6 Things to Do When You're Not Getting Responses to Your Job
Use these tips to get the help you need.
Stephanie St. Martin, Contributor
Articles> 6 Things to Do When You're Not Getting Responses to Your Job
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You're stuck. You need someone reliable to watch your kids, walk your dog, clean your house, etc., and have been bombarded with responses from potential caregivers. Or worse, you haven't gotten enough responses. Whether you don't have time to weed through the plethora of candidates or you don't have enough to suit your needs -- no need to panic. Here are some easy tricks to finding the help you need on Care.com.

Note: If you are a family looking to hire someone, this list should help your needs. But if you are looking for a job, we have a separate list of tips for you, as well as live Facebook chats to give you more advice on using the site. Start with our "14 Ways to Get Families to Respond to You on Care.com" article and then look for the next live discussion with our Member Care Team.

  1. Re-read your Care.com Job Ad
    When something doesn't work, start back at square one. Is everything in your original job posting clear? Does it make you want to apply for the job? If you are yawning reading it, chances are that the potential applicants are too.

  2. Be Realistic
    That old saying "treat others how you want to be treated" is definitely true, especially on Care.com. If you are asking for someone to help with the laundry, prepare dinner and cart your child off to soccer practice, $5.00/hour won't cut it. (Besides that, it's under minimum wage!) If you are hiring a caregiver and expect them to perform addition duties, make sure you pay for them. Put yourself in the person's shoes: you wouldn't apply to a job ad if there's a lot of responsibilities and not a lot of pay either.

  3. Write Out the Minimum Requirements
    We all have a wish list of what makes up the perfect Mary Poppins sitter or an ideal housekeeper. But instead of clogging up a job posting with lesser important details, focus on your must-haves. For example, make it clear that providers must have completed CPR training. It's okay to have a specific area for reasonable "minimum requirements" at the bottom of your application. If a caregiver doesn't have these requirements, they won't be tempted to apply.

  4. Be Personal
    Tell a little about your family in the ad, not just the job. Talk about your 5 year-old wannabe ballerina or your dinosaur-loving son. It might be nice to hire someone who studied ballet or who knows the best dinosaur books. Those little things, like interests, can make a sitter want to apply to a job or not.

  5. Educate Yourself
    Not sure what the going rate for a caregiver is? Did someone ask about writing a nanny contract, but you have no clue what one is? Thankfully, our team at Care.com has you covered. Head to our articles and resources section, where you can find information on nanny contracts, what to pay your sitter and much more.

  6. Advertise Your Job
    While your ad is up on Care.com, message local caregivers to see if they're available -- and send them the job ad too. Click on the My Town Tab under My Care.com in the upper right hand corner of the page and find caregivers in your town. Search by zip code. If you aren't getting applicants in your town, expand your search to within 25 miles (you can search up to 50 miles on Care.com). Message potential caregivers you like to see if they're interested in your job.

If you get candidates who aren't a perfect fit, make sure you close the loop with them. Nothing is more annoying in a job search than applying to a job and never hearing back. Thankfully, Care.com has provided you with the "No Thanks" button. Where's the "No Thanks" button, you ask? When you are logged into Care.com, click on the link for your "My Jobs" page, which on the left side of your Care.com homepage. Next to each of your job posts, you will see a link for the number of applicants. Click this link, and the list view includes quick access to background checks, messages and the one-click "no thanks" button. Click on it and it will send a response message to the applicant saying that you are not interested in them for this job. There can be a lot of candidates to look over, but taking the extra time to let them know where they stand is a courtesy and a time-saver. The caregiver can now move on to other jobs applications (without wondering about the status of yours) and you don't have to respond to follow up messages from them asking if you are going to hire them.

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(105) Comments
Joan H.
Joan H.
I stay on the site with high hopes. I've been contacted by a few folks and did get one caregiver job that I really loved and would love to find another. I now get all my housecleaning and pet sitting jobs from my clients referring me to people they know; word of month is great, but in this business it's not always enough so I stay on the site; it is a form of promotion. I do think that offering a higher range of pay and expecting good service is the way to go. A good and honest Caregiver,House Keeper and Pet Sitter is worth the extra money paid. I know from my clients that they pay for the great job and peace of mind - all worth it to them.
December 15, 2014 at 12:40 PM
Samantha Z.
Samantha Z.
I have the same problem! I apply to so many positions and I don't hear back from 95% of the parents. I have done everything care.com suggests and still nothing... I feel like they should give a respond rate of the parents as well.
November 24, 2014 at 8:21 PM
Rebecca R.
Rebecca R.
I have to say this because of an ad I recently responded to, please be honest about the hours and rate of pay. I got very frustrated when I responded to an ad that had full time hours listed, yet they were only looking for 2 days a week. That is deceptive and does not truly describe what you are looking for.
November 16, 2014 at 12:41 AM
Member Care Representative
Member Care Representative
Hello Katherine, thanks for the amazing comment! It is great to hear that you had an excellent experience with us and were able to find wonderful nannies as well. We appreciate the feedback and will gladly move it along. I hope you continue to have a positive experience and best of luck on finding another great nanny on our site!
September 23, 2014 at 3:39 PM
Katherine R.
Katherine R.
I have used this site to find both of my previous nannies and they have been amazing people. The one improvement that I would truly like to see for this site is to add a review option for the seeker. I feel like because this is my third posting in two years, people are hesitant to apply. In actuality, our previous nannies were college students that left to pursue their "full time" careers and could no longer provide or survive off of our part time care position. It would be great if those girls could post a review on our family to say what it was like working for us. They both really enjoyed working for us and still keep in contact with us, often visiting our children when in town. I have interviewed a fair amount of people for all three of my job postings and am shocked at some of the experiences some of these folks have had. I would never treat the person coming into my home to take care of my most precious asset, my children, like some of these people have been treated. In our world, these girls usually end up becoming like a part of the family! I say all that to say that it would be nice for employers to be able to put up background checks on themselves and reviews from previous employees to ensure candidates that they are really getting what they are being promised.
September 10, 2014 at 12:58 PM
Rebecca R.
Rebecca R.
I am still going through the same issues. i have done every trick Care.com has said. One thing I started doing was checking the families profile out. I am horrified when I see families that have posted 8 or more ads within a 2 year period of time. I will no longer respond to families that have done that. I have seen so many people bashing the nannies/caregivers on here, yet they go through garegivers faster than a baby goes through diapers! I am still of the belief that the families need to be held to the same standards that we are, and that includes a background check. When i see ads that require 30+ hours of work yet they are only willing to pay $150 or less, it's shocking to me. I have also been contacted by people that want not only a childcare provider, but a housekeeper, personal assistant, and chef... for wages such as $8.00 an hour, and they have 3 or 4 children. I have also dealt with families that refuse to mention when a child is sick, and I usually end up catching it. I am very discouraged at this point, and I really do want to believe there are decent families on here. I have even had families be so dishonest when it comes to their special needs children. I was not warned about violent behaviors or the degree of severity of the needs. As far as that goes, I know the economy is rough. I also think caregivers need to be realistic as well. With so many families having to take pay cuts, you may have to begotiate your way of thinking so you don't price yourself out of the job market, so it cuts both ways, but people have to start being realistic!

