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The novel coronavirus has taken over the news and our lives. Much of the economy is shut down, and that means millions of kids are out of school while millions of parents are struggling<\/a> to figure out what to do next. If the COVID-19 outbreak is making you want to hide in a closet and cry for an hour where your kids can’t see you, you certainly aren’t alone. <\/p>

There are a lot of unknowns with this virus, which can lead to catastrophic thinking, expert say. People may fear the unknown, fear getting sick or fear dying. These are primal fears and often come up when perceived threats occur. Now add in the stress of suddenly having to become a home-schooling parent overnight plus scrambling for child care, learning to work from home or feeling uncertainty about the future of a job, and you have the recipe for a parental freak-out. <\/p>

So how do parents manage their own anxiety in the time of coronavirus? How do we keep it from leaking out and affecting our kids? Take a few deep breaths. You can do this. Here’s how.<\/p>

1. Do be gentle with yourself<\/h2>

While we wash our hands and cough into tissues<\/a>, there are a lot of unknowns about the coronavirus.<\/p>

“I have a whole lot on my mind … wondering about the future,” says KimHildenbrand, a mom of three. “How hard will our community, state andcountry be hit by coronavirus? How can the economy take this? Will thekids go back to school this year?” Like many parents, Hildenbranddescribes herself as “more on edge” with no answers in sight. <\/p>

The first thing you can do is recognize that anxiety is very normal rightnow. Our sense of safety and security is tied to life being predictableand controllable. In the corona case, there just really isn’t much wecan do. We’re walking around with this fear. Even in the most healthy,well-adjusted person, that can cause anxiety.<\/p>

2. Do talk to your kids<\/h2>

It can be tempting to keep kids completely in the dark, but most childrenare seeing a disruption in their routine. Day cares and schools areclosing. More parents are working from home or shuffling kids torelatives or friends for child care in order to work without theirnormal support systems. They know something is up.<\/p>

The kids can also read parents’ moods and are good at absorbing their parents’ emotional energy but not really good at interpreting it. So, while kids can sense their parents are stressed, without direct conversations, they’re left to guess at what’s going on, and sometimes they can turn that inward, thinking “Mommy must be upset because I made a mess” or “Daddy is mad at me”.<\/p>

Conversations with kids<\/a> should be calm and age-appropriate. You can explain that there’s a virus going around, mentioning it’s like a cold in that it can cause people to cough and that it’s important to wash our hands and cough into our elbows. These are best practices that kids should be adopting in general. <\/p>

When your children have questions, answer withdevelopmentally appropriate answers. Do not provide so much informationthat you overwhelm them. Stick with answering what they want to know. If they ask why they can’t go to school or can’t see grandma right now,explain that most kids who get COVID-19 have mild symptoms, butsometimes older adults will have a harder time with the disease and youwant to keep everyone safe. The goal should be to give them the factswithout the fear.<\/p>

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3. Don’t talk about COVID-19 in front of the kids<\/h2>

Wait a second. Isn’t this the opposite of what we just said? Nope! There’s a difference between talking to your kids about the coronavirus andtalking about it in front of them. Kids look to us to set the tone forhow they should feel about things. They want to know somebody is incharge and somebody is taking care of everything.<\/p>

Role-modelling calm behavior is important, and anxious conversations about the lack of toilet paper at your grocery store or the latest person in your town to be diagnosed can set a tone of fear. It’s good to get these conversations out in the open so you don’t bottle up your anxiety, but they should be done with other adults, out of earshot and eyesight of your kids.<\/p>

4. Do establish a routine<\/h2>

For kids who are used to schedules, being home with long stretches of timeto fill can be a jolt to the system. Tempted to treat this like a summer vacation and let the kids freewheel? Don’t! Having a schedule can helpcreate a sense of stability, but it doesn’t have to mean rigorousschoolwork all day long. The schedule can include a mix of both academic time as well as play or downtime. Try to find a balance that fits yourchild’s needs.<\/p>

Megan Zander, a mom of twin, says she’s sticking to a schedule but letting her kids weigh in on what they want it to look like. That way they feel a sense of control in their topsy-turvy world, Zander says. Now’s a good time to reinforce health too, whether it’s making hand washing before every meal a family activity or taking time to clean around the house as a family.<\/p>

5. Do focus on the positive<\/h2>

There’s plenty to be stressed about, but sometimes a simple refocusing canhelp. For Hildenbrand, that has meant focusing on her kids and the timewith them she’s gotten back. “We don’t have to rush to get ready forschool or softball practice,” she says. “I don’t have PTA volunteering.I’m not tired because I don’t have to stay up late writing an essay forschool or working on an article for a client. We can just … be.”<\/p>

Hildenbrand says she’s also talking to her kids to help them focus on thepositives. “I keep talking to the kids about silver linings, and that’show I feel right now,” she says. “We have to look for the silver lining. In our case, it’s having so much more time as a family. My husband is a high school teacher. I’m a freelance writer, also substitute teachingand getting my master’s in elementary education. Our kids play sports.Life is so busy. This has forced us to slow down.”<\/p>

Even for parents who are still working all day long, nights and weekends at home with no activities in sight can be a good time to spend enjoying each other’s company or teaching kids to give back. Consider baking cookies for an immuno-compromised neighbor who is trapped at home or writing cards thanking the medical staff who is on the front lines of the crisis.<\/p>

6. Do remember kids will get through this<\/h2>

Believe it or not, the experts say there’s something good about kids havingtheir lives interrupted: They’re developing the coping skills to dealwith it. This national trauma is going to affect our kids, but it alsohas the potential to help them navigate future hardships. We do notpromise our kids a perfect life, we do promise to give them the toolsfor the real world. Going through this as a family will help providekids with a foundation for tough stuff down the road.<\/p>

7. Don’t forget to take time for yourself<\/h2>

Still feel like hiding in that closet and crying? That’s OK! Some parents sneak off for five minutes to sit in the bathroom just to reset and get back to being e.g. the mom her sons need. Take deep breaths, and if you feel like you need professional help, don’t be afraid to seek it out. Many providers are offering tele-health sessions now. Just take these offers!<\/p>

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