Care Stages: How Does My Teenager Grow? Ages 13-18

The teen years are full of discovery about bodies, emerging personalities and life. Whether your teenager is athletic, musical, shy, confident, or comprises a mix of many characteristics, it's important to be aware of the normal developments that come about in 13- to 18-year-olds.

Puberty

Your child will learn about expected body changes from friends and in school, but it's important to keep the lines of communication open. Let your teens know that you'll listen to any problem or concern without judging them.

Part-time jobs

Most teenagers find a part-time job to pay for clothing, movies, or college. Make sure you, your partner, and teen are aware of workplace safety laws via the government's Youth Worker Safety & Healthy information.

Drugs

• According to NIDA (the National Institute on Drug Abuse), illicit drugs are used by 23% of the 12th grade student population.
• If you detect a problem, you can call the National Clearinghouse for Drug and Alcohol Information at 1-800-788-2800 for pamphlets and information.
• To discourage drug use, talk to your teen, know who her friends are, be aware of where she's going, who she's hanging out with, and be available to listen.
• It's important to speak to your teen in a calm and loving manner. Explain why you feel he might have a drug or alcohol problem and define clear house rules and expectations.

Dating

• During or after puberty, your teens may suddenly become interested in the opposite (or same) sex. They may even want to go on dates, ask someone to the prom, or head to the movies with a new crush.
• By establishing firm rules -- where she can and cannot go,what time she needs to be home, to always treat her date with respect and to respect herself-- you can help your teen's dating years get off to a great start.

Sleep

• Sleep may be a big issue at this age. Some parents worry that their teen spends too much time sleeping. Others believe that their child doesn't sleep enough. According to KidsHealth.org, teens actually need 8 to 9.5 hours of sleep each night. Without enough shut-eye, your teen's health could suffer. Try to ensure she hits the sack and gets the required amount of sleep as often as possible.

College Bound

• Of course, the pressure to get into college mounts as teens get older. Volunteering and applying for college can lead to stress and have subsequent physical or psychological effects.
• In most cases, teens need to be reminded that doing their best is all they can do; it doesn't help to push your teenager to the breaking point.
• Help your child by researching the best colleges for her, breaking down application tasks, and talking to her about her hopes and fears for college.

Lisa Tabachnick Hotta is the mother of two young children and a freelance writer, editor and researcher.