Families: if you're not willing to consider atleast 10-15 an hour for the housekeeping and cooking in addition to the childcare, then you may have to consider dropping something from your list of requirements. We have to be able to survive as well. If you can afford a $2000 dollar television, you can afford to pay for quality home care.

Caregivers: while you should not have to work for $5 or less per hour, you may have to be willing to negotiate a lower wage to have a job. You should not base your pay on your lifestyle. The ability to survive is most important, and there are many things you can do without.
May 25, 2014 at 9:54 AM
Liz b
Liz b
Wow!!!!!! I'm very surprise by all these parents who contact you and you answer and then they don't have the common sense to text you back. I have had so many horrible parents contact me and then they never call me back not been to say thanks for your time but we have hired someone else that's fine just have THE COURTESY PARENTS to let whoever took the time to spend gas and time to drive over to meet you. Parents THINK and be proffesional I thought you were the ones with the " good paying job because you are so intelligent RIGHT". Please care.com screen this parents and have them have a little respect for caregivers who are human and have feelings.
May 19, 2014 at 11:28 PM
Jennifer L.
Jennifer L.
I could not agree more. We, the caregivers, are expected to have an amazing profile & good reply rate to messages. I am not sure if this is something that can be seen by those in need of care, but I think its only fair to hold everyone accountable - caregivers & care seekers alike.

I have applied/inquired to dozens of postings - all w/o reply. What is far worse, the number of those looking for help who have the MOST BARE descriptions...or find that they can ask for EVERYTHING under the sun, but only want to pay $5 an hour. Really?

I have never paid for a job search site before - in addition to NEVER paying an agency. However, I find it interesting that Care.com finds it necessary to charge caregivers. This opinion does not equal a "dislike' for the service - I actually like Care.com a lot. I just think that care seekers need to ante up.
May 1, 2014 at 12:02 PM
Arturo D.
Arturo D.
For some strange reason I love care.com website in spite of the fact I only got one job from this website since I join some 2 or 3 years ago. Rightly so, I may have sent 101 application but the respond are close to nothing. Ironically, those who I do not write to are the one calling for my help. Unfortunately, either their my schedule or their timing does not fit my availability. The other needs only 2 hours in the morning and 2 hours in the evening but I have to travel far and wide.

The same when I did up grade my membership those who call are either change their mind saying heir previous care giver decided to stay and/or their requirement are not my specialty. I can not pretend that I like to their requirement if they are not my specialty.

One thing I noticed after I upgraded my membership, the same emails I used to get when I was on free membership are posted the same day in my up graded membership notification through the apps. The ones in the apps had been there since time I can not remember anymore. When I tried to write to some of them they will say its no longer available. It just prolong the lists of what they so called "NEW Jobs Near Me". Perhaps care.com should automatically delete those that are already unavailable.

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April 24, 2014 at 9:35 PM
Girlie D.
Girlie D.
I have a posted a job, been contacted by interested providers, I contacted them back for follow-up conversation, but never received an email or a call back. It's simple courtesy, and it also shows reliability. If providers cannot respond with a simple "No, thank you", especially if they have initiated the conversation and expressed interest in the job posting, then it shows a lot about their character.
January 20, 2014 at 4:53 PM
Rebecca R.
Rebecca R.
I think it boils down to a lack of respect. Yes I udnerstand parenting and running a household is tough, however people need to remember that you are lookig to hire someone to do the same thing! I know I have been contacted by people who post onething in their ad, then in the face to face interview, it becomes painfully apparent that the job is much more than what they claim. That is IF I get a response at all. 90% of the messages and resposes I send out go unresponded to.
January 7, 2014 at 12:24 AM
Sarah G.
Sarah G.
Wow, I must say I am quite surprised by the negative experiences some of you have had with the communication via Care.com. I have been featured on this site for over 2 years with great success. At one time, I actually had so much interest, I had to turn down jobs. When seeking care or offering your services, I find it necessary to log on daily and review/fine-tune my profile.
I am happy with this website and appreciate the continued progress and updates that are applied.
Good luck to all of you.
October 22, 2013 at 11:01 PM
Makenna D.
Makenna D.
You just have to keep applying. It helps to check every half hour or hour for new jobs so that they may be online AND you'll be the first they see.

I had a rough time a couple weeks ago, but in this past week I have had a total of SEVEN interviews and already got offered a job! :)

KEEP TRYING
June 6, 2013 at 11:33 PM
Sydney C.
Sydney C.
Heck, I have sent about 27 messages to people and only 1 replied. I have no idea what may be happening.
June 5, 2013 at 1:55 PM
Valerie R.
Valerie R.
Thought I would chime in and say that Care.com is a wonderful tool in finding a job. I got one of my nanny jobs on here a few years ago and no issue in getting replies that time. I have a lot of experience and was previously a teacher at a private school. I have tons of babysitting/nanny experience and I make sure that my profile reflects it. I think some of the people that are not receiving replies are not treating this like a true profession. Check your grammar! Make sure your picture is professional looking! There are a lot of applicants out there, you need to stand out in a good way. This round I was in a new town seeking a job--this area had way less people seeking a caregiver. I have been very persistent in sending out my resume, in replying to everyone promptly, and maintaining my profile. I have actually received so many great job offers that it was hard deciding who I wanted to work for. So, all in all I am very grateful for Care.com and I hope that some of you find the job you are looking for!
June 3, 2013 at 1:58 PM
Sydney R.
Sydney R.
I have responded to what feels like a dozen or so jobs, and its always a hit-and-miss kind of thing. I am honest in telling what I can and can't do, I strive to be polite and helpful, but I get one response for every four applications it seems. What am I doing wrong?
June 3, 2013 at 12:53 PM
Teresa R.
Teresa R.
Wow, I had no idea everyone was in this situation like me. I'm in pet sitting and haven't gotten any jobs and only one person replied with the "no thank you" automatic response. I keep applying to other postings just to see if one will take me and my years of experience. I hope this happens soon.
May 28, 2013 at 8:59 PM
Member Care.
Member Care.
Hi Cheryl C!

