Politely tell her you to have job to do and you are a professional. If she continues to micromanage then give them notice.
I would request a background check. Pack anything of value yourself. Or have cameras on during the packing.
YES, a client should let you know if they have bedbugs or recently had bedbugs. You should trust your client as they expect you to be trusted. Not responding builds negative repour. I would request payment through CARE. Or wash your hands of the client.
The two items serve two different purposes, therefore, they may be used in the same room at the same time. Air purifiers take the air in and send clean air out. Oil diffusers allow you to reap the benefits of aromatherapy.
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