What NOT to Say to a Nanny

Are you hurting your relationship? See what nannies and sitters had to say on Facebook.

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Whether you just hired a nanny or feel yours is part of your family, you may not know that some of the things you say are hurting your nanny's feelings and thus your relationship.

We recently posted a question on the Care.com Facebook page asking nannies and babysitters to tell us what their employers sometimes say or do that upsets them. Below are five of the most popular answers, with recommended solutions from Cameron MacDonald, author of "Shadow Mothers: Nannies, Au Pairs, and the Micropolitics of Mothering."

  1. "Sorry I'm Late"
    Brittany L. struggles with the mom she works for "Not being organized with the schedule and letting me know ahead of time days she needs me to stay late."

    Solution: Everyone is late occasionally, but it shouldn't be a habit. Find out what your nanny's typical evening demands are, so you can be respectful of her time: does she have classes, a second job or family obligations? MacDonald suggests talking with your nanny about when she can be flexible and times she just can't be. Discuss how you're going to reimburse her for the extra time: will you pay her more or give her more time off? Learn about nanny overtime rules

  2. "Can I Pay You Next Time?"
    As Amy E. says: "[I imagine parents] would pitch a fit if their employer forgot their check at the end of the week. Same for me. I provide a service and expect to be paid for that work."

    Solution: Even though your nanny feels like an extension of your family, this is her job and source of income -- she deserves to be paid on time. MacDonald says to think of yourself as your nanny's payroll department; it's your job to make sure everything's running smoothly. Decide when you'll pay your nanny and stick to it. Learn how to set up an automatic employee payroll account

  3. "Can You Do the Dishes?"
    Stacy A. finds that her employer "leaves the house and kitchen a mess, expecting me to clean it all up."

    Solution: Your nanny should be in charge of keeping the kids clean and their rooms organized. Unless housekeeping duties are part of the job description, it's not her responsibility to do other chores. If you need extra help, hire a housekeeper or find another solution that doesn't take time away from the kids. If you have little ones, maybe she can tidy while they're napping, but make sure both you and your nanny understand what she should be doing and when, and put it in a nanny contract.

  4. "Today You Should..."
    The mom that Rebecca G. works for is constantly "explaining everything and micromanaging my time. 'It's nice outside, so take her out from 1-2, then watch a video from 2-2:30."

    Solution: While it's understandable to want to manage your child's life, it may be affecting how your nanny does her job. Tell her if there are things you want prioritized, but let her make her own decisions and trust her judgment. If you feel separation anxiety, check in during the day. Read about 9 Ways to Keep in Touch with Your Nanny

  5. "We Treat You Really Well"
    Chelsea A. works for a great family, but is bothered by "a lack of appreciation for all I do. I do a lot more housework than what was originally agreed upon, and they also upped my hours, and when I tried to tell them [it] was a lot on me, they said 'well, we treat you really well.' But they seem to forget I treat them well too..."

    Solution: MacDonald says this is many nannies' number one complaint: the lack of recognition. Do you value the skills your nanny brings to the job, her attachment to your child and how well they get along? Yes, you pay her, but your nanny is more than just a nameless, faceless employee. Let her know she's doing a great job and you appreciate her hard work. Check out ways to Show Your Nanny You Care

If you want to maintain a great relationship with your nanny or sitter, you need to communicate. Set up weekly meetings to check in and encourage her to talk about what's working and what could be improved. Remember that no relationship is perfect. But the more you communicate and work together, the happier everyone will be.

And in the comments section below, let us know if there are other ways the nanny-employer relationship could be better.

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Comments (41)
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Kayla A.
All parents looking to hire a nanny should definitely read this. There's nothing worse than being on a salary and having the parents slowly add on additional tasks without paying more. Also, I never want to hear the phrase, "Well this is what we pay our daycare..." I am not a daycare!
Posted: June 17, 2014 at 9:08 AM
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Lindsey R.
This is so right. I have had parents that forget that I'm a person.
Posted: June 16, 2014 at 3:55 PM
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Stephanie B.
Hi Linda!