I'm sorry to hear that you are not finding what you're looking for. We advise visiting the 'Profile Strength' section of your account for tips to improve your visibility on the site. It can be difficult at first to find a job that fits your needs. I hope you have better luck moving forward.
April 17, 2013 at 5:43 PM
Cheryl C.
Cheryl C.
I have applied for at least 8 babysitting positions and I have not heard back from a single one. Not even the courtesy of a response that says No Thank You. I am very disappointed in this web site. I have thought of paying the membership fee to upgrade but have "held out" because I don't want to waste my money when I can't get any feed back on any jobs that I have applied for.

Cheryl C.
April 16, 2013 at 10:57 AM
Tiffanie C.
Tiffanie C.
I recently joined care.com to find babysitting work. I log in everyday and search jobs and check my mail everyday, but still no responses. I have applied for 15 jobs. I figure any exposure is better than none, so hopefully a job will come through soon.
April 6, 2013 at 9:08 AM
Member Care.
Member Care.
Hi Leah P!
Thanks so much for the positive feedback! When you categorize someone as either a 'favorite' or a 'maybe' you are able to access their profiles through a different section of your account. They become listed in the 'My Caregivers' section. This section helps you to keep track of your preferred candidates as well as keeps you organized throughout your search. Best of luck!
April 5, 2013 at 3:13 PM
Member Care.
Member Care.
Hi Lainie G,

Thanks for your feedback about our job posting. We do require that families designate an end date when posting a job and we ask that they close their current jobs when the position has been filled. The Job Wizard is a feature for our busy families who need a job posted right away. You can always ask more specific questions during the interview for additional details! I hope that helps.
April 5, 2013 at 3:01 PM
Chelsey R.
Chelsey R.
I agree with Lainie G. I hate how the jobs are being posted now. With all the same type of information that seem to be just put in by a computer. I usually skip over those ads because they don't say what is really needed and isn't personal.
April 4, 2013 at 3:22 PM
Cindi S.
Cindi S.
too bad my kids are too old for child care centers. thanks though for the response.
April 4, 2013 at 10:45 AM
Leah P.
Leah P.
I don't know if this helps, but I posted a job and got 32+ responses in 24 hours. Some qualified/available during my requested times, and some not. I found the site not very helpful on keeping track of applicants. e.g., when I click "favorite" there doesn't appear to be a way to see a list of only favorites. Point is - for job posters it is a lot to slog through - so many applications - people are probably not responding because they have too many applicants!
April 3, 2013 at 7:34 PM
Lainie G.
Lainie G.
Please delete the jobs that have been filled. Same goes for families who have not logged into their account for 3 - 6 months. Obviously they found a caregiver or no longer need one. One thing I have noticed is that the families are using a "wizard application" when posting their jobs. Pretty much EVERY job posting I read says the same thing: please have a car, one is not provided, hope you enjoy sports, games are popular at our house, preference given if you enjoy reading etc. Also, if the times of the jobs are posted in 3 hour increments, please don't allow them to post the job unless they have specified the hours that you are needed, very frustrating!
April 2, 2013 at 6:21 PM
Member Care.
Member Care.
Hi Cindi S,

We are sorry that you are having trouble finding care! This is an article that will help you to figure out the going hourly rate for nannies in your area: http://www.care.com/nanny-taxes
Sometimes, local child care centers can prove to be less expensive than private in home care. We suggest taking a look at local centers for their going rates as well. Best of luck!
April 2, 2013 at 11:39 AM
Cindi S.
Cindi S.
We are financially strapped so we can't pay top dollar or even middle dollar. How do we find quality care and generate responses for such little pay? Many applicants are asking more than we can afford, even though it states the salary in my ad. So what am I doing wrong?
April 1, 2013 at 3:38 PM
Member Care.
Member Care.
Hi Lori P!

