Managing Your Nanny or Babysitter

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Tips for building your relationship, handling conflicts, transitioning caregivers, dealing with a crisis and communicating with sitters.
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Parent-Nanny Relationship Advice
Ever hide little things from your boss? Well, your nanny is no different. As her employer, you can be sure that at one time or another she has debated keeping mum about something. But if you have a strong...
Your nanny can be your right-hand, your child's best friend and sometimes your confidante. The relationship you have with your caregiver can be as intense as the one you have with your spouse. That's...
National Nanny Recognition Week is a special holiday in honor of the amazing people who care for kids. This year, it's celebrated September 22­-28. But taking the time to say thank you through...
Without question, a caregiver plays an important role in your personal life and could even feel like a member of your family. But at the end of the day, he or she is still your employee. So, how can you...
I have two loves of my life: My husband and my nanny. She's been with us since my son was born seven years ago, and I do everything I can to let her know how much I adore her. Take the other evening,...
Just because you can't spend every minute with your children doesn't make you a bad parent. But all moms and dads like to keep in touch with their children's nanny throughout the day or come...
Hiring a full or part time nanny is a huge step for a family and goes hand-in-hand with some complicated issues...
Tobi Kosanke was sitting on the couch one day when her nanny nonchalantly showed her a lump in her breast and said she didn't have money to see a doctor. Her full-time nanny, Jean-Marie Jones, had...
The Interview Parents: During the interview process make sure you are clear on what your needs are and what the responsibilities of the nanny/sitter entail. If your nanny will be asked to wash windows,...
Time goes so quickly. For busy moms juggling family life, work and every other thing, looking back at the past year of your family's life may feel a bit like a blur. Hopefully, the nanny you hired...
When Lynn Singer and her husband of Armonk, N.Y. travel with their three school-age kids, there's one essential aspect to a successful trip: They bring along their live-in nanny. "Having an extra...
A nanny's role is crucial to holding a family together. Not only is she the main caregiver during the day -- and often at night -- but he or she serves as both a role model and a shoulder to cry on...
Whether you just hired a nanny or feel yours is part of your family, you may not know that some of the things you say are hurting your nanny's feelings and thus your relationship. We recently posted...
"I know she broke these glasses we had in our cabinet but she acts like she has no idea what I'm talking about." Ten years ago, Julie, a journalist in Manhattan, could be griping about...
Goals and Rules for Nannies
Hiring a travel nanny or babysitter during your family vacation can be the perfect way to balance time spent with your children and meaningful moments alone with your partner (or by yourself!). Learn more...
Hiring a nanny or babysitter to watch your children is a nerve-wracking process for parents. You know you need to go to work or have a date night, but you want to make sure your kids are safe and that...
Leaving your children in the care of others is stressful. It's difficult to relinquish control -- even with someone you know and trust. When you hire a nanny, she'll probably be driving your kids around...
In the age of Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, Instagram and countless other social media outlets, sharing information has become practically instantaneous, and it is likely that your nanny connects with her...
Depending on where you live and how busy your kids are, it may be essential to have a caregiver who can drive your kids to and from school, to play dates, lessons or games. If transportation is a top...
What are the kids allowed to do when Mom is out of sight? While it's never easy playing bad cop, establishing guidelines around discipline in your home will not only make life easier for you and your...
When you hire a nanny, there are lots of details to work out. For example, driving expenses.Does your nanny drive your kids to school, play dates or activities? Does she run errands for you? If your nanny...
Three weeks after Betsy Roggenburk Mastaglio's new sitter started, she wasn't so sure it was going to work out. Each day, when the three girls' (ages 7, 3 and 1) headed out the door, the sitter...
Winter is here and it's bound to bring mornings when you ask yourself "should I really drive in this?" Even more stressful: "Should I ask my nanny to?" Work doesn't slow down...
When you hire a babysitter, you're looking for someone to fill a very important role: caring for your children. This is not a person you want to penny pinch on. Just like in any other jobs, you should...
For Cyndi and Ed Holbert of Powell, Idaho, discipline is a touchy issue -- literally. Ed doesn't hesitate to give their 3-year-old son Garrett a spanking when he misbehaves. Cyndi prefers to employ...
Crisis Control
Here at Care.com, we occasionally hear about relationships going sour between families and caregivers. These issues can usually be prevented or resolved with some open and honest conversation. Check out...
You've found the perfect nanny or babysitter for your family, your kids love her and she's working out great. Now, make sure the person you hired to keep your loved ones safe is sticking with...
You wake up on a Monday morning ready for a big cuppa coffee and a brand new day. You and your husband busily get the children fed and dressed, arrange snacks and...
Deciding to end someone’s employment is never an easy decision, but sometimes caregivers simply aren't the best fit anymore.Here's how to fire a caregiver responsibly. Identify the Issue Before...
You're working part-time and your 16-year-old niece has agreed to sit for you after school. You're delighted, but want to make sure you preserve your close relationship with your niece, whether or not the sitting works out...
Nanny cameras, commonly referred to as nanny cams, have gained significant recognition and caused more than a few eyebrow raises in the last few years. News stories about nanny cams catching nannies "in...
If you've determined your child has a chemistry problem with their caregiver, what should you do? Here are tips for dealing with this delicate situation.See 5 Signs Your Child Hates the Nanny »Decide...
Transitions
When Kathryn and Dominick von Jan moved upstate from Brooklyn, NY, it meant parting with their beloved nanny of 5 years.  "Excited as we were for our move, it was devastating to say goodbye to our...
If your child attends daycare or has a nanny or babysitter, there's a good chance that he'll experience a transition in care at some point. Whether your nanny leaves for another position...
When you've found an excellent caregiver, it can be hard to let them go. But like people in any other profession, sometimes they decide to move on or your situation changes and you don't need...
Is your nanny pregnant? You don't need to lose her. Read on for advice.
It's a day most mothers and fathers would rather not think about; the day when they have to say goodbye to their trusted nanny and bring someone new and unknown into the home. Working moms, who have...
You and your kids love your nanny. She's been with you since your kids were little and you couldn't imagine your family without her. But once your children are of pre-school or school age, schedules...
Child Care Tips to Discuss with Nannies
When your kids don't get enough sleep, they're terrors in the morning. This probably won't matter to your babysitter, but it does matter to you...
Looking for a way to keep track of what your babysitter or nanny did with your kids? Use the Child Care Checklist to have your sitters and nannies tell you what they did with your children while you were...
Does your family have a safety plan? How do you communicate that to your babysitter, nanny, or au pair? This re-useable, just-in-case checklist for babysitters and nannies will help your family keep track of emergency contacts, procedures, and health concerns when your children are under the watchful eye of your favorite caregivers.
If doing chores is part of your child's day-to-day routine, don't let him slack just because you're not home to supervise. Let your babysitter know ahead of time...
Your idea of "appropriate" movies and websites might be very different from your babysitter's or nanny's. But if you have strong opinions on the movies and websites you want (or don't want) your child viewing, you need to make sure you're all on the same page...
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