I'm Stephanie Breedlove with Care.com HomePay and I'll be happy to answer your question. You're absolutely right that nannies are required to be paid overtime if they work more than 40 hours in a 7-day workweek. The best way to approach the subject with the family is to politely inform them of the law. Don't come at it from the angle of "you owe me money," but rather explain to them that overtime laws exist to take care of hourly employees that are required to work longer hours than most other workers.
Posted: May 29, 2014 at 3:21 PM
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Linda L.
Hello. I would like to find out how you discuss with a family the subject of overtime, I believe that if you work ove 40 jours a week that you are supposed to get time and a half for each hour over 40 is that
Posted: May 27, 2014 at 10:44 PM
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Sue D.
I have always wanted to be able to get references on the parent from previous nanny. If parents can ask for theirs, we should be able to as well.
Posted: May 23, 2014 at 2:22 AM
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Kim S.
I only apply to jobs that offer the pay I want. Also I only apply to jobs that I'm comfortable driving the distance. Most parents want the Nanny to have a reliable car for emergencies or to run kids to activities.

I want to comment about parents that work from home. Most if my experience has been positive. The parents stay in their office or come out and don't want the kids to see them as to not upset the kids. My last job was not that simple. The mother wanted to stay involved with raising her kids. Make sure you know that at the beginning. Be sure your personalities don't clash and you can handle criticism. I put up with it only because the job was for one year and I couldn't find anything else to go to.
Posted: March 01, 2014 at 10:29 AM
Erika L.
I have always enjoyed being a nanny. After, I left my job at a daycare I wasn't unemployed long and found a family to work for full time. I was excited. It w decent money and they seemed nice.

I have nannied before and have a great relationship with that other family and he children. However, this family has become an extremely stressful situation.

I have to disenfect every day. Not usually a problem with me, but they're extremely anal about it. They don't allow me to go anywhere. I work close to 50 hrs/ wk. they're afraid of germs with the kids (twins) who are 18 months old. I have to do the laundry, dishes and clean pretty much every room. I am doing things that a housekeeper would do.

I've done dishes and put new sheets on beds before but, it's never been like this. The father was concerned a few weeks ago because the children ate two hot dogs a piece?? What? So, they were hungry. I am so stressed by the time I leave and it's not a good feeling at all. They have never once said thank you or have a good day. They also put up a camera just because the kids had the flu after Christmas. They never had a cam with he previous nanny. I have this feeling and my parents too that the previous nanny left because she was in a similar situation.

I'm having problems getting people to respond to me because I want to leave my current position. I'm not sure what to tell perspective new families. But, I do know that I am done with this treatment.

I still babysit for my previous family after almost even years. They have twins too. Help...please?

Posted: February 01, 2014 at 12:09 PM
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Rebecca R.
I wish I could say that my experiences have improved, but truth betold, they have not. I am looking to leave the p/t family I have worked with for nearly a year and a half. The mother just has no respect, and the children are mirroring her behavior... When I bring things up, like the innaproriate things the middle child says or the attitude, she always acts shocked and surprised. I have walked in to 3-4 days worth of dirty dishes, with food still on them! To me, parents need to be more clear about what they expect and what they truly want. With the job wizards being used, there are a lot of details being left out like distance concerns, what they mean by "light housekeeping", etc. To me, light housekeeping means cleaning up after the children while I am there, nto messes made when I am not, and not cleaning up after the entire family! I have even been expected to watch her friends kids, being told I will be paid extra... I ended up being paid an extra $10 at the end of the night as opposed to what it should have been. It boils down to communication. I am finding that a lto of families in my area do not want to communicate with their sitter/nanny. That lack of communication can create bitterness and resentment, but also down talking to your caregiver will also eventually cost you that "valued" caregiver.
Posted: November 25, 2013 at 7:56 PM
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Kaitlyn W.
Really great article. My employer and I have a system, it works really well. She leaves a notepad with dinner instructions(what meal to prepare), and other errands that may need to be done that day, such as a run to the local library. I usually know ahead of time if she will be running a tad late, but sometimes if traffic is really heavy she will text me that she will be late. So far it has been a great system. And I am usually not upset if she is running late because I have nothing after work.
Posted: October 19, 2013 at 3:33 PM
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Shannon T.
@Trisha K. - I hope you have quit already. If not, do now and file for unemployment. You can make a case that you are qualified for it, in my (non-legal) opinion.

