Family Caregivers

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Tips for caring for a family member, navigating the caregiving process, making important decisions and working with adult and senior care providers.
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Your mother resists in-home helpers, insisting you can wait on her. Your frail father won't stop driving. Your aunt denies the need for a personal care aide, in spite of her unwashed hair and soiled clothes....
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"Where is Dad?" I remember asking, after my family and I had spent a good part of the day in synagogue during one of the Jewish high holidays.  My brother checked the men's room and I walked around...
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First, there's the stress of juggling caregiving logistics. Then there's the communication challenges. And then there's the guilt for just not being able to live closer. Admittedly, there...
Maintaining a strong relationship between a grandparent and grandchild is important for both of you. By being a part of your grandchild’s life, you can help instil family values, impart wisdom and...
Tips for Being a Caregiver
When Lisa Winstel went home for the holidays to visit her in-laws, then in their late 70s several Thanksgivings ago, some warning bells went off:  Expired milk in the refrigerator.  Leftovers...
If it takes a village to raise a child, it can take a small army to care for an aging loved one. Think of all the roles you juggle: personal shopper, housekeeper, chauffeur, legal advisor, accountant,...
The oft-circuitous journey of caring for aging parents catches many of us off guard. As our parents enter the challenging stage of old age, we are torn between our desire to help and their need to maintain...
"Where is Dad?" I remember asking, after my family and I had spent a good part of the day in synagogue during one of the Jewish high holidays.  My brother checked the men's room and I walked around...
After evaluating aging in place options, you may come to the conclusion that your elderly relative or relatives can no longer live alone in their own home. Should they move to your house? How do you know...
The decision to move a parent into your household can follow a crisis. Maybe mom had a stroke and you've got the biggest house. Or a move can follow months of discussion about dad's failing health or shaky...
Caregiver Stress Advice
If, like me, your mother is still alive, you read The Long Goodbye then ran, not walked, to see the woman who gave birth to you.  Even though you find her ironing or watching "Who Wants to be a Millionaire,"...
There is no question - being a primary caregiver is a tough job. Whether you're a family member solely caring for an aging relative or a paid in-home aide, you are at risk of "caregiver burnout." Yes,...
How to Communicate With Your Parents
Your mother resists in-home helpers, insisting you can wait on her. Your frail father won't stop driving. Your aunt denies the need for a personal care aide, in spite of her unwashed hair and soiled clothes....
It happens slowly at first. Over weeks, months, or years you begin to notice that Mom and Dad aren't as sharp as they used to be. Then one day, you realize that you've started making decisions for them....
Clara always had a contentious relationship with her mother, whom she found controlling and critical. But Clara's mom, once so strong-willed and stubborn, was becomingly increasingly frail. Is talking...
No one enjoys talking with their parents about frightening future possibilities -- that they may at some point no longer be able to live independently...
Your parent's driving has become noticeably worse. When on the highway, she wavers across the lanes rather than staying in her own.
"Growing up, I knew of the world they had left behind, but the fragments of history that I discovered over the years leave great gaps and unanswered questions. Who was I named after? And what sort of lives...
Seniors who are in their 80s have different priorities from seniors in their 70s, says Emily Saltz, LICSW,...
How to Communicate With Your Parents' Care Team
As her parents' health declined, Lori LaBey found herself increasingly responsible for managing their medical information. She had to keep track of doctors' appointments, manage medications and be on the...
Mrs. Simpson's beloved family watch was missing. As a new resident in an Assisted Living community, she became certain an aide took it, so she told her daughter, Betsy. Betsy was very upset. Riddled with...
Sibling Issues
A 2009 study by the National Alliance for Caregiving (NAC) reveals that almost fifty million Americans have served as an unpaid caregiver to an adult, often a parent. Sixty-six percent report that another...
Roxanne Greene's* beloved father was ill. Her mother -- a critical, difficult woman who was in the early stages of Alzheimer's disease--needed help finding him treatment and end-of-life care. Greene researched,...
Long-Distance Caregivers
When it comes to caring for our aging parents, many of us struggle with feelings of guilt, and those feelings can be greatly amplified by distance. Am I visiting, calling, doing enough? Sometimes parents...
First, there's the stress of juggling caregiving logistics. Then there's the communication challenges. And then there's the guilt for just not being able to live closer. Admittedly, there...
Sandwich Generation
July is National Sandwich Generation Month, which means there's no better time to address this pulled-in-every-direction generation. The "sandwich generation" is made up of the people who...
As the Baby Boom generation ages and the next generation waits until their late 30s to start a family, more and more new parents find themselves sandwiched between the pressures of work and the care (and costs) of their...
Care.com recently ran a Guest Writer Contest asking all promising scribes to tell us about themselves and their families. Our panel of judges finally narrowed the selection down to two mothers, Kelsey...
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