i don't think anyone is happy about paying taxes, but i prefer to comply with the laws. for myself, i prefer my employer to take taxes out of my pay and report to IRS.
i don't know why someone would do that. i find that inconsiderate and unprofessional.
maybe consult with a lawyer since your brother has power of attorney. that sounds like an awful lot of money to pay each month for care.
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