You deserve to be treated better than that and PAID better than that; it's not even minimum wage, which is required by law if you work more than 1,800 hours a year.

Best of luck!
Posted: September 17, 2013 at 6:42 PM
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Trisha K.
I would like some advice all the things in this article have been said to me. the parents of the family I work for are never home on time they will tell me im to be off at 3:30pm and they wont even show up till 4. Sometimes I was to leave at 3 and then at 4 they will txt me and ask me to work till 6 when I ve already been there since 7am.and they never say sorry for being late or pay me extra. sometimes Wednesday will be my last day of the week and they will write me a check and date it for Friday so I cant even cash it till Friday. then sometime the will say do you want to just come out tomorrow and get your $ because they dont have it on my last day of the week. and they just expect me to waste the gas to get out to their house, or to wait till the following week.

They leave their house so dirty I have taken to wearing my shoes at all times because their floors so sticky. I ve had to wash a whole sink of dishes because the dishwasher is full of clean dishes and the sink is so full I cant even use the faucet. I ve been asked to look after their new kitten and feed him and let the dog out and "make sure you let him out otherwise hell go potty in the basement and it expensive to get the carpet cleaned" and not get any thank you or extra pay. In the fall I was asked to not turn the heat on because they dont turn their heat in till NOVEMBER and if it turn it on it could break and that s expensive. the mother will tell me to take their child outside because if I dont she "goes crazy wanting to go out" like they cant take her out or something. sometimes I just dont have time between breakfast play nap and lunch to go out side.

And when I asked for a raise after working for them for a year they gave me a 75cent rise so now instead of 4.25 an hour I make 5. when I tried to address the issue of their ridiculous schedule because sometimes I will get a call at 6 in the morning on my day off asking me to be there in an hour or ill already be on my way in and ill get a txt telling me they dont need me for the day and this happens every week, sometimes multiple times a week. And when I tried to talk to the mother about it she said "we thought you would want the extra days ,the opportunity to make more $" like I should be grateful. and then they tell me that they have plenty of other options to watch their daughter if something is going to be a problem.

And the father is a real jerk who think he knows what he s doing. He has taken a milk jug out of the garbage an given it to his daughter to play with, I have gotten there and she was chewing on a disposable tape dispenser the teeth part she could make her gums bleed or bite off one of the teeth and puncture her esophagus and that could be fatal and he knew that she was chewing on it I took it away from her and he said she s been chewing on that for 20mins".but by far the worst thing was yesterday we had a dispute about what I was to get paid or the week a dispute of 5 dollars so not really a big deal and I was in the living room calming his crying daughter and he walked in the living room from the kitchen and said here is your money threw it onto the chair then took his daughter from me and said "goodbye see you next week" very rude and offending treated me like a dog. so what I really want to know is im going to quit soon but I am worried it will be harder to find a nanny job because I ve been looking for awhile now for a new job and havent had any luck. what should I do???
Posted: September 07, 2013 at 4:06 PM
I would recommend any nanny or home childcare provider to have a written out agreement of what's expected, I've been burned by people who have taken me for granted and don't pay. My worst thing that was said to me by a parent was, upon meeting a father and I quote " we use spankings and physical discipline and expect you to as well, he's (the child) very rebellious and needs taming". It should also be noted the child was only a year old. Who tells a person you don't know, that you just met, to feel free to beat my child???
Posted: September 06, 2013 at 2:44 PM
Amy S.
I do not understand some nannies/babysitters. When they talk with me everything is fine they are happy but then they tell my husband a completely different story. We have 4 kids and when meeting the nannies I make them aware that my children are very independent and active. We teach our children to have a mind of their own but to respect those that are in charge. The two girls that I have hired tell me that it is great that the kids do well and my kids seem happy so I don't think anything of it but then when my husband is home first the first girl wanted nothing to do with him which is fine but the second would do nothing but complain to him about how hard it was to take care of our kids and that she wasn't getting enough pay (she was a live in) she got room and board paid plus 100 a week for a total of 25 hours that she was required to watch my children. The last few days that she worked for us my kids were not being watched because I would walk in to a torn up house and one day they had even gotten into my room and makeup. I understand my kids are a handful but not enough for you to just ignore them. I feel we were taken advantage of because she moved out while we were gone and when we got home she just said she was done and we never heard from her again.