That's a good question. No, Provider's do not have to pay to be able to respond to a Premium Seeker on our site. They are able to respond directly to the message that you send. You can always check to see if a message went through by going into My Messages and viewing your Sent Items. Best of luck with your search!
March 1, 2013 at 9:49 AM
Lori P.
Lori P.
I've sent messages to our top 4 applicants, and only one responded to say "No, thanks, after all, got another job." Are these folks getting our messages??? Do the providers have to pay for premium membership to respond to seeker's emails?
February 27, 2013 at 8:13 PM
Member Care C.
Member Care C.
Hi Allison,
I'm sorry you aren't having any luck so far finding someone to fit your needs. Care.com was initially set up as a place for families to find local care. That is why the site is currently unable to support searches outside of a 50 mile radius. In regards to your issue finding adequate care providers in you area, there are a few things I could suggest. One idea to keep in mind is the more detailed your job post is, the more likely you are to find someone who fits your needs. If you spell out in the description all of the responsibilities and activities that will be required of the provider on a daily basis you are far more likely to hear from candidates who have already decided they would be right for your job specifically. If you are still having not luck finding anyone, I suggest giving our Care Concierge a call. They are a part of our site specifically set up to find your ideal caregiver. Good luck with your search Allison!
https://www.care.com/care-concierge-p1087-q13198268.html
November 27, 2012 at 5:37 PM
Allison M.
Allison M.
I can't believe all the responses saying they are not getting results...We have the opposite issue as a seeker - I put out an intro email to touch base and get no response over half the time. I had to pay to be able to do that (I'm guessing that is some of the problem and if you guys are asking, seekers aren't able to respond unless they pay.) And I'm having a hard time finding anyone that is serious about the job, but seems lately it is more out of work younger college students resorting to babysitting to make some cash versus someone really wanting to be in and do child care consistently. And since we have a live-in opportunity and I'm not sure when the site changed from last year to now, but we used to be able to look and offer and perhaps come up in a search on the other end across the US. I'm not stuck only looking up to 50 miles from our zip or doing some fancy footwork to put in random zip codes to search by...but then I'm left giving that up because there really isn't an option anymore on the provider's end to say they are "willing to work" in another state (like most other nannying sites do). I wish we had so many eager and concerned nannies in our area like I'm reading here. I'm just so surprised to see such a response when we've had such an opposite one!
November 13, 2012 at 7:43 PM
Yania J.
Yania J.
I'm an employer, I was in a free membership until I was ready to hire, then I udgraded to be able to contact potential Nannies. I do respond to everybody who applied for the job, even if they don't meet what I'm looking for. So far I have 5 nannies to interview today and tomorrow, praying to make the right decision.
October 8, 2012 at 1:31 PM
Alison P.
Alison P.
I've applied to a few jobs in the past few weeks. Nothing. We have to be accountable for getting back to families and they should too. I was even told by a woman everything sounded good but then when I asked if we could exchange phone numbers, she hasn't responded. This isn't right.
September 16, 2012 at 8:19 PM
Member Care C.
Member Care C.
Hi Sosina, this article is directed towards caregivers on the site. That might be why employers are not posting their feedback to this article. Care.com is a legitimate site and we hope you are able to use the tips mentioned in the article to your advantage. Please note, caregivers do not need to pay in order to apply for jobs or get hired. However, employers do need to pay in order to contact potential caregivers and that information is listed when they are enrolling.
September 4, 2012 at 12:52 PM
Sosina M.
Sosina M.
Everybody's comment is the same. Is this site fake or what? Why don't employers comment about the service. I doubt. Show us that this site is not the fake one.
September 2, 2012 at 4:51 PM
Molly Y.
Molly Y.
I am very blessed to not have had any of these problems. I apply for new jobs every day on care.com and hear back from a lot of families. I even get several emails a week from families that have viewed my profile and have asked to interview me for their childcare needs. I love care.com and think it is a great site for families and sitters alike. I hope ya'll get more responses, but just know that care.com is working fine, maybe the families are just super picky. I would be super picky too if I was choosing someone to watch my child.
August 31, 2012 at 5:11 AM
Shirley L.
Shirley L.
I have registered with car e for a long time an d hav e never gotten a job offer .why ?
August 29, 2012 at 1:04 AM
Waneta P.
Waneta P.
For everyone who is questioning why you are not getting any responses to your applications. Anyone can post a job but you have to pay for a membership to reply or contact anyone. Care.com does not state up front that you have to pay to contact anyone. That is probably why you are not getting a response.
August 28, 2012 at 11:11 PM
Magdalena M.
Magdalena M.
I have applied to over a hundred positions, I got less than 40 replies back! Only 4 families met with me and luckily all four wanted me to work for them. The misfortune is the type of judgements that the potential employers makes and don't even have the odasity to respond, especially since we can all see who views our profiles. It's very immature from the parents, from my point of view.
August 28, 2012 at 8:12 PM
Cindi S.
Cindi S.
AND another thing from clients..You all claim you delete those with spelling errors, how little they may be...I'm cleaning your house, not writing your college thesis.....have you checked your errors? I see alot on those who claim this is an issue for them...
August 28, 2012 at 12:34 PM
Cindi S.
Cindi S.
I even offered free cleaning service so someone would give me a chance...I m not buying into this anymore...who needs a housecleaner w/ my experience offered for free in CALIFORNIA of all places and doesn't hit up on this? It's a sham!
August 28, 2012 at 12:31 PM
Cindi S.
Cindi S.
and Jessamin...you really dont need a job if you are on this site. You need to turn all those messages down? And not one of us is getting a response? Sheesh....your secret is prayer? Are you a real applicant? I don't like the ratio here..the person who gets the response turns down the job...and those of us trying don't get any..
August 28, 2012 at 12:29 PM
Cindi S.
Cindi S.
if the clients are not paying to get on this site, how is it they can post? either lower the price or make it free...we need jobs....now...i m tired of borrowing money even though i want to work for it. i don't get the essay written by William S...long story short..what are you saying? So this site is a sham..people post and don t pay and we are writing empty letters.....I m done!
August 28, 2012 at 12:25 PM
Cindi S.
Cindi S.
I am about to give up this site....I have the same prob as everyone else...Are these people who need housekeepers getting our messages? They should be responding..it has never taken me this long to find work. Is this a sham? Do these people exist? Are people so idiotic today they think it's ok to post a job offer and not respond? Seriously..I had one response in a month when I know I replied to more than what is noted which is more that 10 people...I am a college student in serious loan debt...at this point I have shoveled dog poop for work in this summer heat and I didnt quit the job, I m not going to turn anyone down unless it interferes with class schedule. What's really going on? Not like I just learned to clean houses, I've been doing it for well over 25 years.
August 28, 2012 at 12:17 PM
Angel L.
Angel L.
Hello I have to agree with a lot of you all out their. No response if they do not want you tell you. And if the job has been filled remove it. My name is Angel Lane I am 44yrs old and have been a Nanny for two family's and one I was laid-off and the other they went back home (Germany) I am look for long term work look at my profile.

