Take it easy (or at least easier) with these ideas for enjoying Mother's Day your way.
Hire a Housekeeper (for a Day Anyway)
No, we're not talking about a housekeeper IOU! Pick the day. Make the call. Done. Your best bet is booking it for the Monday after Mother's Day so you can relax -- really relax -- knowing that someone else will be cleaning up after you and your clan tomorrow (you won't even have to make the bed).
"Moms often have a hard job saying 'no' when it comes to taking care of their family," says well-known psychotherapist Dr. Robi Ludwig. Recommending that it's time to break that pattern. "Hire a helper to look forward to...to make your special day even more special." Tip: Make sure the person you hire does laundry, ideally even ironing. Yes, it's a splurge. But it's just this once, and you deserve it.
Go to a Coffee Shop (Alone)
Most mornings you take that first blissful sip of coffee, then you're pulled away by your husband or kids. You return a half hour later to find it's cold, then warm it up only to have the situation rinsed and repeated...and this time the mug sits in the microwave until you find it around dinnertime. (That's when you think, "Where did this day go?")
But not today! Today you're going to enjoy your cup of coffee. While sitting in -- get this -- a chair. You may even watch the steam rise out of that heavenly dark liquid just because you can! "It's really important to be able to create and take a time out for oneself," Ludwig explains "it can be tremendously therapeutic"
So, here are the rules: If you want to read a newspaper or an article or two from your favorite glossy, fine. But no smart phones are allowed during your coffee shop getaway! (And, yes, you can meet your husband and kids for brunch afterwards -- even slip back into bed while they're cooking, if that's where they want you to eat your heart-shaped pancakes. They never even have to know!).
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Make it a Ponytail-No-Makeup Day
Unless you enjoy blow-drying your hair and applying mascara -- and some of us do! -- skip it on Mother's Day. Your family will still think you're beautiful, we promise! "Everyone needs a low maintenance day when they can just throw on their sweats, wear no make up and realize they're still lovable anyway," Ludwig says. Now here's the real question: Whatever are you going to do with that extra hour in your day? (You're always saying there aren't enough of them, after all.)
Rent a DVD
Movie night! There's popcorn and there's chocolate! But the best part (yes, even better than the chocolate): Your family is blessedly together -- and you get to admire them from your couch perch while they sit there...all beautiful and quiet-like. After all, mamas want to be with their kids on Mother's Day -- that is the point, after all, right? -- we just don't want to entertain and discipline them. "Nothing is more important than connecting with your family in a way that's easy and effortless," explains Ludwig. "Not every family event needs to be so strictly orchestrated."
Ask Daddy to Play Quarterback
If your partner or husband watches football, he might appreciate the sports reference and understand that you're putting him in complete charge of the kids and the house today. (If this isn't a novelty, skip to #5).
That means: If he's going out, the kids go with him; otherwise, there's a chance they'll make a mess while he's gone, leaving you in charge of some sort of washing, mopping, scouring, scrubbing or wiping (which would break the Mother's Day rules).
Buy Yourself Something You Don't Need
"It's important for your emotional well-being to get yourself a little something every once in a while to remind yourself you're worth it," Ludwig says. So, if you were looking for help with the rationalizing, there you have it: The expert says so! Especially since, chances are, you're constantly buying items for your kids and never for yourself, you'll feel a naughty little rush when picking out something you want, purely for fun.
And it doesn't have to cost a fortune! In fact, set your budget at $25. Are you artistic or do you like scrapbooking? Head to a craft store for some new pens or markers. Are you fashion-forward? Pick out a lightweight cotton scarf or a small piece of costume jewelry. Are you into home décor? How about some fresh flowers or a scented candle?
Take a Nap
Stop laughing. We're serious. Remember when everyone told you to sleep when the baby sleeps...and you never did? Well, today you're making up for lost (nap)time. No excuses.
"Sleep is the new staycation," says Ludwig. (Don't you just love that?!) "Motherhood can be an exhausting gig, so invite your partner to give you that much-needed break." It will feel so indulgent to lie down in a quiet room while Daddy gives you that precious hour off in the middle of the day -- even more than a massage or a manicure. "It can make a world of difference," Ludwig says.