Vionic they have built in arch support. Great if you have fallen arches. Come both in wide width and regular.
I would try to put a calendar in the bathroom and her her make a mark /smiley face when she has showered. That might help her realise how many days in between.
What a great idea!
start with a check -up
Dog's can be mans best friend. However consider this... Are you willing to take on said pet if/when he no longer can? Cats are much easier, no need to take them outside. Perhaps you can get him engaged at the senior center.
perhaps just downsizing to an apartment for now would help her.
That dos happen. ( roles being reversed) It is not easy for them to give up control but; I would explain your fears and offer to drive, and see where that leads the conversation.
Start with a good check-up with her doctor
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