Care.com Interview Series: The Discipline Mistakes I've Made

6 mom bloggers share their real life triumphs and tribulations in the sometimes scary, sometimes hilarious world of discipline.

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It's high noon, and you're in a standoff fit for the movies. The villain? Your misbehaving child. And he's heading for his first victim -- your couch. He makes a move. You make yours. But it's too late -- an explosion of peanut butter and jelly has been imbedded into your furniture. R.I.P white couch. What's your response? Yell? Laugh? Cry? Post on Facebook?

Disciplining kids is a full time job, and sometimes we just don't react how we wish we would. Exhaustion can lead to yelling too much, or not enough. We've all been there and we're all bound to make mistakes. Care.com talked to five of our favorite mom bloggers about the discipline mistakes they've made. The good news? Everyone's survived so far. Here are some highlights from their bloopers-reels.

  1. "I think sending the kids to their room as punishment sort of backfired because they have all their toys in their room, it's the best place they can be, they're alone playing with all their stuff and I think that was pretty ineffective as a consequence to doing something wrong." - Jill Smokler, Scary Mommy

    Find out why Jill says she ignores her kids

  2. "All I can think of is how cute he sounds when he says 'Dammit.' We don't actually discipline him for it. It's wrong...but sometimes I can't stop laughing." - Julie Feinstein Adams, The Calm Before the Stork

    See why Julie has learned to give herself time-outs too

  3. "Some of the comments just make me have to turn away and laugh, like when my 3-year-old told me, 'No Mommy, you're a bad girl for yelling at me!'" - Renee Martinez, Raising Boys World

    Learn how Renee maintains order with four boys and why she never counts to three

  4. "Don't threaten to spank. Even though my kids have never been spanked, I have been known to threaten on occasion. My younger daughter seemed to take this to mean it is okay to hit people (which it is not in case you were wondering)."-- Anne Albanese, Small Town Mommy

    Read why taking away TV rights might be one of Anne's biggest discipline mistakes

  5. "He had pooped in the video store and there was a poop nugget on the floor next to his foot! I went up to the front desk and asked for paper towels because my son "needed to spit out his gum". Yeah, I lied. I was NOT about to tell them I needed to pick up a turd out of their floor!" - Heather Beckley, Homemade Mom

    See why Heather doesn't believe in sending any kid to their room for punishment

  6. "One day I was yelling at the boys about farting at the table while we eat dinner and just then I let out huge one myself...oops." - Holly Waligora, Holly's House

    See how Holly handles public tantrums that seem to last forever

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Comments (4)
J M.
One of the most effective ways I found to dicipline my children, when they were fighting, was the "nose on the wall" method. I have two sets of twins, one set is 30 years old now and the other set will be 18. When they were little and hitting or fighting they both had to stand with their noses on the wall. The first child had to give the second permission to "get off" the wall and visa versa. If they were really angry they made each other stand there for 20 minutes or more. Usually they talked and asked for forgiveness, apologize and worked it out, or they just had to stand there. I monitored the entire thing, and everything had to be settled before they could take their noses off the wall. They had to stand far enough away they could not touch each other. It did work well for diffusing the situation and letting them work out their own problems. Incidentially, they do grow out of it. Help them learn to be peacemakers and tolerant of others. This is a life skill that will be of great value.
Posted: June 06, 2012 at 1:34 PM
Jake
what is the prevailing rate per hour for Nannies/Babysitters in Maryland, particularly in the Bethesda area?
Posted: June 04, 2012 at 11:04 PM
Heather Beckley
This was such a fun series!!! I'm so honored to have been able to participate! Thank you Care.com!
Posted: May 05, 2012 at 5:12 PM
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Elyssa R.
Honestly parents try to be friends instead of parents and its sad when the kid is about 10 thden its time to be friends but before that you need to train them the RIGHT way.......if you are firm with your kids but nice they will love you and youlll have their respect....ive never hit my kids but they are afraid of me and they know when is fun time and when its time to be serious.....
Posted: May 04, 2012 at 3:03 PM
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