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Is it wrong to bribe my toddler to stay with me when we are out in public?

User
Nov. 20, 2017

My daughter is two and wanders away from me all the time. She doesn't like to be stuck in a grocery cart or stroller. If I bribe her she stays close to me. Is it wrong to bribe her to keep her safe?

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No children should not be bribed, they should be told what is right and wrong without abuse or bribery

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Erin in Edna, TX
Nov. 20, 2017

Absolutely not, the safety of ones child is very important. And if you have to bribe them with candy or a toy, then by all means do it! It is better to bribe your child and get odd stares than risk losing your child.

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Nadia in Jamaica, NY
Nov. 20, 2017

It is entirely up to you every parent and every situation is different

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User in Monroe, LA
Aug. 6, 2015

Positive reinforcement is far more effective than punishment/threats, but the reward usually comes after the desired action. However she's defenseless and will test everything. If she ever asks why, tell her a legitimate answer, not "because I said so". Kids need to be warned that certain actions will likely get them hurt. One approach is to give her 2 choices up front- she can choose to stay within an arm's length beside you and have a treat, or if she chooses to go farther then she will not get a treat nor a choice at all next time (follow through!). If she does something you like then reward her even if she's not expecting it, and be consistent.

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I wouldn't say bribe I would use the words - positive reinforcement. Set the boundaries before going into the store. If she stays with you positive reward - wanders - no reward. I would just like to say shopping is an adult activity and it usually pushes children past their attentions spans and melt downs occur - if you can go shopping with out the little ones it's really better for everyone. PMathis RN BSN MSP DC

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