If there is health concerns, then definitely ask about experience with health issues in general first, then follow up with specifics. If there is fall concerns, ask about how much dead weight they feel comfortable with lifting. If this is mostly companionship type of situation, ask what their hobbies are... more
I would see an attorney. It is possible to fight the brother's power of attorney, I've been witness to it on multiple accounts. It seems that even though your parents ability is in a state of decline, your parents are still of sane mind (judging by the reactions... more
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