That's very inappropriate, unfortunately it is common behavior. Maybe you can ask for confirmation the day before and again the day of the meeting.
This is not legal advice and is my own personal opinion. I think you have a right and a case to go to court to get the power of attorney taken away. This all seems like abuse of your parents and their money. APS would take action immediately. Is this... more
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