Thanks
Angel
August 27, 2012 at 10:57 AM
Kristina J.
Kristina J.
This same response may have been posted but I read through about 15 similar posts above and stopped reading. Here is how it works....job posters post a position and get a reply from several applicants. The job poster cannot contact any of the applicants without then buying a membership. Some will buy the membership, some will not. That should also help explain why some of the jobs appear to still be open.
August 25, 2012 at 11:59 PM
William S.
William S.
Hello all, I very recently found care.com, after a referral by well-respected client. After reading comments thought I should respond, briefly as I felt the need to let you know there is a parent(s) who need and want the right fitting caregiver for my situation.
I have visited some and even used a nanny agency, for a pretty finders' fee I might add, for a time I felt great after I making my selection. Things went well for a few months, she was very loving, caring, attentive, cooked breakfast, cleaned kitchen and other household duties where necessary, got my son dressed and took him to school or bus stop. Afternoon would pickup from school or bus stop make snack, take him to appointments, activities, even had sleepovers - I'm sometimes on call and would need to go in after hrs, usually on Friday or Saturday nights. We were finally moving in the right direction, I was beginning to breathe a sigh of relief.
However, there began to be problems as my son is very active, independent, strong willed and as I viewed things she was being accommodating in every way, was hopeful for long-term relationship. He wanted to manipulate his way and she apparently did not have the ability to control/avert his will conflicting and adversely affecting her authority. I did not get a refund from the previous nanny agency and did not want to deal with them going forward due to that and other issues.
I must include an important fact, we lost his mother a day after his birth because of a medically induce delivery due to pre-Eclampsia, diagnosed during a prenatal visit at 36 weeks, the beginning of our hardship.
Back to the story, at this time, he was 6 yrs old and incidents, which should be controllable, escalated on a few occasions. It's not the place and time to go into greater details now but did enough to say there were some challenges and we agreed to seek counsel to get an understanding where and why things were going array and get strategies to work with. She went to 2 sessions but did not express herself and did not want to continue. I was not able to know exactly why incidents became uncontrollable. There were also other non-compliance issues related to not reporting pay and taxes.
I feel that children all have to learn or improve behavior methods in almost every area to know how, when, why and what they should do. It is a continuous and repetitious cycle of trial and error before they get with the right program sometimes - unless it is something they really like, otherwise it can take time. Lots of constructive/positive maintenance and attention is very important and safe when dealing with kids. I did not mean to go that deep but needed to shed insight into where we are coming from...
Moreover, I have a great, supportive and strong morning system getting him to school but the after school is not doing so well or not as well as I considered satisfactory. He was taking the bus to the YMCA after school where issues of rowdiness and disobedience occurred, though I find the larger problem an overall lack of most kids not following instructions and inadequate supervision. There are kids monitoring kids and it is out of control.
At this point, I need to share some positive attributes or nobody will feel the need to apply here. He is in the top of his class academically and scored up to the 97 percentile when evaluated in NYC 2008-2009. From age 2-6, he commuted with me on the train to a care provider in NYC, from there to head start and pre-k and kindergarten. When on Metro North we daily participated in reading, writing, spelling, phonics, math, drawing, coloring, etc instead of playing with toys - his mother and my goals are high on education and it kept him quieter and under control. He loved learning, the "I can do it type" very confident, competitive and would get upset if I was too tired to stay awake. However, the activity books on the train inspired him to love learning - and not TV and games. He is above grade level and oftentimes when I ask what he learned today, he says nothing! I ask why, he say because you already taught me, math, spelling, writing, reading, how to tell time, on and on. I asked the teacher to give him more homework; he will complete his week's homework in one day if I let him. However, he would becoming board or distracted. Recently we moved and going to Toquam Magnet school for 3rd grade where they will provide more homework, nurture the advanced areas at his level, and reinforce need improvement areas to greater develop his fullest potentials. I as an only parent have one chance to get it right or make the best of what God has gifted me and I am still counting my blessings knowing He is looking out for us daily.
At times being a parent it is very difficult to trust uncertainties. When you have gone through so much, you must do what is necessary. I learned to rely on Faith to make it through. I have learned that if our hardships do not kill us it makes us stronger - that how God works it, and we must do our part too. I have posted a job position on this site for after school care in Stamford. I just read your comments and was compelled to reply, I understand how you feel. I hope everyone have faith and be diplomatic and diligent as possible to achieve your goals. Sometimes others need to feel your heart and spirit next to theirs and like souls will synchronize - especially when dealing with family matters -
right? Last, but not least, I want to reply to everyone who responded to my post but have been surfing around the site to know what is going on here. As you can probably tell, I do not have much time, not so by my comments - right. However, my experience breeds cautious and I also understand I need to make the best decision for our future now. Be willing to mutually meet you potential employment situation respectfully and let them feel you are needed and can adapt to mutually benefit everyone's lives.
August 25, 2012 at 4:15 AM
Nicole E.
Nicole E.
I have only had four people respond to my part-time nanny job in Coppell, Texas. I agree with all of Gina's comments above. The pay I am offering is definitely competitive, and our nannies are a part of our family. Nearly all of the candidates who responded though have their own kids, and I just need reliability and can't have folks canceling when their kids are sick.
August 24, 2012 at 10:37 PM
Jessamin P.
Jessamin P.
I know it's frustrating if you don't get any response to your applications.But just be positive,maybe you're not fit to the needs they want,what they call the right match!That's it!Just keep on trying until the right family will come your way.Just like what i'm doing,i keep sending applications to the family i know i fit to their qualification,and sometimes i got response and none at all to others.And we have to understand that fact.It's just the other way around.we have our choices.Just keep trying!Remember the best key in finding a job is "PATIENT"!!It's just like when you're taking care of a toddler,there's the challenge! GOOD LUCK TO ALL OF US,JOB SEEKER AND AS WELL AS TO THE PARENTS WHO HADN'T FOUND A CARE THAT FIT TO THEIR NEEDS!!!! Jessamin P.
August 24, 2012 at 9:19 AM
Jessamin P.
Jessamin P.
I'm just new to Care.com,My former employer registered me last August,and i did have got a job offer right away after checking on my profile,but my problem was that, i had to turn down that very good offer coming to a Care.com member who's willing to hire me on the first week of august,but i had to let that good oppurtunity let go because my former employer still needs my services till the second week of August.And i did'nt have any regret doing that because i value their generosity the've given to me.No one hadn't hired me yet,altho' i'm recieving few emails.But i'm not frustrated.I'm just being positive and patient.I know the right employer will come on my way.Just like what Nailah B. said the right match!Ijust keep on trying.Its just like a praying,you know,you keep on praying and getting no response to your prayer,but still you keep going.And so far,Care.com is still a big help.I'm still recieving a text alert from them whenever theres a new job posting in my area.I dont have any complaint at all!!!! Jessamin p.
August 24, 2012 at 8:58 AM
Amy B.
Amy B.
Gina M., I also could not agree with you more!!! I posted an ad looking for a caregiver for my baby and many of the responses are horrible. Not only are the applicants completely inexperienced but the requested hourly rate competes with my own (I am a tenured teacher of 10 years at a private Manhattan school). It is incredible to me that someone who just finished high school and and has little to no experience in childcare can expect to be paid $15 and up! The majority of the applicants seem to have experience watching siblings or friends' children. When I inquire about paid, professional experience with references, I rarely get a response. The spelling and grammar is so poor, and as another member mentioned, many of the photos are in poor taste. I am very frustrated and not feeling certain at all that an appropriate candidate will surface. I'll keep trying.
August 23, 2012 at 12:37 AM
Candace P.
Candace P.
geez..I wish all of your who applied for jobs were around my area! I posted a job and got no response...still haven't gotten a response and its been 2 weeks? I had to pay to upgrade so I could actually contact a babysitter. I have emailed another one also but got no response.
August 22, 2012 at 4:52 PM
Sholanda A.
Sholanda A.
I am new to Care.com, so my history here is very short. I am also getting slow to no responses to my job. When I call and e-mail potential candidates, they do not seem to respond. I have tried both searching and just waiting for responses to my job, so I just went ahead and posted on another site as well.

