How do I get my daughter to enjoy alone time?
Every second of the day, my daughter wants to be either with someone or talking to someone. It's exhausting, and I'm worried about her. How do I get her to enjoy her own company?
Here is my answer to another question about someone asking how to tell her daughter to stop talking. I think some of what I wrote will really translate here. I will highlight that children explore and learn from when they are born till they are adults. This should be celebrated. She likes attention as all kids do. Best thing for you to do for her to enjoy her "alone" time is to get her busy. Find mentally stimulated and positive tasks or things for her to do. Things that she would be happy to be distracted with, whether it's drawing, puzzles, reading or just a hobby. "It's never good to keep a child from talking. They are learning and exploring the world. So much is new to them and this prime developmental time in their lives. They should be encouraged to ask questions and explore. It's the age to learn and shape their brains. That said pointless talking can sometimes be tedious. Take her energy and put it to good use. Get her busy. Have her solve puzzles or give her activities. If you really need her to stop talking, don't tune out. Children require attention and patience but for a parent whose job is 24/7 parenting with no break, it can become overwhelming. A few things to try: take some breaks and relax your mind so that you can stand the talking better. As I said, distract her or keep her busy. Everything is new to her and I'm sure you can find a topic that it's rest you to discuss with her. Activities that keep her mind active and involve solving things to you reading to her can be great ways to keep her from talking and they can involve you or not. Never bribe her to stop talking and definetly don't tell her to stop talking straight to her. Even teling her mommy needs rest and walking away can be phsycologically damaging. Find a distraction for her that you can walk away from or you can enjoy to join. If she feels she doesn't have your attention, she will attempt to grab your attention more and talk more. Also a support system and friends can be great help to you, to let her keep developing and talking and giving you a break. I wish you luck and patience, and if you have any specific questions feel free to message me. "
She is probabbally just an extrovert. It is really not a bad thing. I wouldn't worry about it.
I do get what you are saying about your daughters need for constant companionship being exhausting, because for us it is. Sometimes It can be difficult to think of our children as individuals, with their own likes and dislikes. I doubt if you can make her enjoy something she doesn't want to do. I would think that alone time is more of a personal preference. Some people prefer it, some don't.
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