I understand that some people treat their nannies like slaves but we do not do that I just do not understand why it is so hard to get someone reliable.
Posted: August 28, 2013 at 1:06 PM
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Barbara C.
Rebecca :

Please do not take your terrible experience with that couple to heart. That father is a true ingrate ! Chalk it up to (bitter) experience & try to move on with hope. It is pretty uncommon to be treated so shabbily.

Keep your chin up & don't give up the nanny'ing ! Something tells me that you have a gift for it !

You go, girl !

Barb C.
Posted: August 19, 2013 at 1:46 AM
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Rebecca R.
I worked for a family for nearly a year, and at first it was great. I dealt mostly with the mom. When I had to start dealing more with the father, he was rude, often times very crude and insulting, even bragging about their true income to the point if bragging to his friends in front of me as to how they got a bagain basement deal for a nanny so they could focus more on their lifestyle. I felt so hurt and angry. The mother always covered for him, using the excuse that he did not do well with people when it came down to talking. I felt decieved and lied to, all so they could have the lower rate. I admit it, it has made me more reserved when dealing with people, and that's not my personality, but it affected me very bad to realize they could have, and should have paid much more than they did.
Posted: August 07, 2013 at 1:49 AM
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Victoria C.
I have not had a raise in two years and drive about 900 miles a year with my car to take 3 kids to their activities. When I added up the miles and I found out it was almost 900 miles I feel that I should be compensated for gas. Also my other issue is how it to ask for a raise after two years. Any suggestions on how to go about asking for a raise and gas reimbursement. I started there two years ago and this would be a first raise. Three children: 3, 4 and 7. Hours are: 7:15 to 4:30 4 days a week. Overtime frequently with no pay. There is holiday pay, no sick days. Thank You for your responses.
Posted: June 23, 2013 at 11:11 AM
Lisa L.
i agree with sue...
Posted: June 02, 2013 at 2:25 PM
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Donna M.
I worked for a family that would pay me "to the minute"- Literally, whip out their iPhones and calculate my pay as soon as they walked in the door. I ended up with a handful of change. After all the extra work I did with their child; teaching sign language, filling out daily sheets, using their messy cloth diapers, and not to mention texting throughout the day to give the mom requested pictures and updates- I would've rather she rounded down to the nearest half hour than give me change. It was insulting and made me feel completely unappreciated. It was also extremely uncomfortable for me to tell her that she calculated wrong and shorted me a few times. She would text her husband just to make sure I was telling her the correct time he dropped their child off (even if it was by 10 minutes!) It's not that they didn't have the money- they just liked spending it on other things besides childcare.
So my advice to families would be not to make such a big ordeal out of paying their nanny. It's extremely uncomfortable and makes the nanny feel terrible.
I have a wonderful family now that never makes paying me an issue at all! They make me look forward to everyday with their child:)
Posted: June 02, 2013 at 12:25 PM
Tyler Z.
Its more than a little disconcerting being one of the only male caregivers on this site.
Posted: May 29, 2013 at 11:53 PM
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Shakeera C.
I would be glad when I get to be a nanny .
Posted: May 27, 2013 at 3:12 PM
Elizabeth K.
All five things posted here was said to me. Which is why I quit!!!!! Wish I could email her this now :) can't belive all the hard work I put into there rotten kid and got treated like this. Thanks for posting!
Posted: May 26, 2013 at 8:54 PM
Kearstin S.
I liked reading all of this!!! Very informative :) I am looking for a nanny and nervous about not being able to pay a larger amount. It will be Wed-Fri from 8-5 and I was thinking 150-200 per week. Is that not enough? I'm strapped for cash but want my children to be at home and have care focused on them. I wouldn't expect a lot because I know that doing other tasks while caring for children is hard, sometimes impossible!!! I'm so nervous and excited to hire a nanny who will hopefully bond with my children so that it benefits everyone involved...
Posted: May 25, 2013 at 10:30 PM
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Tara W.
There was a lady I was working for I had the job with her for a while and she told me she couldnt pay me until the following week im like ok i guess that will work. well 2 days before i was supposed to get paid from her i asked her if i could get 20 from my pay to get power well when she came to get her kid and he was potty training i was helping her with him. but when she came to pick him up from me she gave me the money and said thanks for babysitting for me but i need someone who will pay more attention to his potty training then on playing with him. im like woah wait i got a 7 month old i got to take care of as well im sorry that i cant put him on the potty all the time. and i was only getting 20 bucks a day and i had him from 6am to about 4 pm and 20 bucks dont give you crap these days.
Posted: May 21, 2013 at 6:55 PM
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Jenny C.
I've been a caregiver for over 15 years. I have experienced all kinds of scenarios with different families. Good and bad. I have found the families I have worked years for are typically ones who treat me as part of the family. If you are being treated like a servant, I encourage you to find another position. If you are not being paid well, find another position. If they don't offer to provide meals for you while you're there, find another position. If you are not allowed to be in charge when they are gone, find another position. If they don't back up your authority with their children, find another position. There is no perfect family, but there are GREAT ones!! Keep looking, you will find the right fit! Go where you grow, go where you have a voice!