Like other parents, grammar errors are a red flag for me and helps shorten the list of potential candidates. The pictures also help. Whatever you do, try to look happy. It's much more engaging and makes you look like someone I would want around my kids.
August 22, 2012 at 2:08 PM
Member Care C.
Member Care C.
Hello, I am a Member care representative from Care.com. Sometimes it can take a little while to find the perfect fit through the site, but we do have some tips that may be able to help! I have provided a link below to a new article written by our team that may be of use to our members: http://www.care.com/child-care-14-ways-to-get-families-to-respond-to-you-on-carecom-p1017-q18735037.html
August 21, 2012 at 6:35 PM
Yu H.
Yu H.
I'm having the same problem. I only had one responses in 10 days after I posted my job. I decided to reach out to the candidates within my area and only had one person who replied me back. So far I'm a little disappointed with the results.
August 21, 2012 at 1:16 AM
Eileen N.
Eileen N.
Gina M.- I agree with your post 100%!!! I am horrified with some of messages I have received. I instantly delete anyone who uses poor grammar or does not hav a handle on the English language. As far as the profile pictures are concerned... Those speak volumes! If you are serious about taking care of someone else's children, think before you post!
August 20, 2012 at 8:42 PM
Eileen N.
Eileen N.
My messages have not been coming thru my email on my phone. I have to log on to the site to see if I have new messages. They used to come thru. I am also having a difficult time finding a nanny. I'm not sure what the issue is, but i hope it gets resolved soon!
August 20, 2012 at 8:37 PM
Gina M.
Gina M.
Team,

I have been desperately seeking a nanny for a couple of weeks now, and I get the sense that a few girls get the large majority of messages. Here's what professional parents want to see in a posting:
A big, friendly smile in clear photo. Think well groomed, polished and wholesome. This is not Match.com, so no seductive poses or facial expressions.
An organized, well-written bio tells me that you're on top of things and intelligent, two key qualities in a sitter! Get a friend to help if English is your second language or simply not a strong suit.
Text speak and misspellings tell me that you really don't put a lot of effort into your work and sounds lazy to us 40-somethings who came of age before the iPhone. Good communication skills are key to any working relationship.
Respond immediately, it shows that you're super interested and passionate about your work.

