Care.com Interview with Carley Roney: My Work-Life Balance
We asked the co-founder The Knot and Editor-in-Chief of TheBump.com to give advice to fellow working moms.
What is your childcare situation-and how is your spouse involved?
Havana is my 14-year-old daughter and Cairo, 7 years old, and Dublin, now 3, are my two sons. My amazing nanny Sue is my savior. I don't know what I'd do without her! [My husband] David also helps with the kids and loves to stay in, order food, and watch movies with them. We both agree that there's no such thing as spoiling your children with too much time or attention.
The word "balance" has become taboo due to overuse, but for good reason: What is your favorite working mom time-management tip?
My secret to survival is that when I'm home, I'm home. If I'm home and my kids are awake, I'm 100% there. I completely shut off the e-mail, Blackberry, cell phone, etc. But when they go to bed, the work me turns on again.
If you can't do it all-but everything feels important-how do you choose what to let slide?
You definitely can't do it all, and things will slide, but it's important to split responsibilities with your partner. We recently conducted a survey on TheBump.com and ForbesWoman.com that found that 92% of working moms feel overwhelmed by work, home and parenting responsibilities. Take a business-minded approach at home. Lay out all the tasks by day, week, and month, and make clear who, between yourself and your husband, is accountable for them. Also, make confirmed plans for yourself and stick to them. Set aside scheduled time to do the things you love; for example, take a bath every Thursday and tell your husband you need that "me" time from 7-7:30, so he'll have to watch the kids.
Can women have it all?
It's ingrained in most of us to want to be Super Moms and that feeling is especially felt by working moms who feel the added guilt of being away from their children for a number of hours each day. But you have to accept that you can't do everything and be in 10 different places at once. If the laundry has to wait one more day or you order pizza for dinner instead of cooking, it's not the end of the world. It's not easy to have a career and a family, but it's not impossible either. Accepting that you'll never be the perfect mom is key to having a happy balance.
What else would you like to say to fellow working moms?
Relax and trust your instincts. Even though I am in the advice business, I think that moms can feel and know deep down inside what's right for them and their kids. Mostly when they consult books or come online they are looking for someone to validate their feelings. Still reach out to friends and community because it is important to have many points of view, but only you can know what's best for balancing your working and home life.
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