a future in engineering). Then show him (from credible sources) what the requirements are to get ahead in life and to do what he has interests in. Taking this more positive route gives the child inspiration to work and a goal to achieve. Additionally, it'll give the parents some much needed relaxation about the child's view about work and school. Hope this was helpful.

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User in Ione, CA
June 9, 2016

I would agree with Piper.  Sometimes if they're having a hard time, they'll just stop trying. I have definitely seen that.  I have an 11 year old daughter and I also think that procrastination comes with the age that we are dealing with right now.  They simply have other things that they would rather do.  The way I deal with it is I tell my daughter that she has to get things done within a certain time period.  First thing she does when she comes home is homework.  No questions asked.  I also make sure that I keep in contact with her teacher and make sure that I know what is going on and what the homework is each night.  Communication is the key.  I also am quick to celebrate any victory no matter how small.  If she remembers to do something on her own I tell her I'm proud of her and that she's doing a good job.  

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User in Calera, OK
June 13, 2016

Yes it most certainly can. Children tend to have more focus and concentration when someone other than a parent is telling them to do something. It is quite interesting how little it takes to make a child behave. A loving, intelligent, fun tutor can get your child to sit down and focus while also getting him/her to see the joy in knowledge, love learning, and to become a better student and child in the classroom as well as at home. Tutoring is a great way to allow your son to practice manners, sitting still, focusing, and retaining information. If the tutor does their job correctly, then your child will be a huge success and will learn helpful tools for their future education endeavours, and when they start become excellent time management makers, and an honor student and they want to know where they learned these habits from you will be able to smile and know that it is because you made a smart decision by hiring a tutor. For parents who are involved with their children and fear a tutor will cause some distance, perhaps seek a tutor who is willing to have you sit on a few sessions so that way the tutor does not have to become a permanent household member. by being involved in your childs life in that way, in the areas that are the hardest for them, it will help you grow and learn about yourself as well as your child, and your bond with them will be like never before. they will see you are caring concerned and sincerely interested in seeing them be successful. So when you get a tutor make sure they are well educated, thoughtful, and focused on your sons overall character, and you should be apart of this journey every step of the way. who knows at some point you can tell the tutor to leave and from observing you may some day be able to tutor them yourself. make sure you designate the tutoring sessions to occur in a certain part of the home free from distractions that enable his procrastinating habits. provide short intervals of break, exercise, and food so that your child alert ready, and focused because reading and learning can be very trying on a childs cognitive development, so having a healthy diet, and healthy balance in his overall life outside of the tutoring will help you to see the necessary changes desired for your baby boy! Best of luck and wishes for your son I pray he becomes extremely successful in all he does! if you desire to ask more questions please contanct me at my email provided on my page! God bless!

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Are there specific subjects that your son is procrastinating on in particular? Perhaps he's actually struggling with those areas and he procrastinates because he's having a hard time with the subjects. I think it would be a good idea to first talk to your son's teacher and see if they've noticed procrastination in school or if he's struggling with a particular subject.

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Kerri M.
June 16, 2018

Yes, for sure. I tutor can definitely provide motivation to get things done, especially with rewards of some form.

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If you assign the tutor to include lessons of non-procrastination, then yes, your child will learn.

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Hiring a tutor could help. There's the fact that doing so would devote a period of time to working through the homework with the the tutor. If your question is more about preventing procrastination in the long-term, after work with the tutor has concluded, then also yes. The tutor should be able to offer suggestions to help combat the procrastination. Hopefully that helps!

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Hiring a tutor can definitely help because having someone other than a parent to hold them accountable might encourage more cooperation. Some kids would rather just get the homework done than sit awkwardly with a tutor refusing to do it. It would also depend on the personality of the tutor. It would be ideal to have someone with a genuine zest for education and can find ways to make the work seem fun.

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getting a tutor would definitely help him get work done, since you'll be setting aside a strict time for him to focus on work, but as for learning to not procrastinate in the first place, that is a skill he can only really learn by himself.

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Sandra in Briggs, TX
Oct. 24, 2017

Probably not. YOU need to teach him that.

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Yes. Be clear with the tutor about what you would like to work on. I would also recommend a consistent study space to meet with the tutor. And setting goals and deadlines is critical.

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User in Spring, TX
Sept. 27, 2017

Tutors can help to teach and reinforce study skills for your child. Having a set time when someone will be present to assist with homework can definitely eliminate the chance to procrastinate. However, this will eventually fall back to your son. Is he perhaps struggling with school so that he dreads doing the work? Or, is the work not challenging enough to keep him interested? Both can be reasons that a student will prefer to procrastinate.

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most definitely. I know in some schools for kids who do not to their homework they must have a folder where the teacher rights down what the home work was for the night and signs it and when the child got home the parents had to see what it was and also sign off that it was completed that way no lying could be done on either end. also hiring a tutor to come every day after school for at least an hour would also make sure that the home work is getting done correctly.

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Cam in Columbus, OH
June 1, 2017

In my opinion, as long as he completes his work, its ok. Otherwise, you can offer incentives for completing his work early. Hiring a tutor to make him do his work will be a crutch moving forward.