Hope this helps!
August 20, 2012 at 9:09 AM
Dennis W.
Dennis W.
I have contacted four or five candidates. Two did not respond at all. One said she was not available. The others said they were interested but when I responded, they did not reply again. Is this because I replied to their messages through my personal e-mail account or should I have sent them my replies through care.com?
August 20, 2012 at 1:15 AM
Belinda C.
Belinda C.
With back to school just around the corner this is sounding like a big concern for a lot of folks on both sides of the process. In the past year and a half, we have posted and found four good caregivers for our daughter during the summer and after school. Each time we had between 33 and 45 responses and until my most recent posting two weeks ago(now offering more $$) when I only had 4. Highly unusual, especially at this time of year I thought. with previous job postings, I quickly responded to each and every applicant. They truly seemed to appreciate it.
We are still in need for a caregiver after school in Southlake, TX starting this Thursday. I noticed they have made some changes to their site and maybe the root of the issue lies with these changes. If you are a caregiver looking for a part time after school position in or around Grapevine, Southlake, or Colleyville, TX please look up Belnda C.
August 19, 2012 at 10:59 AM
Erin L.
Erin L.
a representative from Care.com must respond to all these concerns! We are well qualified and motivated people, looking for work!! And we are spending our hard-earned money, some of us including me, have dipped into our savings to upgrade so our jobs applications are more visible and respected. Some of us are worried that this website may be a scam, and that is HORRIBLE for the reputation of a business. Someone give us a clear answer please. I have 15 years experience, have upgraded and paid for a back round check. I have applied for 26 jobs since August 13th and have had ONE RESPONSE. Something is wrong and it is most definitely not my profile.
August 18, 2012 at 11:23 PM
Rachael L.
Rachael L.
It was interesting to hear that so many people are not getting any responses. I am a grad student in child development, 10+ years experience, CPR etc... and I would say I get a response to about 25+% of the jobs I apply for. And on top of that, I get a few emails every week in regards to my profile. I think competition is tough, most families get around 40 responses, especially if the pay is right. And a lot of parents tell me that the majority of people that apply are under qualified, are unable to do their schedule or do not live close by. When jobs are this competitive, yes, things like spelling, grammar and responsiveness do matter. And unfortunately, with so many applicants, parents can be picky and choose someone based on their age, race, religion, etc. Care.com is far from perfect, but it's definitely not a scam. (I haven't paid for anything)
August 18, 2012 at 7:18 PM
Lelani E.
Lelani E.
The first and only time that anyone replied to my housekeeping ad, I ended up getting hired. I LOVE working for this family but it's only part-time work. I reply/apply to at least two ads a week and have never gotten a response. Very discouraging and very frustrating. So last week I upgraded my membership and I really don't see the difference from having a free membership. Sometimes I wish that people would at least respond and say something, even if they're not interested in interviewing or hiring you. Maybe they could give you tips or tell you what's wrong with your profile.
August 17, 2012 at 8:06 PM
Beth M.
Beth M.
I POSTED A JOB A WEEK AGO AND DID NOT HAVE A SINGLE APPLICANT. TODAY I CLOSED THAT JOB AND RE-POSTED THE JOB IN A MUCH SHORTER VERSION. DOES THIS SITE REALLY WORK?? MAKES ME WONDER WHY PEOPLE ARE NOT CONNECTING...
August 17, 2012 at 4:35 PM
Shewana K.
Shewana K.
Thanks for the information I'm looking to find a care provider job working with the elderly.
August 17, 2012 at 3:51 PM
Lizette B.
Lizette B.
As a new member who just posted my first job lastnight, as I saw several caregivers I am interested in, I found that I couldn't contact them without upgrading my membership. I know, sounds like I'm a cheapo, but I was unsure if paying for this service would be worth the while since I am looking for care at the provider's home within my son's elementary school boundary and I am thinking I won't get much response because of that. Reading some of these comments about caregivers getting no responses back for jobs they have applied for, I'm wondering if without the upgrade, will caregivers even be able to contact me at all.
August 17, 2012 at 2:02 PM
Megan M.
Megan M.
It is very strange after writing so many people and nobody ever writing you back they could at least say the position has been filled
August 17, 2012 at 11:45 AM
Peggy F.
Peggy F.
Maybe a scam??
August 17, 2012 at 11:16 AM
Peggy F.
Peggy F.
I as well??? never here from them:(( I paid for the background check too! I think this is a rip off !
August 17, 2012 at 11:16 AM
Donna P.
Donna P.
I am guessing that if we don't pay the fees we don't get a job.
August 17, 2012 at 10:13 AM
Nekosha J.
Nekosha J.
I'm wondering why I get no responses when i fill out an application to be a babysitter, care giver or a stay-in nanny.. i dont know why but im honest and loving so why no response? iv'e sent over 10 messages.
August 16, 2012 at 8:50 PM
Valerie A.
Valerie A.
Hola Hi everyone, Please check out my profile, critique me please. Did I spell critique right? Thanks sooooooooo much!
August 16, 2012 at 4:38 PM
Mary S.
Mary S.
Was an Assistant Teacher at NAES. Now, substituting at NA High School. I have 6 grandchildren and lots of experience. Would love to take care of children.
August 15, 2012 at 1:01 AM
Ladonna T.
Ladonna T.
i been with care.com for about 1yr..i am a woman who is careing and loving ..so why nobody is giving me a chance..they wont regret it...thank you
August 14, 2012 at 11:31 AM
Rita T.
Rita T.
2 weeks ago and only received 2 responses. the others are seeking a day care provider and I answered. but they have ignored interest message I sent. ;) IDK... I have cleared background check and a wonderful profile! children and seniors love me.
August 13, 2012 at 6:46 PM
Eileen W.
Eileen W.
I have had the same problen no response at all. I guess I got one response from another state. I have trust-line and over 24 units of E.C.E. It's discouraging.
EIleen
August 13, 2012 at 2:18 PM
Tiffany J.
Tiffany J.
Hey all Well Im looking for a sitter part-time in the sugarland check out my ad
August 6, 2012 at 10:57 PM
Nailah B.
Nailah B.
I'm a caregiver, however, I have to agree with Matthew J. and Janice V. regarding presentation. I try to be very careful with my wording and double-check my spelling when sending out applications. First impressions are important. That said, I, like many others, rarely hear back from parents. I'd say it's a 1 out 25 chance that I'll hear back (be it good or bad). Nevertheless, I have gotten 2 jobs out of Care.com and a handful of people expressing interest, so I continue to use it. I understand that there's a lot of competition out there and care seekers get overwhelmed trying to find a right match; but I keep applying and hoping for the best. These things take time, so don't give up yet.

I have to say, though, it would be really nice though receive the generic "No thanks" vs. silence sometimes. ;)
August 6, 2012 at 8:03 PM
Emilie D.
Emilie D.
I dont think that spelling has anything to do with how a person is capable of caring for a child. That makes no sense to me at all. Dont mean to be rood but i cant spell and i am very good with children.
August 6, 2012 at 6:39 PM
Janice V.
Janice V.
I've had fairly good results finding help on Care.com. One tip for job seekers - sometimes I get responses that are text speak, incorrect spelling and/or grammar and usually end up saying "No Thanks" to these. This is because attention to detail is important to me. I need to know that the person takes great care in listening. I'm even willing to train, as long as the person does not ignore or forget my instructions. Good luck.
August 6, 2012 at 2:53 PM
Matthew J.
Matthew J.
Um...just based on some of these comments I think another tip for job-posters and applicants alike should be PROOFREAD!!! No one will be inclined to contact you as a potential sitter if you barely have a command of the written English language. Spelling and grammar proficiency might not have any actual bearing on what kind of caregiver, or parent, you are, but someone reading your ad has nothing else to go on in judging you than what you write, so if you seem unintelligent, you are likely to get skipped over.
August 6, 2012 at 2:15 PM
Stephanie H.
Stephanie H.
No matter how well spoken I am and generous with my rates I have been so far, no one has responded. I am overly qualified for the positions I am responding to but am not getting responses back. I find it incredibly amazing that out of over 50 applications I have sent out, 12 have closed the position, the rest are still open. I think this is the biggest hoax to get money to do the background checks. I am utterly disappointed with this website. I am contacting the Better Business Bureau and filing a complaint.
August 6, 2012 at 1:15 PM
Michelle W.
Michelle W.
reading all of these scare me I just started this site have great refrences and would really love to nanny again.. I hope someone contacts me soon
August 6, 2012 at 12:29 PM
Adriane M.
Adriane M.
I Agree with many of the sitters that have applied for jobs. It is very frustrating to see that the job is still opened, and the individuals that are seeking a provider doesn't respond back out of courtesy, when we can see that our application/profile were viewed. I try to articulate to the fullest. I know that I qualify for the jobs. I have over ten years experience as a caregiver and I have been a Certified Nurse Assistant since 2008, with First Aid/CPR certifications. The one person that contacted me left their number. When I called all I repeatedly get is the answering machine. I found out that my height had a lot to do with it. I can't help that my LORD, bless me to be almost 6'3 and African American.(No offense intended, but I have to wonder just like Belinda)I enjoy taking care of people in general. Who I am does not hinder me in providing adequate care. Thanks for the opportunity to express myself and good luck to all of the sitters.
August 6, 2012 at 12:15 PM
Pam R.
Pam R.
I used Care.com to hire a nanny for the summer. We received 33 applicants, responded to every one via email. We interviewed 15 people and called the 14 that did not get the job. It took a lot of time to do all this emailing and calling, so I am guessing maybe people just didnt have the time. I felt it was important to respect that someone took the time to express interest in the job, but I am sure many people dont think about that.
August 6, 2012 at 12:11 PM
Corina H.
Corina H.
I have been with care for over a year now and i have only gotten 1 job out of it for a one time thing. I have considered updating but now i think it might be useless, i am starting to wonder if cars is such a good resource for finding jobs! I AM ALWAYS applying to job and hardly ever hear back from them. I think it is starting to be a waste of time.
August 5, 2012 at 5:45 PM
Yvonne P.
Yvonne P.
I agree, it is frustrating as a sitter applying to jobs and not ever hearing back from the applications, not even a no thank you button is sent. Also it would be great to see if the position has been filled. Just sayen... Thanks for letting us sitters and parents vent our frustrations!
August 5, 2012 at 5:34 PM
Patricia N.
Patricia N.
It's very Frustrating that you are asked to respond within 24 hours, but every time I apply for a Job I have only heard back once out of about 15 applications. I thought it was my email, but since I have been seeing others complain I realize it isn't just me. It would be nice if people had the courtesy to write you back if you have applied for the job, especially if you replied within days of them posting it.
August 4, 2012 at 10:35 PM
Sharon W.
Sharon W.
I to have applied for childcare jobs and nothing as far as responses. It would be nice to get a notice the person has filled the job or not interested.
August 4, 2012 at 8:56 PM
Kelley L.
Kelley L.
I have had the same problems. I really feel if you have responses and they don't respond back in a few days, then that, to me, is someone you may want to question if they will be reliable. If they are fishing for a job, and it means a lot to them, they will answer in a timely manner. I have an applicant right now who seems interested, but isn't responding very often. Off my list she goes.