And never ever forget.....

"You is kind. You is smart. You is important."

Kathryn Stockett, The Help
Posted: May 21, 2013 at 12:11 PM
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Dana F.
For Nina D. You should not be taking money out of your paycheck for that much gas. I had a family agree they should pay out of their pockets if they wanted me to take their child on a bus, train, etc. before I took the job, because that is what any organization would do, reimburse you! You need to stand up for yourself. Good luck.
Posted: March 26, 2013 at 11:08 PM
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Shannon J.
I really cant stand when families expect you to clean house,cook meals,do laundry,care for their children then offer you a pay rate of $5 per hour.I have been looking for work on this site for a long time now because at least 80% of people looking for help do not want to pay any kind of real rate.Minimun wage is way more than what most families want to pay.I really believe they should not be able to use this site unless they are willing to pay at least minimum wage.
Posted: March 09, 2013 at 11:16 AM
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Michaela S.
i really enjoyed reading this!
Posted: March 08, 2013 at 7:02 PM
Maria C.
wow good job who ever did this
Posted: March 07, 2013 at 10:30 PM
Lisa S.
Daphne, i just moved into Bonita Springs Fl and I have been a professional nanny also for many years in Baltimore. I can't get a phone call down here. I also read your past posting and it sounds you were lucky to get away from that family.

Good luck with your job search, I hope we both can find a family.
Posted: March 04, 2013 at 2:02 PM
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Daphne D.
I have been doing applications for a long time for so many families what is it I'm a great nanny but I feel like I'm being over looked.
Posted: March 03, 2013 at 8:16 PM
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Daphne D.
I love being a nanny I love children and I do my best to be a great nanny I go over and beyond for these families and they don't appreciate you.. I started work for this lady in September 17, 2012 of last year she told me that she would be going to work on the 17 of September however when I got there on that Monday mourning she told me she was going to work from her office I thought ok then I noticed everyday she said she would be working in her office and then her husband was there weeks at a time they didn't tell me this at first, however she asked me to be a nanny and then I found her asking me to bath the dog, wash er furniture off, wash all there clothes, sweep the floor, empty the trash, check there mailbox, water there flowers, she even bought a dresser that weighs over a hundred pounds and ask me to help her carry it in the house. Her housekeepers came one day and they took out 7 rugs and she asked me to put them back in the house mind you this is a 3 story house. Not to mention her husband asked me to wash his tennis shoes on my hands.. And then on top of that right before Thanksgiving she fired me for no reason at all. She asked me atnthemlast minute to work for her on a Friday I told her I had a previous engagement and she got mad. She ask me to come in on that Monday and when I got there her husband acted like he didn't know I was suppose to come in so I left she sent me a text and told me that she didn't think I was a perfect fit for her family!! This lady was crazy shemwasmalwaysmin my ear telling me crazy stuff about her baby I have been a nanny for 3 years and never ever had a problem... Then she sent me a w-2 form said she paid me 5,645 dollars and I didn't fill out any paper work this lady and her husband are a fraud and there using people. So please do not work for her ever.
Posted: March 03, 2013 at 8:12 PM
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Jane K.
Parents and Nannies must have a clear description in writing either on paper or in an email that states the Nanny's job description.