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Usually if you hire a tutor, your child will need to sit there with the tutor. Procrastination works when your child has something to "escape" to. A tutor will be like a teacher continually reminding your child to bring his brain back to the work in front of him. Kimberly http://kimberlytruong.com/ https://www.care.com/p/kimberl...

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User in New York, NY
Sept. 4, 2016

Hiring a tutor may definitely help your son engage and finish his homework. That may not change his behavior/ habits 24/7, but getting that homework done seems like a good goal in itself. Talk to his pediatrician if you are seriously concerned about his attention span, organizational skills, etc. 

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User in Houston, TX
Aug. 23, 2016

It's clear that depends too much things but one tutor can help him or her using games. This way is good for children with parents working very hard and with time limited. If you can read to Maria Montessori's life you can see his way in elementary education. She gave us "opened room". The children can do whatever everyday in  a school. Playing is a way to learn everything. Flash Cards, puzzles,  are examples to use about learning in the childhood. I would say that in Middle School is possible this  Finding a reliable tutor, with love to teach is possible to do here or around the world.  .  

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User in Haughton, LA
Aug. 23, 2016

I am going to answer this again.

 

Absolutely hiring a tutor can be just what will help motivate a child. I have made that difference before.

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User in Bronx, NY
June 24, 2016

It depends on the kind of tutor you hire. My mom was a tutor for more than 10 years and she says a tutor has to be able to push and teach the kid the right way in order for them to truly succeed. Kids procrastinate on assignments because they aren't excited about the work. If you hire a tutor that can help your kids get excited about the subject or work then most likely yes.

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User in Houston, TX
June 11, 2016

I use game to avoid his ways and I can help him get things done for your future. Let me do it. I have a grandson with the same attitudes but I could do it and he is going now to fifth (5th)grade in Hero elementary School. Best. Thank you so much.

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User in Jamesburg, NJ
June 10, 2016

With your input, a tutor can help your son set priorities by creating a schedule for completion of homework and other assignments. Adherence to this schedule has to be strictly enforced by both you and the tutor. If your son still avoids his work, you may want to introduce some consequences.(ie: homework gets completed by a certain time or no video games, TV, play dates, etc.)

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Try a award system

Hi Margaret - I think you might be referring to a REWARD system?!

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User in Midland, TX
July 11, 2016

A tutor could possibly help by being a different voice and helping to set a schedule. But, first I wonder how old is your son? I only ask because I hear parents often make the same complaint about their children who are not even in their teens and therefore have seemingly not had the chance to learn this skill. Personally, I believe that most adults procrastinate but they have learned how to disguise it. I think most procrastination comes from an idea that the project is too big and therefore too difficult to even begin. But, if a child is taught how to break the project into manageable pieces that are spread out over a time period and each with their own due date, he may come to enjoy the challenge of tackling a project rather than avoiding it. As a parent though, I would honestly assess my approach to due dates and then figure out how to teach a healthy approach to my child. I think sometimes we are afraid to micro manage children but we must remember that they do not know what we know and that time to them is still a difficult concept. Hope that helps!

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User in Tustin, CA
Aug. 9, 2016

If the tutor can explain that to him, but getting a tutor and the tutor not discussing that isn't going to solve the situation. Try to find a tutor who maybe used to procrastinate a lot when they were younger as well but have learned a life lesson from it, and then have the tutor explain in in simpler terms like, if you don't get your homework done first but play first instead then you might miss out on fun opportunities since it might be happening at the time they have to then finish their homework and that if they finish their assignments first then they have the whole rest of the day free to play.

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User in Cary, NC
July 23, 2016

Hiring a tutor can help your son get into the habit of completing his homework in a timely manner and setting his priorities straight. Finding the right tutor will help make getting his schoolwork done easier and more fun for him.

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User in Sarasota, FL
Aug. 18, 2016

A tutor does not change the basic personality of the student.  If they tend to procrastinate then simply hiring a tutor is not going to fix that.  A tutor can provide a structured environment and, at least while the student is there, can help them complete work.  I have been working with a student who tends to procrastinate but he does work hard when we are together so it has helped him, his grades and his parents.

It is important to determine the reasons for the procrastination.  It could be a sign of a learning disability, an attention-related issue, low reading ability or several other things.

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Frances in Bronx, NY
July 13, 2018

Hiring a tutor will get his homework done, but, a child with stop procrastinating when he/she sees fit.

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User in Haughton, LA
July 16, 2016

It worked for the student I tutored. His motivation picked up and he learned to not fuss about math any more. 

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Most kids a like that. If the parents are short on time, having him work with a tutor can help build that quality of getting things on time, but in the end maturity will have to take over and it differs at what age it eventually kicks in.

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Ramsa in Richmond, TX
June 27, 2018

yes, hiring a tutor can provide someone to watch and monitor him. By being physically present, the tutor can push your son and help him complete his assignments. In my experience, if the child doesn't know the tutor as well, they will be less willing to talk back or disrespect them as they are not comfortable to do so.

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Yes, it is worth a shot. Children respond better in academics when it is not their family doing the teaching.

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