I often go through the people who are looking for sitter jobs, looking for ones who have been recently checking up on their messages. And, most important, do they meet the needs you need the most? I really have avoided teenagers who seem "desperate" for a job.

Hope this helps you all looking for reliable help!
August 4, 2012 at 2:03 PM
Rochelle P.
Rochelle P.
I've been with Care team since 2009 I was signing up for jobs and never got a respone so I just quite.Now I have the back ground check the up grade membership It sound like nobody is getting jobs.If I don't get anything by the end of the month I'm going back to the free membership there nosense in paying for something I'm not getting.Don't sound like from reading no one is getting jobs hummmm.What is this all about.
August 3, 2012 at 11:42 AM
Belinda I.
Belinda I.
I am a Nanny, and what i find in searching is the parents do not respond even if they are not interested. The wages they offer in some area are way to low for what they seek. I am better than super nanny 911, I have certification as a Preschool teacher and Director, I am organized, professional and dependable proven. I am African American and I find that I will apply to 400 jobs and only get about 6 responses saying No thank you. Its mind bothering and I wonder why.
August 3, 2012 at 11:29 AM
Nora M.
Nora M.
Wow all these comments are getting me worried Im beginning to wonder if this is a real Internet site,I am so devoted into finding a job that works around my children and belived this was what I needed in life ,Now I'm not to sure has anyone ever been contacted and has actually worked for any of these clients? And where is the clients comment page I'd like to see what their saying as far as them hiring one of us working for their families...I want answer's or maybe just delete this whole gimmic,I dont have time to waste ,I need a job and if this is not the solution then someone is offering faulse advitiseing.
August 3, 2012 at 8:03 AM
Nichole G.
Nichole G.
I have been on her for almost a week sent out for 7 jobs that's people was looking for house keeper but no one has respond back !!! Why?
August 2, 2012 at 10:51 PM
Barbara G.
Barbara G.
I definately agree with the above comments. I happen to be a retired nurse and get no responses. I simply don't understand who and why these potential employers hire unqualified people!! Also, I'm sure jobs that were posted in Dec. 2011 have been filled. Please remove these that are closed.
August 2, 2012 at 4:04 PM
Priscila D.
Priscila D.
I've been with Care.com for several yEars AND now Im not getting any responses from any of the families?? that is soooooooooooo strange???!!
August 1, 2012 at 10:02 PM
Cheryl G.
Cheryl G.
I am wondering the same exact thing. I have applied for jobs and I have had no responses at all and I am very well qualified for these positions. I have been involved in child care the majority of my life. Please help! What am I doing wrong?????
August 1, 2012 at 8:34 PM
Maria A.
Maria A.
thanks for the advise
August 1, 2012 at 5:26 PM
Deborah H.
Deborah H.
Your tips are a good reminder to people who post on care.com. I almost never get a response that the job has been filled. They just leave you wondering if the job is still open. After someone has been hired for the job posted it would be nice to know the job is no longer available.
August 1, 2012 at 3:46 PM
Adrienne S.
Adrienne S.
I am wondering why I haven't been contacted as well- when I registered I allowed the fee for the background check. I know it's good and I have plenty of experience. I just want to work with great kids!
August 1, 2012 at 10:48 AM
Amela K.
Amela K.
I am member of the grup care.com over one year ago...I never got any response from one family..why???
August 1, 2012 at 9:36 AM
Lila T.
Lila T.
Thanks for the tips!
July 30, 2012 at 8:21 PM
Ophelia D.
Ophelia D.
I HAVE BEEN WITH CARE .COM FOR OVER A YEAR NOW AND YES I AM WONDERING WHY I HAVE ONLY RECIVING BUT ONE RESPOND TO ANY OF MT SERVICES .I ANM ASKING CARE.COM AT THIS TIME TOO DO MY BACKGROUND CHECK AND UPGRADE MY PROFILE SO PARENT WILL BE ABLE TO CONTACT ME DIRECTLY IF NEEDED.
July 30, 2012 at 4:12 PM
Dennis W.
Dennis W.
I have sent messages to two candidates three days ago and have received no replies. You say I should expect a replies within about 24 hours. What's wrong?
July 30, 2012 at 12:03 PM

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