Discipline Advice

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Tips for setting up rules, punishing misbehavior, dealing with tantrums, and avoiding common discipline mistakes.
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Excuse me, ma'am, but is that your kid throwing all of the condoms off the shelves in the drugstore, ignoring you when you ask him to stop, kicking and screaming that he must have the blue and the...
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You get home from work after a long day, eager to unwind with your kids, but instead of a cheerful "Hi, Mommy!" you get whining, complaining and irrational tears. You thought your kids left...
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It's high noon, and you're in a standoff fit for the movies. The villain? Your misbehaving child. And he's heading for his first victim -- your couch. He makes a move. You make yours. But it's too late...
"No-Drama Discipline" seems like the holy grail of parenting, on par with homework without tears and a house that cleans itself. When you think of discipline, the first thing that comes to mind...
You look at the clock: It's a school night and later than you thought. The kids need to get to bed, but the process is like herding cats. What's the best way to accomplish it? Start with setting...
If you're worried what to do about those 2-year-old tantrums (or 3-year-old tantrums, and so on), you're not alone. Many parents find themselves at the mercy of their child's screams when they've...
"Mind your manners!" "What's the magic word?" "What do you say?" Sound familiar? You know you need to teach your child manners, but which ones matter the most? And how...
Contrary to its name, negative reinforcement isn't a bad thing. Rather than introducing something negative to deter bad behavior (otherwise known as punishment), this theory of parenting removes something...
Positive reinforcement -- using praise or rewards to shape your child's behavior -- means "focusing on the 'good' things your children are doing or certain behaviors that you like and...
Your toddler understands "No-No," but does he understand and respond to discipline?Toddlers can grasp and learn from some forms of discipline at this developmental stage, experts say. The trick...
You get home from work after a long day, eager to unwind with your kids, but instead of a cheerful "Hi, Mommy!" you get whining, complaining and irrational tears. You thought your kids left...
Your child knows she's not supposed to hit her brother. Or climb on the coffee table. Or get that third cookie from the cookie jar. She knows it's wrong, but she does it anyway. So how do you discipline...
The teacher pulls you aside again. Your little guy had to go into another time out. He hit another child. It's not the first time he's done this, but you are hoping it will be the last. You've...
It's an hour before dinner, and you're trying to make a hasty exit from the mall with your tot in tow. As you hurry him by the cookie kiosk, he stops in his tracks and wails, "Mommy, get me a cookie!"...
Behavior modification is a parenting technique that uses reinforcement to reward good behaviors and discourage unwanted ones. The basic goal is to address a behavior without worrying about the underlying...
It's high noon, and you're in a standoff fit for the movies. The villain? Your misbehaving child. And he's heading for his first victim -- your couch. He makes a move. You make yours. But it's too late...
You want your child to behave -- but sometimes, he's got other ideas. As a parent, it's your job to teach your child how to act appropriately, make good choices and accept the consequences when his behavior...
You told Bella she can't leave the table until she finishes her peas, but she won't eat. Do you make her sit there all night or go against your own word? When it comes to disciplining children,...
What are the kids allowed to do when Mom is out of sight? While it's never easy playing bad cop, establishing guidelines around discipline in your home will not only make life easier for you and your...
Your daughter is slowly dragging her crayon on the floor and watching for your reaction. She knows she's doing something wrong, but she's choosing to do it anyway. This is when you need to know...
Dealing with temper tantrums is a seemingly unavoidable part of your life as a parent or caregiver. No matter how much you prepare, watch for signs or control a child's environment to reduce the likelihood...
Can't stop yourself from dropping the f-word when you stub your toe? Did your kid just say the b-word? Here are some tips to stop cursing before it becomes a problem -- for you or your child.
Is a behavior chart right for your child? Before you decide, you need to know what it is and how it's used. "A behavior chart is like a map of how your child's actions result in a range of...
You get home from the grocery store, put the food away -- and find candy in your child's pocket that you didn't pay for. "My kid steals!" you think, panicking. Thankfully, it's not a reflection of...
When you ask your child to unload the dishwasher, plates end up on the floor. When he gets into a fight with his sister, she ends up getting shoved. If your child's anger seems to escalate quickly...
Excuse me, ma'am, but is that your kid throwing all of the condoms off the shelves in the drugstore, ignoring you when you ask him to stop, kicking and screaming that he must have the blue and the...
Are you tired of constantly yelling at your kids? Have you been vowing to use more positive discipline in your household, but don't know where to start? Parenting "positive is about helping our...
Your child calls you a bad name and, as a result, you're making him scrub the toilet. That's an example of positive punishment -- an effective discipline tool when used correctly. "Positive...
For Cyndi and Ed Holbert of Powell, Idaho, discipline is a touchy issue -- literally. Ed doesn't hesitate to give their 3-year-old son Garrett a spanking when he misbehaves. Cyndi prefers to employ...
Is your little one ready to start helping out around the house? Try making a chore chart to organize his household tasks! These charts serve as a sort of to-do list for daily, weekly or even monthly chores.Here...
Jill Smokler has never been afraid of confessing her deepest and darkest parenting blunders (and triumphs for that matter!). As part of the Care.com Interview Series, we caught up with the Scary Mommy...
Is your child starting to act out? As she loses the innocence of infancy and begins to reach more independent stages, it becomes more and more important that you have solid disciplinary techniques in place....
The concept of punishments for kids is a hot topic for modern moms and dads. While your parents may have swiftly smacked your backside when you misbehaved, this type of punitive discipline is now known...
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