I encourage every Nanny reading this to promote your value in terms of your hourly rate to include all the transportation costs involved. There are families who can afford to reimburse Nannies for having a car and yet I have found if I do not require the hourly rate to cover my expenses the family will not offer to pay me more! Generally, the families I work for pay me for a day off that was scheduled but then the family changed my hours; the families I work for round up when they pay me almost all the time. This career is paying me half of what I made prior to the recession, however, this is low stress and most families who hire me are way more appreciative of my skill set than any business or company I ever met was. To finding the win/win for each of you...Jane
Posted: February 28, 2013 at 1:40 PM
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Desley M.
What do you do if you find yourself in an awkward position when the parents ask you to do their own personal laundry and you find yourself handling or cleaning their underware?
Posted: February 26, 2013 at 8:20 AM
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Elizabeth S.
I am a professional with a Master of Education degree specializing in Montessori education of infants and toddlers. I prefer to work in homes rather than schools because I can meet the children's needs better. I am annoyed when a family tells me that they can find someone to work for cheaper than my rate. I feel like telling them that if they would like to take their children to a babysitter they are welcome to do so. I'll help educate their children while caring for them in their own home, so I need families who respect that this extra work is more valuable than just babysitting.
Posted: February 20, 2013 at 8:38 AM
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Loretta A.
I have been a nanny for many years always with professional families. We start with a contract that we both agree to. I have not been asked to do housework, etc. I have, on my own, filled and/or unloaded the dishwasher. They have not asked me to do this but have thanked me at the end of the day.

I have seen ads on this site and others where parents want you to do child care,light housekeeping, let the dog out, pick up older children from school, etc and then offer 8 to 10 dollars an hour. Most nannies do not go to school and get a degree to clean house. ALL nannies should have a contract before starting with a family.

My pet peeve is when parents come home late on a regular basis. I arrive on time(usually early) and I'd like to leave on time.
Posted: February 20, 2013 at 12:14 AM
Nina D.
I love being a nanny! However when a family splits up they tend to forget about all these changes being ok with the nanny. I not only have to go from one house to the others several times a week. Which half the time plans change daily but now am expected to drive 25 minutes just to get the kids to school. In between drop off's and pick up's I am driving almost three hours a day! They feel they pay me enough but how would they feel if their boss expected them to use half their paycheck for office supplies. Now I did agree to take the youngest to preschool when I was hired but then it was five minutes down the street and paying for that gas is not a problem. They are now asking for me to go pick up stuff from each others homes so they do not have to see one another. I understand it is a hard time but please do not expect your nanny to pick up the slack of your family. We care otherwise we would not be there but it is not fair to us! Offer extra money if you are going to expect so much more. It is only fair! Most of us do not care to do it even without extra pay but at least ask first do not just expect it!
Posted: February 19, 2013 at 11:04 PM
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Joyce P.
I love my family I work with. However, I feel cheated all the time. They tell me they don't want to lose me but at the same time they pay me no more than a teenager at McDonald's. I take care if and help educate their little one, helped potty train, read, do crafts, cook, clean up after her, fold and put away laundry, empty the dish washer and travel 25 miles twice a week to pick her up at school. They do pay me when they take vacation or I'm not needed. Also, they have had to take off occasionally for sickness or hospital stays and they paid me. Am I wrong or right in feeling shorted?
Posted: February 19, 2013 at 7:33 PM
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Lillian S.
I was a professional nanny for three years in Princeton New Jersey. One of the biggest "pet peeves" I have is being treated like a servant. I choose to be a nanny even though I have a degree and could make twice as much. Being a nanny makes me "bounce" out of bed in the morning. Why would anyone take that for granted?
Posted: February 18, 2013 at 11:19 AM
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Nicole P.
as a nanny i worked for a family and lived with them it was clear from the beginning that i was to clean up after the children and myself however a mess was never left for me after my days off that would be rude
Posted: February 13, 2013 at 2:18 PM
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Sue D.
It is rude to comment to your Nanny how it is cheaper for care in other States compared to what they pay you.

Leaving parents dishes and child laundry build up over the weekend expecting you to handle cleanup Monday morning.

If parents really wish to improve communication then respect your Nanny. The parent wouldnt like their employer treating them that way.
Posted: February 12, 2013 at 4:20 PM
Stanja P.
Very informative article. Thank you.
Posted: February 12, 2013 at 2:03 PM
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